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Kat,

I just lost our son at 20 weeks on march 27, 2009 so I feel your pain. I wanted to tell you naming your daughter if you have not yet does help. It lets you feel her as a person and talk to her. We are planting a tree so we can watch it grow, and a tree can be moved were every you move so she will always be with you.

The only way I seem to deal with this is to tell my self it was better for my son, he obviously was sick in some way and that this was a blessing for him. I had a friend loose her child at delivery with a still birth and seeing that tells me things could of been so much worse for these babies.

Just honor your daughter by giving her a name and speak to her through your heart, I picked up a stuffed animal and that is his, so when I get tormented with pain I hold it and know he will always be apart of me.

It is okay to hurt

Jenn

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