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I fond this board back in early '06. I had just had my 2nd m/c and was devastated. My dh and I had tried to get pregnant in late '05 and had lost that baby. I had seen the doctor and was told after a couple months it was fine to try again. In Feb of'06 I got pregnant a 2nd time. I was a little nervous but told myself that everything would be fine. I mean what were the chances of it happening again? You read all the time about how common a m/c is but you don't hear about how common multiple m/c's are. For 3 weeks I was thrilled and over the moon, excited about this new little baby that I already loved. And then it happened -again. I was devastated. For the 1st week all I could do was cry. For the 1st month I cried multiple times a day. For the 1st 3 months I cried multiple times a week. It was hard. Probably the hardest thing I've ever gone through. Not only did I have the pain of loosing the pregnancy but the fear that perhaps I would never be able to have a child. In July of '06 I found out for the 3rd time that we were once again expecting. It was never racking. I was terrified that every time I went to the bathroom there was going to be blood. I was terrified at every doc's apt (until I got far enough along to feel her moving), that they wouldn't fine a heart beat and she'd be gone. I made the doc give me a really early u/s (6w's) and had them check my HCG and progesterone levels. I was an emotional wreck. However, despite my worried and my 2 back to back m/c's all was fine. My dd was born a healthy 7lbs 12oz at 1 day short of her due date, April 4th '07. It was amazing. I have sense gone on to have another dd born July of'08 w/o any problems. Both pregnancies went great. Although I had a lot of physical pain w/ my 1st pregnancy and was physically sick through out most of it, and then had pregnancy related depression during my 2nd dd's pregnancy, medically both of the pregnancies themselves have gone great. My dd's are lovely healthy children and PROOF to all that even after consecutive m/c's you can go on to have healthy wonderful children.
I found out after my m/c's that 2 m/c's are not that uncommon. I can list at least a 1/2 doz ppl who have said to me in the last couple yrs "Oh, you had 2m/c's? I did too." All these ppl have children and all these ppl were just ppl who in passing it some how came up. How many more ppl are there out there who I know, that it's just never come up, but who have also suffered m/c's? I'm sure the number is not low. So to all the girls who are going through this, know that a m/c doesn't mean the end of your chance at having children. They are so so common. Don't give up hope. You can go on to have a baby, and in almost all cases you will. You are not alone. Many women have been where you are. As one who has been there please take my word when I say, you're babies that you lost will never be replaces and you will always have a scar from their loss, but it does heal. It wont always hurt the way it does now. Give it time. Allow yourself to cry and grieve. You'll get through this and the chances are that you will one day hold a child, who can never replace the one you lost but who you will love just as much and who is your baby in your arms. Hugs and prayers for all. There is hope!

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