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Oh, ALlie, I am so sorry. ARe they sure? I remember that Christie's docs made her come back days later for another u/s to be sure. I don't blame you about the "at east you know you can get pregnant" comment. That only helps the first time around after you have had time to settle in. WHen you start having multiple m/c that means sh@$ because as you said, what you care about is STAYING pregnant. It is probably along the same lines of hurt as the people who tell someone who already has kids, at least you already have kids. It doesn't erase te hurt of losing the new one. But people are stupid. They (we) think that they have to say something when the truth is it is best to say as little as possible and just listen. I really hope that you and Christie will both get pregnant again and stay pregnant because you will both be wonderful moms and heaven knows you will appreciate the gift. And Christie I can understand that feeling of "am I ready for this"? as I think all of us can. It is so scary becasue as much as we want it the fear of being hurt so deeply is right there just looming. Lavendar & Cbella - welcome and so sorry for your losses.It is always nice to meet everyone but I often think how nice it would have been had we all been meeting on the 1st trimester thread under a happier note. But the good news is that there are happier notes ahead for all of us. I know we keep throwing up Daniella as our big example, but I think she hit the most hurdles - 3 m/c's including an ectopic that almost killed her - and she just gave birth to a healthy boy. Her little guy is proof that it can and will happen for us, and all things are possible. As for the clomid - that is a pretty powerful drug, and while it has helped many women, I think that a lot of things should be considered first, such as age, length of time trying,feritility issues and so forth. It also has some serious side effects, which is why I wouldn't use it unless the docs had definitley determined I had a serious fertility problem that couldn't be solved otherwise. Daniella- I have heard the same thing about breastfeeding and ovulation. But be careful - i kneaw number of kids growing up who were 9-11months apart - they used to call that "Irish twins." (hope that is not offensive to anyone!). Of course, breast feeding wasnot in vogue in the states when I was a babe,so we can't chalk it up to that! MY oldest brother and sister are 14 months apart and mom said she was havign post-partum and morning sickness at the same time and wanted to jump out a window! Bee - I am fine with your "violent imagery" as i am much the same. I would always say things like "My parents woudl knock my teth down my throat if I did that" or I want to "smack him/her upside the head" but since I started teaching I had to tone that down and save it for out of class as I don't want anyone to misunderstand.

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