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I have the same question that started this thread...
I am very inspired by the stories of women here getting naturally pregnant at 43, 44, 45 and beyond. I am 43 and have deeply wanted a baby since I got together with my partner at age 36. He didn't want another child (he had 4 grown already by a previous marriage) but reluctantly said 'maybe' and 'yes' (while we never actually got around to it) enough times to keep me hanging on (ultimately, foolishly) for many years. He was ambivalent, then he said no. This all took a lot of time.
I did get pregnant accidentally at age 40 and it was ectopic, so now I have that risk too. Finally we broke up and by now I have lost many year of fertility. We love each other and have been off and on, but if I wanted a child I should have gone for it on my own years ago. Now I know the door is closing and I desperately want to try.
I have been reading many books, and online resources, and it's such a mix--some are encouraging/inspiring, some are depressing and scary. (Just regarding the possibility of it ever happening, let alone thinking about doing it alone and with donor sperm and with fertility intervention...)
I have regular periods (every 28) and ovulate and am super healthy, but "they" say regular periods don't mean anything about fertility.
I was looking for support and any/all advice about where to start. What next, what to check, who to talk to. I have a lot of books on single motherhood and the issues but I guess I also need to think about what's physically possible for me. i REALLY want to have a biological child with my own eggs though I will consider adoption in the end.
I just don't want to believe it's all over...I know that I waited WAY too long, but I so want there to be still a chance.

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