Hello worried mom! I can understa...

Serephina - August 14th, 2009 12:21 AM
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Hello worried mom!
I can understand your frustrations totally! I had a similar situation happen nearly 4 years ago with my son (who happens to be super healthy and happy)! I was 36 weeks when I "found" out from a new doctor in my group. I questioned them at the next visit and their answer soothed me. My doctors told me that they seldom worry moms these days with the news of a "EIF" as it is just one marker for a genetic abnormality..they assured me that if they had more than one marker (such as a shorter size of the finger digits or the measurement of the forehead)that it would have been disclosed and that one marker is not a true sign to worry. I took comfort in this and even more comfort when my son was born...I hope this puts your mind at as much ease as possible!

worried_mom_to_be - August 14th, 2009 1:35 AM

Thanks for your comforting words Serephina. I know that probably I'm blowing the whole thing a bit out of proportion, but I can't help feeling this knot in my throat at this time. I kept my cool after the appt, but I have been crying ever since I got home. I've been avoiding my husband and ignoring calls because I don't want to worry them with my fears, since everyone is so happy and excited for the baby's arrival. I too have been eagerly waiting for her to come into this world, but this whole EIF issue I never knew about has somehow created a bit of sadness in me, as well as angry feelings towards my Drs. Maybe it is just added anxiety I'm not handling very well. I will have another appt next week with one of the "old" Drs, and will ask about the reason why the findings were not discussed with me. Hopefully he can put me at ease, but I somehow fear that I will be too upset at that point to handle things nicely.
No matter what happens, I love this baby unconditionally, but this is still nerve-wrecking!

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