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I laughed as I read your post, not because your situation is funny, but because it is UNIVERSAL!! I have to agree with all the other posters, too. I run a daycare from my home, and it is HARD work. I'm exhausted at the end of every day, but the little ones are worth it. That being said - I had to learn how to be DIRECT with people. I used to be really nice and meek, and it was pretty easy to walk all over me because I was such a people pleaser. Friends would want to leave kids with me, because I was at home. Then they would assume that because we are friends that they didn't have to pay. Other people would tell me they could pay me at the end of the week, then not show up on Friday, or send the kid with a grandparent who wouldn't know anything about it. I could tell you a thousand similar stories. I finally just made the decision (it was a new years resolution, actually) to learn to be direct, no matter what. I tell people exactly what I expect from them and exactly what I can give. I am firm, but also kind. It has changed my life!! that sounds cheesy, but if I look back on the quiet sufferer that i used to be, I don't know how I put up with it. Sure, some people now think I'm a b!tc&, but I can genuinely say that I'm better off without them in my life. So here's my advice (if you want it, scrap it if you don't! :) The next time someone asks you to do something you don't want to do, be direct and say, "I wish i could, but I just don't have the time or energy." And if they are rude enough to ask what you have to do that's so important, give them a list. Or tell them it's so complicated that they wouldn't understand. And if that's too aggressive, you could just avoid their calls (thank goodness for caller ID).

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