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Cap, I very rarely post on the teen forum, but your post touched me. I'm not going to be one to talk about "waiting until you're older and more mature" because I got married when I was almost 19 and 9 months later we got pregnant. I do believe in keeping sex for marriage, but I'm not posting to rag on that with you either. I just wanted to encourage you. Your fiancee sounds like a keeper in that he desires to work hard and provide for his family, but why does he want to destroy this life you two have created? I understand his wanting to know he can fully provide for the baby, but it sounds like you have enough to afford this baby with what you have now, let alone when he gets his full-time position. If it helps, when my husband and I got married he was going to school full-time and due to the hours his schedule was arranged and us only having one vehicle, he didn't have a full-time job. Only random handyman jobs. I ran a daycare from my home that just barely made the bills and yet we had our baby and never lacked to provide for him, without any aide. Times have improved and now he has a great job, we have cash to spare and I'm able to stay home with our (now) two children. I say this to say that it may seem right now like it won't work, but you can do it! This baby wasn't an accident. Considering you thought you'd never be able to have children, I'd say this little one is twice the miracle! I think your fiancee is feeling very shaky as to being able to provide and what he may need is for you to tell him what a great man/provider he is and affirm him. Guys take their protector/provider role very seriously and to see you constant and unwavering in your faith in him to take care of you and the baby will make a world of difference. Keep in mind too that you just told him. It'll take a little while for it to sink in for him. I know it's hard when things feel so crazy right now, but keep a smile on your face and be happy about this life. Congratulations! Make sure you make an appointment with your doctor and start taking some prenatal vitamins now. BTW, no, no one is ever ready. You become ready. Don't be scared, you'll be a great mommy and I'm sure your man will be a wonderful father. Let him freely share his thoughts and concerns with you because he'll need to work it out in his head and it'll go much easier if he doesn't feel like you're an emotion wreck while he's talking. Guys have to solve problems and "fix" everything they come in contact with, so just help him see that the baby is NOT a problem and that it'll work out. My apologies for MY novel and I hope that I was able to offer some insight. :)

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