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Tara: hi there...and thanks for thinking about me. I did get good news yesterday. I saw a heartbeat...and the measurement was just two days off (too small) which I guess it fine. But, it's just not making me feel too much better...I guess because I had this same "positive" u/s last time. And, both of my miscarriages were later...so I'm not surprised by this. However...I'm trying to get myself in a better mental place. Enjoy...be positive...and deal if things take a turn. At this point, I think I am most scared of losing this baby so late like last time. But, like I say, I'm trying.
Ovulating already. Of course it's a personal decision only you can make...but I think I would go for it. The end result will be worth it...all the pain...and there is every reason to think at this point that all will be fine next time. Two miscarriages in a row, unfortunately, are so common...and usually women do go on to have successful pregnancies. Mine are backwords...but I've had two also...but first had two successful pregnancies. I know it's hard...but worth it. I always tried right away (or as soon as the dr. said was OK...this last time i had to wait a bit b/c of being 16 weeks). I'm sorry that you're feeling a distance with your husband...that's hard, but so normal. I think just do your best to continue to try to talk abou it. That always the best...althought not always easy either. Especially to really get the dialogue started. You two need each other. At this point there is no reason not to assume your next pregnancy won't go perfectly. You can do it. However, obviously if your gut tells you that you're not ready...than follow that. How does you husband feel about trying now? I can so relate to the envy also...please don't get down on yourself...it's just impossible not to feel that. So normal...how could we not have those feelings? We all do. With both of my miscarriages I had a friend pregnant at about the same time...and even those babies are/will be such a reminder. I think those are two of the hardest things at this difficult time...babies and pregnant women. And, of course, everywhere you look you see them!! Sometimes amost unbearable. But that's part of the reason I think you just need to go for it...I think it will happen for you...and, the risk is still worth it! As hard as it is...it will be worth it. Keep me posted...and try do bridge the gap with you husband. I think things will feel better when that starts to heal... Yes, I agree our little support group of three is very helpful. I hope something I said is a little helpful...one never knows what to say, how to help....I wish there were those magical words...or guarantees.

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