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Cate: Thanks for checking in...I'm right there with you, holding my breath. I know every little thing must be really scary, I remember during my second pregnacy, I used to run to the bathroom looking for blood with every little feeling of wetness...drove my husband crazy. It may be that you won't feel at fully ease until after 16 weeks. Personally, I think we never stop mourning the loss of our unborn babies, and maybe there may even be some unconsious guilt about being (too) happy we are pregnant again and/or not feeling bad enough about the
one(s) we lost. I think that was part of what I went through. It's so hard to fully mourn the loss of an unborn, maybe we never really can, I don't know. Just know, Cate, that what you are feeling, all the fear, all the panic, all the worry has to do with your amazing capacity to unconditionally love another being. That capacity is something to rejoice about, whatever happens. Also, that you come into this forum and help all the women who have experienced similar losses...that we all have compassion for each other's suffering is so wonderful. And know that in helping others, we help ourselves heal. Praying for the wellbeing of others, that no woman will have to suffer the hurt we feel or have felt, is the best medicine. Sending you, and all who read this golden rays of healing lite.

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