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Reading all of these stories makes me so angry inside. When did it become ok for doctors to be so impersonal and to take it upon themselves to give pregnant women that are having problems no hope. I understand that they need to give the facts, but they could also be sensitive to how you are feeling. I am writing from personal experience with both my son and with the pregnancy that I am in right now. When I was pregnant with my son, I had taken a triple test in which they tested my baby for chances of down syndrome. The results that came back were not very promising according to the doctor. She called me up at home and told me over the phone that there was a very good chance that my child had down syndromw and that I should get a amnio as soon as possible to confirm this. I got off the phone and I thought I was going to die. I could not even compose myself enough to call my husband to come and be with me. The end result was that I decided not to do the amnio because it carries a fairly high chance of a miscarriage and I knew that I would love that baby no matter what. Well guess what, he came out absolutely perfect. I am now pregnant with my second child and I am already getting the same type of treatment from the doctor. I am only in my fifth week, and I am having pains in my right side. The first time that I called the office, they blew me off saying it was probably muscle pain. Two days later I called back telling them that the pain was not going away. They sent me for a ultrasound to rule out an ectopic pregnancy, and they found nothing in either my uterus or my fallopian tubes. The doctor then proceeded to ask me if perhaps my periods could just be off. I then asked her what else could be causing a false pregnany test if I was not pregnant. I also added that her office had done a test themselves and determined that I was pregnant. She proceeded to tell me all the negative things that could be going on, but I do not recall her saying or it could be nothing to worry about. I then did a blood test and found out that the hCG level in my blood was less than a thousand and that is why they did not see anything yet becasue the level has to be at least over a 1000 for them to see anything. I have to go back for further testing because at this point I am no further to the truth than I was yesterday. I guess my point is that along with medical school, they should require baby doctors to take a course in empathy because they really suck at it.

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