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Sandra-I got sick to my stomach when I read your update. I am soo sorry. I have been through two misscarriages and it is so hard to deal with-especially since, like you said, you already saw the heartbeat. Sandra, if you have a choice, I would recommend going through a natural misscarriage. The reason I say this is I have went through it each way and it was twenty times harder on me mentally and physically to have a D&C than to have it happen naturally. Your body doesn't have time to adjust to the drastic and quick hormone change, one minute you are pregnant and the next you are not. Not only was I violentlly ill after my D&C but mentally it was so much harder to deal with. For exactly the same reason, your mind and heart thinks you are still pregnant but your body isn't and for me, it was just so much harder to get over the misscarriage with a D&C. You of course need to do whatever you feel is right for you. I just want you to be prepared for some of these things if this is the way you decide to go. Also, you are going to feel so alone at times and it is so important to have support. Do not feel bad for crying or being depressed or even if you aren't crying and aren't depressed, don't feel bad for that either. Every woman handles this differently. It is just so important to talk to someone about how you feel because it really does help the mental healing and I truly believe if you are mentally healthier, then your body will follow and get better quicker for you and your hubby to try again. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Sandra. God bless you and your husband both. Thank you for your words for me. I think it was so nice of you to offer words of encouragement to me when you have this to deal with. Anyways, please keep in touch and let me know, if you decide to have the surgery, how it goes.

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