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Unfortunately guys can be this way at the beginning. I felt as if my bf didn't help at first either, and I was also attending school full time. It's new for both of you and you have to get used to it together. If he says you're the only one that he wants to be with, then he probably means it. He probably does want to marry you, but he's not ready. To us marriage is different than it is to them.... he may not be ready to give up his freedom of coming and going whenever he wants. Although, If this type of behavior persists and you still feel the same way after 4-5 months, then it may end up being a problem. A lot of guys think it's mostly our job to care for the baby, but he should be showing more interest in interacting with the baby when she gets a little older (5-6 months). I had to just get used to it, because they don't understand how much work it is for us, especially with school, work, cleaning, and cooking then on top of all that raising a baby. And don't drop hints, because he may not even be getting it, as silly as it sounds. Be real with him and tell him straight up that you have to run errands and it's difficult to always take the baby with you so you need him to watch her. You need to work around eachothers schedule, but it has to be done. Try to be understanding and discuss your feelings with him as much as possible when you're in a good mood. If you're upset, wait to cool down to talk. I hope this helps. I know how you feel because I went through the same thing and now that our son is almost 7 months old, it's getting better.

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