20 IS NOT TOO YOUNG

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sarahd87 - November 7

I AM 20 IN 2WEEKS TIME,MY PARTNER AND I ARE GOING TO START TRYING AGAIN FOR A BABY IN JANUARY.WE ARE CURRENTLY BUYING OUR SECOND HOME TOGETHER AND LOST TWINS AT 3 MONTHS WHEN I WAS 17, WHAT I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IS HOW ANYONE CAN SAY THAT I AM NOT OLD TO HAVE A CHILD WHEN I AM OLD ENOUGH TO OWN MY OWN HOUSE AND CAN LOOK AFTER EVERYONE IN IT.

 

lastchance - November 7

20 here also... Some of the girls our age, okay most of the girls our age, are hardly able to take care of themselves... and a baby is really out of the question... so they kinda ruin it for everyone... to me, it sounds like you are ready... but I know a few girls our age who think they are ready, and I KNOW that they are not... When you can provide for a baby, have a partner who is going to be there for you, and the baby, when you are ready to give up your social life - me I have none outside of the home with my love- and when you are truly able to loose all of that selfishness and dedicate your life to your child's well being...THEN YOU CAN HAVE A BABY NO MATTER WHAT AGE YOU ARE! (not to the kids that live at home.. sorry, despite what you think you meet NONE of those requirements) Thats what I have to say...

 

sphinx - November 8

I think its more about maturity, not age. It sounds like your maturity is higher than 20! Good luck with your baby-making and don't worry so much about what other people think!

 

newlywed0915 - November 21

You go girls! Congrats on the home Sarah! I'm 21, newly married, and pregnant! Whoo hoo!!!!!

 

Teddyfinch - November 24

age isn't anything but a number. if you act mature enough to have a baby, then that's really all that matters.

 

claudia21 - November 24

Well maybe your like a rich girl to own a second home...

 

Teddyfinch - November 24

claudie: are you serious? it sounds like you're either amazed or poking at her for being able to buy her second home. we don't need c___p like that. bye now.

 

MissesBee - December 19

You are too young period!!! You grow up so much from 20-30. You have soooo much time to have a family, why rush? People who are 21 and married have the highest divorce rate.. it is just insane to me that a 20 year old would even think being a mom at that age is the right thing to do!!!

 

misundastQQd - December 19

People speak for themselves. I am 20 , engaged to a wonderful man and we are 10 weeks pregnant. We have no financial difficulties, and 20 is the perfect age to get pregnant. It's not like you want to be a dang GRANDMA giving birth.

 

Hopeful3 - December 22

Everyone needs to realize that statistics aren't always right. My husband and I were married when we were both 20. We have struggled with fertility problems throughout our marriage, but that has only made our bond stronger. We have been married for 5 years and have never spent a night apart or slept in separate rooms. We bought our house at 22 and are still going strong. Also, we only knew each other for 3 months when we married, and everyone predicted failure. Statistics are not always right!! Age does not predict what kind of parent you are going to be.

 

blackandwhite - December 23

Misses I think that is a completely incorrect a__sumption to make... I get SO TIRED of hearing that you have "so much time" to have a family or get married... you never know when your last day on Earth is, and I think if Sarah thinks that she is able to give a baby a wonderful home then more power to her. And as far as marriage, there are plenty of people that get married at 30 that have just as high divorce rates as those 21 yr olds that get married!! GOOD LUCK TO YOU SARAH, AND IF YOU ARE HONESTLY READY FOR A CHILD, I HOPE YOU GET ONE!

 

Misti - December 27

just because some one who is 20 wants to concive dont mean they are wrong a 20 yr old has the same right as a 35 yr old to have children.

 

sarah87 - December 30

I feel as long as you are emotionally and mentality ready for this child then go for it. You sound extremely mature you are not too young you know yourself....no one i know ever regretted having a child..... you will always find a way, good luck trying xxxxx

 

Teddyfinch - January 1

there isn't anything wrong with having a baby at 20. for some women, they aren't ready at 20 and for some women, they are too old at 30. it all depends on the person. if they can afford to feed and cloth and house the baby, then they are ready. MissesBee, that is your opinion. sarah87, i think you're also sarahd87 and answering yourself is strange. but that's beside the point! statistics are poop. my hubby and i are going on 3 years married in march, we've known each other for around 6 years, dated officially for 3 months. oh and we met on the internet. (not a dating service. we're online game nerds) so statistic followers can stick that in their nose =P

 

sarah87 - January 1

teddyfinch i am not sarahd87 i am sarah87 - similar i know i didnt realise sarahd87 existed when i chose my name..sorry to confuse x

 

LinsTwin - January 28

Money doesn't necessarily make you ready to have a child; there are a lot of factors that go into such a decision. See Carmensmom's great post, for a great example. Now, I don't mean any disrespect, but I'm hesitant to believe someone who says they're almost 20 and buying their second home. My dh and I make nearly 4x the median U.S. income, and we're just buying our second home, 10 years after buying the first. At 20, I'm just not sure how you could have acc_mulated near enough credit yet to even qualify for a home. Do you live in a depressed area? Do your homes have wheels? Is your partner significantly older than you? Is he independently wealthy? Do you have a large inheritance? Don't mean to be rude or nosy, just curious!

 

mtrose - January 28

LinsTwin, you must not be great with money because I bought my first house with my husband when I was 19 and we both only had part time jobs. It is a 4 bedroom house and it isn't in an extremely cheep place to live the house cost 125,000 and let me reinforce we both only had part time jobs. Now that we have full time jobs we have already paid off the 20% that we can in a year and at this rate we will have our house paid off by the time we are 24. SO just because you are bad with money doesn't mean that everyone is. I think that if you live on your own with a stable job and feel that your ready go for it.

 

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