25 Too Young

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Patty - December 11

I'm 25, and I'm working on my Bachelor's degree, hopefully I will have graduated by dec 2006. I have been on the pill for the last 4 years and I want to start trying to get pregant in july 2006, that way I can be pregant for graduation and have a baby before I start a new job. My husband on the other hand wants to start trying after I've had a job for a year or more. I feel I'm ready for a baby now, but I would wait if it was for the baby's benefit. What I don't agree with is the fact of sending the baby to daycare at two months of age, because that is the time you get for maternity leave. Would you start trying in july or after having a job for more than a year??


:) - December 12

In my opinion you're in your prime! I think that you should start trying in July. Just remember, sometimes it can take a long time to concieve! That way you and your husband can choose how much time you will spend with your baby after it's born. You wont have a job that only allows a certain amount of maternity leave. I'm with you babe, but you really need to have it agreed with your husband first. :)


William C . A. - December 12

have the job for more than a year ! Maternity leave is necessary we cheat our children so badly in the field of hands on parenthood I sometimes wonder why so many continue to have children . The daily Face to Face stories I hear of fathers/husbands away from home for weeks days months is shocking and I'm one of them because like them have little choice . We have to feed our families . I'm just glad and thankful my wife is a stay at home mom by choice and circ_mstance .


Bonnie - December 12

Patty, I'm not really sure what to suggest for you on this one. On one hand I want to say wait a year or two since you are starting a new career, to give yourself time with your DH and to adjust. On the other hand, I know what you mean about the maternity leave, they just don't give you enough time. May I ask what kind of work you plan on doing?


Jen - December 12

Hi patty, seems like me and you have a similiar situation. I am 24 and I have a 16 month old and I am 15 weeks with our second and I am a full time nursing student. This has been an issue for me and my husband because he wants more than "just 2" as he puts it, and I think 2 is just fine, then I could get on with my career. But, he really wants more and I told him that there is no way I am going to be pregnant while working and getting my masters. And he doesn't want our kids to be that far apart, so we decided that after I graduate, we'll get pregnant again and then after that baby is 3 or 4 months I will start to look for a job then. It really is a compromise. I love being able to be a stay at home mom while our kids are young. You really need to sit down and think about how a baby will impact your life now and later. My fear is that I will get so wrapped up in work, the opportunity to have more will be missed. Also, I don't want to start a new job to ask for maternity leave. Good luck to you!!


miranda - December 14

I think you should have the baby when ever you think your ready however I would advise you to take your husband's opinion into consideration. Maybe he wants to want to make sure you guys can afford a baby. They are expensive, but I don't think having a baby at 25 is to young. I'm 22 and I already have a daughter that's 4 months and I'm pregnant again. I don't regret having my first baby that early I think it's better to have them when your young, that way you can watch them grow. But I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide!!



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