I AM 20 AND WANT A BABY

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Alicia - June 3

sheena im 19 (20 in november) and me and my fieance decided to try for a baby I know 20 is considerd "young" but i could never be happier. my family thought i was crazy untill they relized how happy i am, the babys due dec 25. Some people just feel ready more than others i think if your both ready go for it!!

 

lilly - June 5

hi well im 20 also and my husband is also 25 and we just got married to i got pregnant and had an mc but i really want a baby too but good luck

 

Shay - June 7

I am 21 and I have been married for 3 months now. My husband is also 21 and a family is something that we both want. I am also studying something I really enjoy and am in the first year. There are two more years of my studying but my partner and I want to try soon for a baby. I am concerned with what our parents will say as they may believe that we are two young and not in the best of financal situations. I also worry that I will not complete uni as it is something I really want to do. So I know exactly how you are feeling!! I would love to hear from more people who have had a baby during studies. :-)

 

to Sheena - June 9

why don't you look into taking online courses? i am 22 and i have a 1 yr. old daughter and i am pregnant again. my husband works and i stay home with my baby. i committ to 15-20 hours a week to online college courses. it is the same as being in a cla__s room. you just have to communicate through email. if you want a baby and can afford to take care of it and love it then go ahead. it sounds like you and your husband thought about this a lot and you seem like you would make great parents. Good Luck.

 

A - June 9

why don't you look into taking online courses? i am 22 and i have a 1 yr. old daughter and i am pregnant again. my husband works and i stay home with my baby. i committ to 15-20 hours a week to online college courses. it is the same as being in a cla__s room. you just have to communicate through email. if you want a baby and can afford to take care of it and love it then go ahead. it sounds like you and your husband thought about this a lot and you seem like you would make great parents. Good Luck.

 

Wendy - June 17

how do you feel about finishing college, if it is not something that you want to do then it wont work, I am in the same boat as you 1 year younger and my family really wants me to finish college but its not something I want to do and I'm not going to be working so it doesn't really make sense to do it to me. But I am continuing untill I actually do concieve that might be something to think about because it might take you some time to get pregnant, I've been trying for nearly 6 months now (since we got married, never did the birth control thing, never will) and I sort of regret the last semester I lost in school because I didn't go I wanted a break but now I hopefully will not have too much longer before I get pregnant and I wasted the last semester I guessing a__suming I would get pregnant right away, but I'm going back and I really think that you should just do whatever feels right to you not what other people think is right for you

 

Jen - June 18

Sheena, I am in your situation too! I am 23 and have been married for 10 months. At first I thought I wanted to finish college before I had a baby, but I have been having these feelings that NOW is the time to start. I'm a pray-er, so me and my husband have been praying about it together and we both agreed that now is our time. I know my parents would love for me to finish school first but this is our decision and I know I will finish. But it also depends on how long it will take me to conceive, in the meantime I will still be in school.

 

Sana - June 20

I am in university just finished my 2nd year and i'm pregnant. But my husband and I had faith in God and his plan and guess what? It turns out that the baby is due in vacation time. so i'm going straight ahead with school...my baby is due on Old Years Night and my last semester starts on January 20th (approx) which is more than enough time to recover. I have a lovely husband and supportive family so i have all the faith in the world that it'll be okay. But if for any reasons there is the threat of complication, universities allow us to take a year or sometimes even two years off. So you can finish school and have a baby at the same time if you believe whole heartedly that you ahve the drive for it. Go For it!!!!

 

Tami - June 21

I say go for it! The decision is between you and your husband. If you both feel you are ready then I am sure you can succeed. You can have a baby and still finish college also, as long as you have a supportive husband. I just graduated from college, and the university I attended had many women with babies. I am sure it was difficult, but they succeeded, even though thier babies accompanied them to cla__s sometimes. Good luck!

 

sheena - June 23

thankyou everyone so much

 

SHEENA - June 24

Hey girl! I'm with you. You're 22 you're well enough capable to take care of a baby. You must make yourself happy before anyone else, and I'm sure your mother will understand and learn to accept it. Once she realises a new little baby will be coming into the family she will be thrilled and as excited as you'll be. A baby isn't like a piece of clothing, you can't return it if someone doesn't like it. (Just a little humor) trying to help state my point. Good luck to you.

 

suna - July 1

now i am 22 , i got my marriage at 20 , inned a baby ,my is quit nice gentleman no bad habits till now for me medically no problem tell me a good solution

 

Kimberlee - July 1

Hi Sheena. I am 20 years old and so is my husband. I am 18 weeks and 2 days, our first child. He is a little boy and it has been a joy. My husband and I have also been together for 5 years. We have been married for 2. It has been really hard so far though. I think that it is up to you and your husband weather or not to have a baby yet. If you want to finish College after or before should be yours and your husbands decicion, not your mommas. If you two feel you are ready to start a family, then that should be up to the both of you. My husband and I are not big partiers or anything like as well. We are not like most of our friends. My husband and I consider a fun night at home watching a movie. But, it all comes down to, Are you and your husband ready to devote your lives to raising another human being. I think if you two support eachother emotionally and phyically, you two can doing anything you can put your mind to. I wish you the best of Luck!

 

Jessi - July 2

I am 18 and I have a 2 1/2yr old daughter and a 8 month old daughter and a word of advice would be to make sure you have had lots of fun.But good luck to you I hope you whatever you do makes you happy.

 

Fi - July 10

What did you decide to do sheena? I am 20 and amongst the most broody people that I know - but despite being in a long term & committed relationship, I just don't think I can offer a baby all that it would need from me. It's great that you are responsible, it really is. But a university education is so important that I think you need to focus on that right now and wait a couple of years before starting your family. That's just my 2 cents.. It's what I would do. Maybe you and your husband could spend some more time making plans for the baby when it does finally come - i know a lot of people who are waiting to start a family find it therapeutic to start making practical plans for when the time does come. A LOT of people feel the same way as you, and a lot of people choose to wait. Because the most important person in all of this must be the baby - when you choose to have the baby, that person will completely take over your life and will always have to come first. So your chances of success at university WILL be compromised if you try and complete a degree & mother a child. It is worth listening to your mom on this. In a couple of years you will still be able to have a baby, you will still be very young compared to the majority of mothers - why rush into it when you can spend the time learning more about life & everything so that you can pa__s on valuable lessons to your child?

 

Fi - July 10

PS I didn't mean to be negative about this. I think your situation is far far better than many others out there, but then again - you are posting on the internet for advice regarding a decision that will change your life for good. I think maybe the fact that you are posting here shows that you don't have 100% confidence in any decision regarding a baby and that is FINE, but probably not a good sign for having that baby right now. A couple of years will fly by and you will be in a much better position to make this decision..

 

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