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littlemama1022 - May 13

I need some advice on what to do. This may become a little long. I have an 19 month old daughter, I didn't br___tfeed her and I am 25w3d pregnant... I really want to br___tfeed this time! I'm scared too. I mean I dont think I will be comfortable with a baby sucking on my br___ts. I have questions also- Does it really hurt that much when you br___tfeed? Would it be okay to pump and give her a bottle? Or if I do decide to do the actual br___tfeeding, will I get used to it and be comfortable with it? Can I pump and br___tfeed or will it be too much confusion with the bottle nipple and my nipple? What is a good br___tfeeding pump? I have a lot of questions going through my mind! I really want to br___tfeed because I know it gives the baby nutrients and antibodies(I think) to fight infections and all that, and also does it REALLY make you lose a lot of weight quicker? Please help me!


angie m - May 13

littlemama1022 I hope I can help you out some. I thought that I would be really uncomfortable with a little baby sucking on my b___sts too but it really isn't wierd at all. It does hurt in the begining but only for about a week. I tryed to pump with a really exspensive double pump my mom got me but I could never get it to work so I don't know anything about bottles and b___stfeeding. You will get very comfortable with it. I have nursed my babys everywhere, I have had three one that I nursed for 14months, and you get very comfortable. It also really helped me lose weight. I had to stop nursing my second baby at two monthes because I had to take medication, this was very depresing for me, and it took a year to loss the weight and that was with dieting and exercising. With my first and third I lost the weight in about 4 or 5 months with no exercising or dieting. I would try to b___stfeed. It is such an awsome thing to know that you can give your baby all the nutrition that they need. And it is so nice to snuggle with your baby well you nurse, it is a closeness that only you and baby can have. It also is very healthy for baby in so many ways. Hope I helped and good luck.


Susan W - May 14

I wasn't crazy about the idea of nursing at first. I knew it would be best -- you are 100% correct about the antibodies and nutrients -- but I didn't think I would be comfortable with it, even though I grew up in a b___stfeeding family. But it turned out the be my favorite part of being a mom!! It's the only thing you can do for your child that nobody else can. It's a special relationship, and it's a whole lot easier than a bottle. No cleaning, no preparing, no trying to heat while you are out and about, no worrying about spilling the bottle, so forth. I also found I could nurse with no hands and do something else at the same time; can't do that with a bottle unless you prop it, which you shouldn't. A couple things I wish I had done before the first baby -> I should have read more on b___stfeeding, and specifically b___stfeeding books. -> To find those books, I should have gone to a La Leche League meeting in my area before the baby came. At the meetings, moms can have their questions answered, meet other moms and learn more about parenting a nursing child. There's a library there where you can check out books on nursing. There is also a LLL online message board and article you may find helpful . . It does hurt a little at the beginning, but if it hurts for longer than 20 seconds, something is wrong and you need to unlatch and relatch. But that pain goes away soon. I have a pump, and I never used it to pump to feed. I used it to reduce engorgement (don't do that!) because I tend to make lots and lots of milk (mistake. Pumping just increased my supply more!). If you do introduce a bottle, do it after 6 weeks. Too early, and you risk nipple confusion. Too late, and they won't take it. . . .I'm still nursing 20 months and two pregnancies later. We had many, many obstacles to overcome, but I can't imagine doing it any other way. And it did help me lose about 75 lbs (66 were pregnancy pounds) in about 3 months!! I got pregnant with baby #2 thinner than when I conceived the first one, and that was after putting some weight back on to help restart my cycle. I didn't have an AF for 12+ months because I exclusively b___stfed for so long. There's so many benefits to nursing. If you have more questions, ask. There's quite a few moms here who have nursed for a few months and/or several babies.


Jamie - May 15

I knew I was going to b___stfeed from the moment I found out I was pregnant. My husband is in the military, and we live on a tight budget. It just didn't make sense to me to add in an unnecessary expense. Anyway - the first 8 weeks were hell for me, and I nearly gave up and switched to formula more times than I can count. It can be hard, and draining, and if you couple difficulties with post partum depression, it's not a recipe for successful b___stfeeding. Fortunatuately, my husband was as supportive as he could be, and, when I shared my feelings of inadequacy with my mom, she was derisive enough to p__s me off enough that I kept at it out of sheer pigheadedness. Then, about 8 weeks into it, there was this magic moment when the baby latched onto my nipple wilth no fuss, stayed latched, nursed, fell asleep, and stayed asleep. She had been sleeping 6 to 8 hour stretches since 3 weeks, but that night was the easiest she had ever gone to sleep, and she slept 10 hours. I woke up feeling like a new woman. Now my daughter is 9 months, and weaning herself to solid foods. The point is - if you want it badly enough, you can reach this point of determination that you WILL b___stfeed, regardless of the difficulties. People, even doctors, will try to tell you that your baby isn't getting enough - DON'T LISTEN, unless you have a solid, word for word, diagnosis of Failure to Thrive. Do NOT supplement with formula in the first 4 to 6 weeks, because you will be sabotaging your nursing relationship. Don't let other people tell you that formula will make your baby sleep better at night - it doesn't. Breastmilk is easier for babies to digest, so b___stfed babies get hungry more frequently, but they too learn to sleep through the night - use my daughter as a perfect example. People will give you flak about b___stfeeding in public, but you'll realize that there is nothing shameful or s_xual about b___stfeeding. Your b___sts become milk factories, refridgerators, bottle warmers, bottles, and pacifiers - for your baby. As long as you are discrete, no one has the right to tell you not to feed your child, or the right to tell you to feed your child in a filthy public restroom. And...I think I've covered it...not really a lot of practical advice, but I hope my rambling has something to offer.


Susan W - May 15

I would completely second Jamie. Breastfeeding success depends wholly on your determination to make it happen. I too wanted to quit so many times during the first 8 weeks. I was suffering from really bad postpartum depression, I had a high-needs colicky baby who never slept and cried a lot from undiagnosed acid reflux, and a whole bunch of friends telling me "I needed my space." But they didn't realize that nursing had very quickly become the one connection I had to the baby, even with all the problems we were having -- I had an inverted nipple, DS didn't like nursing because someone gave him a bottle ONCE, all sorts of stuff. They didn't realize that if I had stopped, I would have abandoned my family, having no reason to stay. But I hung in there and made it work. Suddenly, it was just part of what we did, and I could nurse laying down, standing up, with no hands, in a sling, anywhere and everywhere and in front of anyone. I nursed throughout treatment for the PPD. My son didn't sleep through the night until just a few weeks ago at 20 months, so starting solids and all that didn't help us. All babies will eventually sleep through the night. It just takes some longer to do, whether they be 3 weeks or 3 years. Fortunately, I had a supportive mom and a supportive DH and just had to go against the grain. I would also second the advice to not listen to anyone who tells you that your baby needs formula. Not true!! But don't be surprised if you feel like you do nothing but nurse for those first 6-8 weeks; that's what you are supposed to do!! Oh, and I really only tried at the beginning because I knew I would be leaving my career to stay at home (I am against having someone else spend more time raising my child than I do), so I knew I needed to at least make the effort instead of spending money on formula. While DH is a physicist and I'm a doctor, we hate spending money on stuff we can do without, and formula fits into that category. We have literally saved a fortune, especially combined with cloth diapers.


karine - May 15

I just had my third child. and i never b___stfed my other 2, and with this last one, i thought that maybe i would regret not trying. the baby latched on right after birth, but when i came home, she wasnt latching on and i was having difficulites. and in june i will restart my home daycare, and i know i wont have the time to b___stfeed my baby. so i pump the milk. its working out good with me. she will nurse once a day. and the rest i will pump, and she will have 2 bottles of formula at night. wether you express your milk or actually b___stfeed, your child will still benefit from it. and it's 100%%%% better than the formula. i didnt really know what i was doing, and what to buy, i baught a gerber pump, electric/battery, i paid 65$. it works good. but if i would have known better i would have spent more on the pump to get a better one.



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