Dad Who D Rather Not Be

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Sprinkles - November 13

Well ... this baby was a surpise to me and the father of the child is not someone I date or see on a regular basis ... so Yesterday I told him i was expecting and his response to me was to get an abortion... I feel a little bitter about this and a part of me feels like if a man can suggest an abortion to a woman then she should be able to have any rights he would have to this child removed. I am just kinda venting I guess but I found his response so callus and insenstive! Is anyone else going through this?

 

mama keya - November 13

My sister was in the same situation and come to think of it a good friend of mines went thru it to well. My friend stop seeing the guy and later in the pregnancy start see someone else (who had been interested in her for years) and they together raised the baby as his and hers. He was okay with the situation. Now my sister went ahead and had her baby but she kept contact with the father and yes for a long time he was very against well my niece is now 4 yrs old and guess who is making phone calls to see how she is doing. No he's not fully a father but it seems as if this guy who didn't want a baby want her to abort and then didn't want to have nothing to do with the baby when she was born is now trying to come around. So I'm not saying that either way will happen to you, but if you want this baby have the baby and you will be ok if he is in the picture or not. But please don't make your decision based on trying to keep him around, cause a baby won't make a man stay with you. I'm not saying you are but just in case. So think about it and then make your decision (I personally don't believe in abortions but I'm not trying to push my beliefs on you in any way.) Its a lot of women who raise children on there on and its some that is really against. But that is for you to decide on how to handle this. Oh yea I have 3 children and 1 on the way. And my first child is not my DH but he has been in her life since she was 11 mo and he treats her like his very own, she even calls him Daddy. Her Real dad is behind bars she knows his family and who they are but hey life goes on. Good Luck on YOUR CHOICE. Keya ;-)

 

Sprinkles - November 13

Thank You Keya! I decided day one i was having this baby with no doubts at all the only reason I told him was because all my friends kept telling me it was the right thing to do - and I didn't want to be selfish and at least give him a chance to be a father but he gave me his suggestion then tried to make me feel bad about not doing it - I freaked out on him and I just wish that I could take the email he sent me bring it to court and have any rights he may try to get to this child revoked. Hmpf!

 

newlywed0915 - November 13

hunny, keep the email. You may need it in the future. You're child is a part of you, so don't let some insensitive man who obviously has no maturity ir sense of responsibilty convinve you otherwise. He is probably scared of the responsiblity and doesn't want to pay child support, so to him, he'd take the easy way out instead of taking responsibily for his actions. Keep that email, and get child suport from him when your baby is born. You can have a paternity test done in case he insists the child isn't his.

 

mama keya - November 13

Good and Best of Wishes to you and yours, and yes save the emails and anymore that you may get.

 

bubbasmom - November 13

Could you ask him to terminate his parental rights?

 

Sprinkles - November 13

I will definatly save them, Its a shame i cant take them to a court and have his rights terminated just for sending them! He won't just sign it over to me now... It's weird cause he doesn't want the baby to be born but he won't just walk away ...

 

Sprinkles - November 13

What I dont get is that he has 2 other kids... He knows the love and the bond .... I dont get how he can just be like .... yeah away with this one ... Well I will tell you this Kay when the baby is born if mr wonderful has a change of heart I will NEVER let him live it down ... The baby won't know (ever) cause I am not that way .. BUT mr wonderful will know ... I'll remind him what he wanted done with his kid

 

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