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cheyne - May 15

Hi there, my gestational sac has grown nicely and is measuring 26mm (mean sac diameter). There is a fetal pole present with a heartbeat. Yet the fetal pole has not grown for the past week and is measuring just 3.7mm. I have had no spotting or pains. My HCG level is at a good level and doubling. Heartbeat is present and has been present for the past 3 weeks. According to my own dates i should be 8 weeks. At scan 1 I had just the yolk sac present. At scan 2 fetal pole and heart pulsations were present. At scan 3 fetal pole and heartbeat was present. The scans were spaced at weekly intervals. The sac has grown 11 mm in the past week, and heartbeat is present, but fetal pole does not appear to have grown since last week. Is this pregnancy still viable?


cheyne - May 17

Wow, 3 days and not one comment, what a warm and friendly forum this is...


Ashley2121 - May 17

This is a great forum, but based on your question I dont think anyone here is really qualified to answer this except for a dr. I would say its a good sign that there is a heartbeat - if there is a heartbeat then you know something is living inside you. I dont mean to answer you in a negative way or anything I just wanted to a__sure you that this forum is excellent but everyone doesnt always have the answers you are looking for. When is your next appt? What does your dr say? Keep us updated. Good luck to you!


gbsmom - May 18

Yep, I have to agree with Ashely. When I read your story when you first posted it I thought, wow, I have no idea what could be happening. Having had a miscarriage recently, I didn't feel like I wanted to just guess at what is happening to you, or offer a downer perspective, or try to give false hope, so I thought I'd let someone who knew the answer respond. But I guess no one does have the answer. Sorry we let you down. Hope you stick with us, and even more importantly, hope your LO sticks with you!!!


cheyne - May 18

I won't 'stick with you' with all your 'yeps' and 'good luck to you!'. You care more about flippantly defending yourself than actually being compa__sionate. There are plenty of caring, supportive forums out there which won't leave a woman high and dry and isolated without a single response for days on end when she's told her baby is about to die. You might not know what's going on or be able to offer advice, but you could at least say 'hello, hope it all works out, thinking of you etc.'. I've seen plenty of questions on this forum go unanswered from people in tortuous situations and answered them just to say hello. I didn't come her for 'the answer'. I came here for shared experiences and because it is supposed to be a supportive community


Ashley2121 - May 18

Have a great day and best of luck to you :)


cheyne - May 18

forgive me if I don't :) back - i've just been told my baby's going to die.


cheyne - May 18

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gbsmom - May 18

I'm sorry you got such heartbreaking news. Having been through that myself, I know it is about the worst life event we'll ever face. I don't know if I'll ever be "over it," but it does get easier with time. In the meantime, I'm glad you've found some forums, either here or elsewhere, where you can vent your feelings, even anger, because letting go of those feelings will is part of healing. Come over to the miscarrriage page if you want, and you'll find women who might understand better what you're going through. (I know you just indicated no interest in this site, but I'm chalking that up to the horrible news you've received, remembering how I felt in your shoes.) I won't say "good luck" (I hate that, too), but how about: I know how you feel, and I hope it gets better soon.


cheyne - May 19

thanks for your lovely message gbsmom. It's nice to hear from someone who can empathize, though I'm really sorry for your loss. Take care xx


prayn4baby - May 19

Ashley2121... I think you were being very nice and compa__sionate in your posts, so i hope your feelings aren't hurt. I've had 2 m/c and never was that rude and nasty to people on the forums when i was going through it. Maybe people deal with it in different ways i guess.


Ashley2121 - May 20

prayn4baby - thank you very much. No one ever knows what to say in these situations and I thought I was being compa__sionate. In no way did I mean to come across as negative or anything like that. I love these forums and they have helped me through a lot. It took me over a year to finally concevive and I leaned on the people in these forums many times. I would hate for this to become a negative place where people are afraid to say something. I am sorry to hear about your 2 losses. I am pretty sure I have seen your posts on other boards and you are currently pregnant now, right? Anyways, thank you for your kind words, I have nothing but good intentions on these forums.


Ashlie24 - May 20

Best of luck to you hun hope everything is ok!!


cheyne - May 21

Hi guys, sadly I lost my little one. I have just got back from a scan which found that the heart has now stopped. I am glad she is at peace. Her heart had continued to beat for three weeks after she stopped growing. Best of luck to you all. xx


Ashley2121 - May 21

cheyne - I know you did not like my previous post for whatever reason. But I want to send you my heartfelt sympathy, I am truly SO sorry that you lost your little one. Your little one was a strong one that fought to stay around. I myself have never had a m/c but I do know what its like to want to have a baby more than anything (it took me more than a year to get pregnant)and I wish you nothing but the best in the future and hope you get your little one soon. *HUGS* Ashley


cheyne - May 21

Thanks for your lovely message Ashley, and sorry if I misconstrued your earlier one. Your kind words are comforting. I wish you all the best for you and your little one xxx



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