Is Anyone Else Really Depressed

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sparklestar - June 25

I am 9 weeks pregnant with a planned, first baby - and had a miscarriage at 8.5 wks in Nov 05. However, after the initial happiness at finding out I just can't seem to get any joy out of this pregnancy. I feel so, so depressed some days and spend ages in tears, I'm finding work a real struggle and just carrying on a normal every day life is difficult. Nothing brings me any pleasure, I find it hard to have a real laugh and feel very emotionally distant with dp (we don't live together). I don't understand, I thought I'd be thrilled and happy and 'bloom' like I've heard pregnant women do. I feel really down, some days I'm exhausted and feel nauseous a lot though I'm never actually sick. I can't seem to get anything done and that's making me feel worse as I feel lazy too. Sorry to moan and be so negative, I know there's so many women out there who desperately wish to get pregnant and I should be grateful. But I feel so lonely and miserable I can't convey how awful I feel. Is this normal - does anyone else feel like this or have they.....and does it change? Thanks for taking the time to read this, Tracey x


soimpatient - June 25

I can't relate because I'm not yet pregnant but I think that you should talk about this with your doctor. Depression is very serious and should be taken seriously by your doc.


alexandra33 - June 25

Sparklestar- I know EXACTLY how you feel. soimpatient, just so you know, depression is very common amongst first time pregnant women who have had recent miscarriages, and although it is serious, it is normal. Just come on down to the pregnancy loss thread and you will find many of us!! (I had a m/c at 10 weeks in feb) We help each other through the stress of the first trimester by relating to each others fears and worries, so if I suggest you come on down there with us. I am 9 weeks and have very severe mood swings. This was sort of true in pg #1, but it was offset by my joy of being pg. Now, because of the m/c. I can't enjoy this pregnancy as much. It is so bad that I am more b___hy than sad, but i get sad after I am b___hy to someone because I know that it is the raging hormones, but that I don;t really know what to do about it. I am so tired all the time, work is hard for me too, and similarly, I am nauseous but not sick, so it just seems to drag on. You are not alone girlfriend! have you suffered from depression in the past? I have suffered from anxiety all my life and this pregnancy is making it worse. How are you feeling lately.


sparklestar - June 25

Thankyou both for taking the time to reply. Alexandra33, thankyou so much for sharing that and I am very sorry to hear of your loss - though I'm glad to hear you are pregnant again too. I am grateful to hear of your experience, rea__suring to hear that I'm not the only one. I've also had the major b___hiness though I seem to be getting down more than snappy now. I know what you mean about not being able to control it though....I really feel like an alien's in my body sometimes! I have no control over my emotions or physical condition. I so want to just go out for a walk or something some days and just don't have the energy or feel well enough to do it. I do have problems with pmt/hormones and on and off depression too yes, but can normally handle it as it's only really bad a couple of days a month. I was on ad's about 4 years ago for 6 months or so and they really did help. I sympathise with your anxiety, were you on meds before? Like you say with your anxiety, I do think pregnancy is making my depressive tendencies worse....I just don't think the hormones 'suit' me - if that makes sense? Thankyou for the suggestion of sharing my feelings on the other board, I will pop over and have a look at it. Also, I have my first booking in appt with the midwife tomorrow (I'm in the UK) so I will see if she has any suggestions. I suspect though I will just be told to hang on till the first trimester's over - I do so hope things do improve then!! Thanks again Alexandra, I hope you feel better soon too and your pregnancy goes smoothly. Unfortunately I think being 'pregnant after loss' is difficult at the best of times.....and struggling with hormones certainly doesn't make it any easier! Take care, Tracey x



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