No Heartbeat

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ShoppingForTwo - November 30

Hello again ladies, I'm very scared. I had a strange sharp pain in my upper abdomen in the middle of the night last night. I was tossing a turning all night so I'm not sure if the pain woke me up or if I was already awake, I just know that it really bother me and freaked me out. I remember thinking/dreaming that I would be bleeding in the morning when I woke up. THANK GOD I WASN'T! I was terrified to get out of bed. . . I sat up and checked the sheets, and when I didn't see any blood I was like "ok, I can do this, go to the bathroom Kim" I talked to my friend about it and she said I shouldn't really worry about it since it was in my upper stomach but I can't shake this feeling that there won't be a heartbeat when I see my peri on Dec. 6th. I freak myself out, I know. Anyhow, I called my doctor's appointment booker. She says he has no cancelations today. I told her that he said since I've been through alot and since this pregnancy is high risk then I can come in for reasurrance whenever I want. She asked if I wanted to speak to a nurse so she could advise me. I politely to her NO, I don't need advice, I need an ultrasound to check for the heartbeat! I asked her if I should just go to the ER, and she put me on hold and finally told me I can see A doctor today, just not MY perinatologist. I was irratated but happy that they fit me in today. I got at 2:50pm. That's 3 hours and 41 minutes. I'm scared. . . . . I really have a bad feeling. All my symptoms are stiill here in full force though. HELP?

 

HeatherIsHopeful - November 30

hon, Im sure you'll be fine. let us know what happens... you're in my thoughts and prayers! I don't know what I would do without you here, who else would I agree with all the time and chat with and stuff. good luck Im sure everything is okay!!! -Heather<3

 

ShoppingForTwo - November 30

Heheh your funny Heather I love you lol! I'm kinda up beat today trying not to be depressed or down about the way I'm thinking. I hope I'm just over reacting. Nobody at work knows Im preggie so I have no one to talk to about this. I called my hubbie and talked to him about but for 1 he is super positive. and #2 he was asleep because he got off work at 1am and played playstation until the wee hours. He was listening to me and responding when I called him but I don't feel like he was really listening.

 

newlywed0915 - November 30

hun it was probably a muscle contraction or cramp in the way you were sleeping. No blood...no other cramping right now, right? You symptoms are all still there? This morning my b___b tenderness was almost non existent, and thats my only symptom right now. I was a little scared we wouldn't hear a heartbeat today... but we heard it. Without blood or other cramps right now I think you're safe, but going to see the doc will ease your worry. I know you're scared. It'll be alrigtht. Saying a prayer right now...keep us posted.

 

HeatherIsHopeful - November 30

well you can talk to me... I went in for my first prenatal appt a couple days ago and the whole time I was like "they aren't gonna find a heartbeat" "they are going to tell me baby stopped growing 2 weeks ago" everytime they did anything like measure my uterus or whatever or check anything I would think "they are going to tell me something is wrong" but everything went great I got a u/s and saw my little jumping bean and heard the heartbeat and of course me being me as soon as I got home I was worrying again because I couldn't see the baby anymore lol. Im a worrier it's what I do but things have a way of working out :)

 

ShoppingForTwo - November 30

And now that I think about it I haven't been throwing up as much. I still throw up after breakfast and lunch but these last two days I haven't thrown up after dinner! I think I'm more afraid because after I was born my mother had a blighted ovum and still had super strong symptoms and had to have a d and c. And I'm afriad of a missed miscarriage and they will say your baby stopped growing last week or something. AAhhhhh!! I worry too much to Heather.

 

ShoppingForTwo - November 30

Thanks for the prayer newlywed0915. I thought that maybe it was the way I was sleeping or something as well, but as the night progressed I got this terrible feeling that the heartbeat stopped. I don't know whats wrong with me. Oh, and Heather, I am very happy that your visit went wonderful! :) Yay! How many weeks are you now?

 

HeatherIsHopeful - November 30

worrying is normal... what I do is go about my life with baby in mind... buying baby things and preparing for baby and all that and when people ask me about it I don't mention my fears or anything just tell them the due date and all that. but in the back of my mind I have all my worries and I think its sort of working out for me. I have a very odd superst_tion lol and I'll TRY to explain it but its weird to understand. you know how in movies you can sort of tell whats going to happen next because of what someone says or something like if they say "this is going to be a peice of cake" you KNOW something is going to go wrong and make it hard... well I sort of have the same philosophy on life.. this doen't make any logical sense I know... anyway sometimes I catch myself thinking "theres no way this can go wrong" then something happens and somethig goes wrong or I'll be like "this is going to backfire big time" and nothing happens and everything is fine... so if I stopped worrying about stuff thats when I think I would be most scared because the more I tell myself "everything is fine, we'll hear the heartbeat" the more I think about how it would happen on TV or something and thats when I think something is wrong.. okay, I know that didn;t make any sense lol. all Im tryign to say is worrying is fine just don't go putting TOO much stress on yourself.

 

HeatherIsHopeful - November 30

Im at 11 and a half weeks now :)

 

newlywed0915 - November 30

babe,maybe your mind is making you paranoid. The nausea does stop earlier for some. I haven't been nauseous for almost 2 weeks. With your last pregnancy, when did you first start encoutering problems? My bestfriend was putting off making her appt. at 5 weeks with her doctor when she found out she was preggo again because she was around 5 weeks when she first started miscarrying her baby's twin and lost the other at 10 or 11 weeks. She figured out it was because she was scared of finding out she was miscarrying. Anyway- kind of off the subject, but your symptoms are still here, and you aren't even bleeding. I know its hard, but try and stay positive. You could just be over-worrying, which is TOTALLY natural. Especially in your case, with what happened last time.

 

ShoppingForTwo - November 30

Heheh Heather, I get it. Congrats on almost being out of the trimester! Newlywed I first started encountering problems with my last pregnancy at 23 weeks. I will feel better once I'm past that.

 

newlywed0915 - November 30

heather is right on. I worry everyday too. Before this appt today I was worried the doc wouldn't find a hb and order an ultrasound and the ultrasound would show that the baby had stopped growing and there was no heartbeat. While I was laying there today and he was moving the doppler over my stomach trying to locate the heartbeat I was so worried that we wouldn't hear anything. It took him less than a minute to find it, but it felt like an eternity. SInce the threatened abortion we had I've been worried that the baby isn't going to make it or that I'll lose her or him right before the second trimester. Unfortunately, I don't think the worry will EVER escape us until we see and hold our babies who are screaming and crying and givign us all they've got. Then we'll know they're okay...and then we're going to have to worry for the rest of our lives about taking them to school, leaving them home alone,etc. THEN we're going to conceive again and be paranoid all over again! Its an endless cycle that comes with motherhood. Like heather said, we just have to try not to dwell on it, but remain aware of the possiblity of what might happen...and just take it one day at a time.

 

newlywed0915 - November 30

(BIG SUPPORTIVE HUG) We're here for you gal.

 

ShoppingForTwo - November 30

OH! And I havent taken my baby asprin in like two days!!! It wasnt prescribed but my doctor gave me the ok to take it since im paranoid.

 

ShoppingForTwo - November 30

Thanks guys! only 2 hours and 50 minutes left!

 

HeatherIsHopeful - November 30

aww, thanks newlywed.. you make my crazy babble sound reasonable lol. Shopping, let us know what happens... we love you girl!

 

Jessicab3 - November 30

Everythings going to be just fine. Its a good good sign that you're not having any discharge and that the pain is upper instead of lower. I'm sure you'll get to the Dr and they'll find the heartbeat right away. And hopefully tonight you'll just get a bad case of diarrhea and will be able to laugh at everything.

 

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