Two Miscarriages Now Due In September

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BeccaC - February 24

This is my first time on the First Trimester forum. I've been in the miscarriage forum, but I thought I would see who else has had a m/c and is now pg. I had two m/c last year. The first in January, I was 12 weeks when I found out, but my baby died at 5 weeks & I had no idea that for 7 weeks there was a problem, until we checked for a heartbeat thru dopler. The 2nd m/c happened in July, I heard a heartbeat at 7 weeks and no h/b at 9 weeks. Both times I had a D&C because I didn't m/c naturally. Now, I am almost 11 weeks pg - due Sept 17th. I had an ultrasound at 9 weeks and they found a h/b but I am so nervous. I had the flu three weeks ago, and now I am battling a cold. I was wondering if anyone else is going thru the same thing I am. I am embracing this little life inside me, and I am for the most part very positive about this pregnancy. I would love to talk to someone who knows what I am going thru. Thanks!!!

 

tk07 - February 24

hi! i am almost 10 weeks and going crazy wondering if everything is ok. i m/c last april and i am terrified this time. i heard the hb at 7 and 8 weeks and everything was good, so i am hoping it is still good. it is driving me crazy having to wait though! my dh keeps telling me i have no reason to think anything is wrong and i keep telling him that doesn't mean there isn't! but i try to think positive too and say there is no reason for me to lose this baby and this baby has a strong heartbeat so my chances are really small. so you are not the only one who is scared! i think that you know though, i knew i was going to m/c when i did. and i knew it the day it started before it actually started, i stopped and felt my stomach and said something seems weird and went home from work that night and started spotting. i do feel good about this pregnancy but i am still very nervous because i know what can happen. but we are going to have healthy babies right!!!!

 

sfrog68 - February 25

Hi, I too know how you feel. I have had 2 m/c a year apart from each other and now I am pregnant again. The thing that scares me is that my u/s put my baby smaller than I should be. Everyone on here keeps telling me not to worry that I o'd late but that doesn't help much. I did get to see my babies h/b this past Tuesday and it was beating very strong and healthy. I just pray it stays that way, I don't have another dr.s appt until 3/27 so its killing me to wait. I still have all of my symptoms but they have started slowing down some. I do know that with my last 2 m/c they just completely stopped. I feel as if this baby is fine and everything is going to be fine but you can't help but to stress out when you know how things can go wrong. I guess I am rambling so anyway just wanted you to know that I am right there with you. Good luck and happy, healthy 9 months to us all.

 

tk07 - February 25

hi, how far along are you sfrog? all of my symptoms pretty much stopped at 7 weeks and that really got me stressed, i have nothing to go by now! i do go to the bathroom quite often and i get tired faster but that is it. my Dr told me that symptoms can start to taper off around 8 weeks and not to put too much stock in symptoms, even though that is really hard!

 

sfrog68 - February 25

I am 7w6d by the u/s. I am suppose to be around 9w5d by my calculations. I just don't remember the LMP so they went off the u/s. I do know they were wrong though because the dates would put me on my cycle 12/29 and I know for absolute sure I wasn't on it then. It was def before and also with that they are saying that I conceived 1/15 or so and I took my 1st home test on 1/19 and got +. That doesn't sound right to me. Anyway, my b___st are still real sore in the morning when I wake and at night before I go to bed but not all day like they were. I get quissy some during the day but not pukey. (I haven't puked though at all my whole time). Also I still get some bloody noses and all I want to do is sleep. Other than that I feel great.

 

tk07 - February 25

that is pretty much how i feel, i have a stuffy nose and that is what my b___sts did, they hurt in the morning and at night but not really during the day and then they pretty much stopped hurting all together. i only had morning sickness for about a week and that stopped with my b___st soreness! i went to the Dr and everything is fine though. i don't know about the dates.. a girl i work with said she swears she had her lmp 3 weeks before the Dr said she did (she measured 3 weeks behind) and she was really worried but her baby is almost a year old now. she said that would mean she went into the Dr like the day she concieved and got a positive. it just didn't make sense. maybe some babies just grow slower at first?? did they do a blood test too to check your hormone levels?

 

sfrog68 - February 25

They took my blood and all but they haven't called me to give me results yet. The dr. isn't concerned about me having 2 m/c before. She said they don't even think about it until you had 3. I DON'T want the 3rd. I am having to go to a female clinic do to not having insurance before getting pregnant. My DH is just now qualified through his job and of course it is a little too late. But I did get some temp state help to pay for the dr. appt I just have go to the clinic. It just sucks because they deal with sooooo many women they do not have time to talk on the phone and answer questions and just make you feel better. That is why I need this forum just too make me feel a little more at ease. I hope all goes well for you, don't stress about losing the symptoms if your dr. said everything is going good, just try to relax and take it one day at a time, sometimes I have to take it one minute at a time. JUst hang in there we will get out of this scary 1st trimester soon.

 

BeccaC - February 25

WOW! Thanks for your responses TK07 & SFROG68! It really helps me to have a support group like this because sometimes I feel like nobody in my life understands what I am feeling. I am putting my trust in God that He will bless me with this child, but I still have that underlying fear. About the b___sts, sometimes mine hurt really bad (like SFROG mostly at night) and sometimes they don't hurt at all. I don't think I have ever touched my b___sts so much in my life!!! LOL!!! I did have nausea for the 1st time ever w/ this pg but it went away about 2 weeks ago. I actually enjoyed getting nausous and throwing up occa__sionally, because it made me feel pregnant. I have had 3 u/s so far, I begged my dr for an u/s every 2 weeks to put my mind at ease. I am having another on Thurs (this is the big one ladies - if I see a h/b on Thurs, I will jump for joy, because I'll be 11 1/2 wks.) Sfrog, I know how you feel about waiting between appointments - it seems like each day drags on & on. You just want to reach your 2nd trimester. Do either of you have other children? I am blessed with a beautiful 4 yr old daughtr. I got pg right away w/ her, so I never imagined I would have such a hard time on my 2nd try. Please keep in touch!!!

 

sfrog68 - February 25

Yes, I have an 11 year old DS. I was only 17 when I had him and I didn't have any complications at all. I never thought it would be this hard to have another baby. I have been with my DH for 6 years and it took us 4 1/2 years to get pregnant the 1st time and then to lose it killed me inside. I am praying everything works out with this one because I just don't think I can go through it again. People think I am crazy for starting over being my son is so old but I just want to have 1 baby with my DH. After this I don't think I will try anymore. It is too hard emotionally, I know everything I have gone through or will go through is worth holding that precious baby in my arms but it drains me emotionally.

 

tk07 - February 25

hello! i don't have any children yet, my forst pregnancy was the m/c. that is why i am extra nervous! at least you guys know you can have healthy children! i got pregnant right away when i started trying but it ended about 6 weeks. then my cycles got really messed up and i had to take clomid and got pregnant on that. it has been a long wait for this little bean! i want to keep going to the Dr also, i am trying to get in this week.... i went 2 weeks ago and i don't want to wait another 2 to go back and check. i am praying every single day, several times a day for everything to be ok! i hope this is the baby for me, i would be absolutely devastated to lose this one, especially since i have seen/heard the HB twice. you are almost there though Becca! i am afraid of something happening even in the 2nd trimester! i am such a worrier.

 

kristie h - February 25

Hi Bec, how are you? Sorry that i stoped posting on the miscarriage forum. Everytime i went tp post i started to think negitive reading all the other posts so i stoped going there. Good luck for thursday, i read that you have already seen the babys heart beat? If so i am sure you baby is fine, think positive. Well i had my BIG scan done on thursday, that baby is doing great with a heart beat of 170 and i am due on the 22 sept so i am 10 weeks and 2 days. Hope to talk to you soon......

 

BeccaC - February 25

Hi everyone. SFROG - I don't think you are crazy for "starting over." It must have been so stressful to try for 4 years and then lose a baby. Please do not give up hope. TK07 - it must be hard to have a m/c on your first try. If it makes you feel better, two of my friends had one m/c and now have beautiful, healthy children. Even though I have a child, it is still emotionally hard to grasp the fact that your body is rejecting this little life inside you. I have a question - What is clomid and why were you prescribed that? And, I think you should tell your doctor you want frequent u/s. My dr has a rinky-dink u/s machine in his office, and I can see my little "cashew" with a black vibrating line which indicates the heartbeat. It is not the best quality machine, but that little vibrating line always warms my heart. It is your baby and your body, so you have every right to make sure things are okay. I would love to get an u/s every day, but I guess that is me being obsessive! KRISTIE H - OMIGOODNESS! I MISSED YOU!! I even have a thread on the m/c forum looking for you. Not sure if you jumped on it lately, so I don't know if you read about Ella. She m/c and my heart is breaking for her. I am so glad things are going well for you. I never even thought to ask the h/b rate - thanks for the advice. I'll see if I can find out on Thurs. I have my BIG u/s on Monday the 5th, but it is at UConn which is one of the best prenatal hospitals in the state. They have the top technology there, and I was told I might even be able to find out the s_x of the baby!! But, I will only go there if everything checks out on Thurs. Well, I am going to bed ladies. The prego woman is tired. I hope you all keep in touch. I will check in tomorrow. HUGS HUGS HUGS!

 

crrodgers - February 25

I am currently 7wks 5 dys. This is my 5th pregnancy and I have 2 healthy girls...meaning I have had 2 m/c. I only want 3 kids so if all goes well this is my last pregnancy. I truly hate these first three months...I hate to be so negative but I have felt the disapointment 2 too many times! I go in tomorrow for an u/s to see if we can see the baby's h/b. I am praying to God it all goes well. I really can't wait till I hit the 12 week mark. Good luck everyone!

 

tk07 - February 26

you are right becca! i am going to call today and see if i can come in. i do like to hear good stories of people who had m/c and then healthy babies, it gives me a lot of hope! wow! that must be a really good u/s machine to find out the s_x already! my Dr's machine is pretty good i can hear the HB with an internal u/s and see it like fluttering. it is so awesome! i want to see it today! i was thinking about getting a doppler at home but i have had so many mixd responses about them i don't know if i will. good luck to everyone!!!!

 

tk07 - February 26

oh, and i was put on clomid because after my m/c my cycles got really irregular and i started ovulating really late in my cycle like cd26! and a couple months it didn't even look like i ovulated at all. clomid helps you ovulate when you are supposed to. on clomid i ovulated on cd 16, i took it for 3 months and 3 was the lucky number! i am really glad i took it.

 

micorazon - February 26

Hi Becca...I am also from the miscarriage forum and recently found out that I am pregnant. Due date 11/4. In my hope to think positive I too decided to post in the first trimester forums as well. I can completely relate to what you are experiencing because I am so early in my pregnancy this time and want to be excited and enjoy this experience but am completely nervous. It is great that you heard the heartbeat and that you are almost done with your first trimester. Those are two tremendous milestones.

 

BeccaC - February 26

Welcome to the thread CR! I am so sorry about both your m/c's. When are you due? It must be late Sept/Early Oct? You didn't mention if your m/c were back to back or in between children - not that it matters - I was just wondering. I wish you all the best on your u/s - please keep us informed!! TK07 - How are you???? Thanks for answering the clomid question - I had no idea what that was. I am glad you took it too - because now we can chat about the little beans in our bodies! I am glad you are calling your dr about more frequent u/s. Sometimes doctors see so many m/c that I think they forget how much the moms suffer and worry when they get pg again. Every week is an eternity. Just make sure its covered under your insurance - LOL! In my opinion, I wouldn't get a doppler for home. I heard they are really expensive and there is not much to see. Save your money for all those diapers and wipes you will be buying! Looking back at what I wrote, when I said someone told me I could find out the gender, that "someone" was a friend, and not medical staff. I was surprised about that too - and it seems too good to be true to find out the s_x at 12 weeks. I've never had an u/s there (its 45 min away) but they are offering this new genetic testing option for women under 35. It basically lets you know if your baby has downs or other genetic defect early in your pregnancy so that you have the option to abort. But that is not the reason I am going. I decided that whatever they find, good or bad, I will NEVER EVER EVER terminate the pregnancy due to a genetic defect. If this is what God gives me, I am so blessed that I am pregnant that I will accept it. The REAL reason why I agreed to this genetic testing is to see my baby. I enjoy seeing the fluttering line on the u/s machine, but I cant wait to see my little peanut on "High Definition Television!!" Are anyone's pants getting tighter? Because I have a child, I understand you "pop out" quicker than your first one. I don't think I am eating any more, but I feel heavier.

 

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