Baby Shower

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Lynn - April 27

O.K. guys, who's supposed to give your baby shower? My feelings are that either Mom or a Sister if you have one, I don't so that would be Mom. She's very old fashioned and still lives a bit back in the 60's when it was not "proper" for moms to give showers. But nowadays, I feel that it is O.K. & completley accepted. I am 29 and EVERY baby shower I have been to in my life has been given by the Grandma to be... What do you guys think?

 

Maddie - April 27

Hmmm...my mom and my aunts are giving my baby shower. I'd say talk to your mom and see what she thinks about different ideas. Print out some pictures of invitations, games, and items that you registered for and see how she responds. Try to get her excited about the baby shower. Does she have any sisters or close friends that could help her plan it? Also, does your boyfriend or husband have any sisters, aunts, or maybe even his mom would want to help. I think Books A Million has some great books on baby showers too, so you could buy it and show it to her next time you go out to lunch or something. You definately need a baby shower though, because there are so many people who LOVE to spoil you with baby items!

 

Maleficent - April 27

alot of the old ettiquet about showers has gone out the window. i've seen couples throw their own showers and manage to do it in a tasteful way. if you think your mom would pull a miss maners on you if you suggest she host a shower start dropping hints with friends. you cant teach an old dog new tricks, and you cant crack what your mother deems bad ettiquet.

 

chel - April 27

Etiquette has really changed over the years. My mom has always thrown my showers. This is my third child and we've also had a shower for each one.

 

nhb - April 27

My mom threw mine w/ my son. I'm rather upset though, I just found out she's not giving me one this time! I don't know how I'm going to survive without that b/c if we have a girl, we're going to be in big trouble clothes-wise b/c EVERYTHING we got before was blue. Totally acceptable for the grandma-to-be to throw a shower.

 

Davida - April 27

I think a shower should be given by your mother or a very close long time friend maybe. My mother and sisters gave the only shower I had with my oldest. With my second I was adament about NOT having another one. I personally think you should only get one unless the children are 7 years or more apart in age or maybe if your second pregnancy is multiples.

 

viv - April 27

For my SIL's baby, my MIL and myself threw the shower. My best friend had a shower with her first, but another friend she hadn't even known that long insisted on throwing it, so now with her second baby she let me know she was pregnant right away and told me to throw her a shower! I think anyone can throw the shower, but usually it's either the grandma-to-be or a close friend or relative. If your mom doesn't want to throw the shower, have one of your close friends do it. I wasn't at all taken aback when my friend told me to throw hers this time around...I was happy! That's what best friends are for! Good luck with everything.

 

viv - April 27

Also I wanted to add that I think you should have a shower for every baby you have. You need things like diapers and formula if you b___stfeed, and new nipples and pacifiers, and you will need some new clothes, with every single baby, I don't know why some people feel like you should only have the one shower with your first baby. It is a celebration, to celebrate your baby coming into this world, and every baby deserves that celebration! It's not just about the gifts.

 

viv - April 27

I meant formula if you DON'T b___stfeed! oops!

 

Heidi - April 27

I would think your mom would but if she is leery about doing it, offer to help her with ideas and games and stuff. I plan to help my mom out just so it goes the way I want it to and she doesn't pick boring stuff to do. Ha ha! Some people dread baby showers but I've been to some really fun ones and that's what I want mine to be, fun.

 

chel - April 27

Viv - I agree with you. I really think you should have a shower for every baby you have. It's a celebration. And, I don't care how many kids you have, things get wore out quick. you always need new stuff.

 

Lynn - April 27

You see, I kinda feel like my mom SHOULD throw the shower & I'm a little p__sed that she doesn't really wnat to. I am her only daughter so she's only going to get 1 chance at it! Also, I'm adopted so she has never really had any experience in the whole pregnancy/baby shower/etc field.... She just foundout that my MIL is having one for me in N.J. (I'm in MD) because most of the family up there won't be able to travel to MD for the one down here.. 6 hours is a little long to drive for a baby shower, unless it's like your sister or something. So maybe once she gets a chance to think about that a little, then she'll change her mind.

 

Davida - April 27

A celebration is a lovely idea. If you invite friends and family over maybe even after the baby is born and they brings gifts, great! However a shower brings the expectaion that a gift is necessary. I know that babies are expensive and things wear out but that's the price you pay for a growing family.

 

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