How Do You Know

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Shaelynn - April 22

Hi, I'm 23 and happily married. I have never been really "attracted", for lack of better word, to babies like some women are but for the last few weeks I have been thinking about getting pregnant constantly. I have been researching online, but he whole process of pregnancy and labour seems sooo scary. I know if I mentioned this to my husband he would be totally supportive since he loves children and can't wait to have his own. I know this is kind of a silly question with no straight answer, but how do you know when you are ready to have children? Any opinions would be valued. Thanks


nhb - April 22

I don't think anyone's ever fully ready . . . there's always going to be some reason not to be ready to have one. But if you know you'll love it and your baby will be well cared for, I think those are the two most important things. And I don't mean financially, just be able to have the time and desire to take care of your child--most mothers have that as soon as the baby's born though. I think the fact that you're concerned about being ready shows good motherhood skills though; it takes a whole lot of planning and preparation and everything else for a baby!! Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you!


KrisD - April 22

As my parents put it, you will never be completely ready. And I think that is so true. I wondered if I was ready for marriage, it is the best decision I ever made. I wondered if we were ready to buy a home, we did it and we are handling it just fine. I wanted to have the house furnished and enough money in the bank and maybe a new car and this and that... Well, everything is certainly not all ready, but we have a baby on the way and we couldn't be happier. After we tried to get pregnant that first month and it didn't happen, THEN I knew how ready I was to have a baby! My only advice is to make sure you have had enough time to enjoy each other first! A baby will change everything... Just being pregnant has already changed so much! Best wishes!


Melissa - May 2

I Have been on birth control for 5 yrs and I have had unprotected s_x but not in the first seven days of the pill. Am I pregnant


Jamie - May 2

Melissa, 1) take a test, 2) start your own thread. Shaelynn - talk to your husband; cause even if you start trying now, there's no guarantee that you will get pregnant right away, and even if you do, you still have 9 months to get used to the idea! Pregnancy is a wonderful, beautiful thing - I've loved every minute of it (except the morning sickness). But, if you really want to know, if any of your friends have infants, baby-sit for a few days straight, like a weekend or something. It'll give you an idea on what to expect.


prego nc - May 2

You sound a little like me. I was not expecting to get pregnant, but I did and had a very hard time dealing with it to start with. Didn't know what to do. Worried about my body, having a child on my hip everywhere I went, future relationships (if me and BF didn't work out) you name it. But, I am now 21 weeks along and due in Sept. and I must say that is has been amazing so far. Feeling her move and kick has been completley worth it and the 18 wk ultrasound!!! WOW is all I can say! So glad I didn't make any hasty decisions in the beginning. Good luck!


nicolettea smithenson - May 4

can you tell me ten top signs of being pregnant without taking anykind of test


Shannon . - July 14

How do i know if i am pregnant? i am 23 years old and i am marred woman.



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