Is Everyone Breastfeeding

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J - July 13

I am just curious I am going to formula feed my son and it seems like every time I tell someone they think I am a horrible mother!


chelsey - July 13

you arent horrible, although b___st milk is the best thing for your baby, especially right off the start.. it needs those nutrients and vitamins, that colostrum will give it. You could try to b___stfeed for the first couple of days, just to give it that extra boost. Any particular reason why you dont want to b___stfeed?


J - July 13

I had trouble with my son and once he switched over to formula everything was smoothe sailing. I had PPD really bad and I know this time around it isn't going to be easy to sit around trying to b___stfeed with a 3 year old and a husband who works 24/7. I just think formula feeding is best for me I found it easier and when my husband is home he helps get up in the middle of the night to feed. I'm not trying to sound selfish but I remember just sitting there for hours trying to feed and it never worked out right it was more frustrating. My 3 year old has always been really healthy so I guess he was OK with it.


chelsey - July 13

I know lots of Moms who chose not to b___stfeed, and they have perfectly healthy kids too. I understand, I have a 3 year old, and I'm not sure how I'm going to do it either. Everybody has an opinion about b___stfeeding. But I say, whats right for one person, may not be right for another. Dont let anyone make you feel bad.


J - July 13

Thanks I just hate the way people judge I have a sister in law who b___stfed all her kids for the first year and none of them ever slept through the night she was always feeding them and kept getting b___st infections and her doctor told her to stop but she kept going. It just seemed like she didn't pay attention to anything but the feeding. I just don't want to be so involved that my 3 year old misses out. He has been an only child for so long I know it will be hard for him to adjust. Also I am one of those people who is pretty private I wouldn't want to do it in front of people.


tiffani~edd 11/07/05 - July 13

There's absolutely nothing horrible about formula feeding. If that's what suits your situation, then that's the way it should be. Screw those others who make you feel like less of a mother for not. I do plan on b___stfeeding, but I usually only last 4-5 months then I have to quit for my sanity and for some sleep. You do what works for you. As my pediatrician told me "If you can look out on the playground and point out the b___stfed and bottlefed children, maybe then there's an arguement, but until then there is absolutely nothing to feel guilty about." I had a really hard time with guilt each time I decided to stop b___stfeeding my children. The guilt was because of the comments from friends, family, and strangers. This time, I don't think i'll take their comments so graciously. :o)


Heidi - July 13

I'm going to try to b___stfeed but I have a feeling once I go back to work it isn't going to go so great as I can't pump while at work. I'd like to just pump and feed with a bottle instead and might try that right away.


tara - July 13

You have to do what is right for you and the rest of your family. Don't listen to what other people say, they are not living in your house hold to see what goes on day in and day out. You are considering your 3 year old as well, and there is no argument against that. This is our first and I will try to b___stfeed, but if it doesn't work out I'm not going to worry about it and move on to formula. I know for a fact that formula fed babies sleep for longer and tend to be more peaceful. There are pros and cons to everything and you have to do what is best for you based on your lifestyle.


Christy - July 13

I have done both. With my daughter b/c of a few complications, I did not b___stfeed her until day 3. She was a premmie and would nurse for an hour at a time. I only nursed her for a few months and during the time I did we also used bottles and she switched back & forth great. With my son I nursed him for 8 months and it was so much easier. He would feed so much faster and it was so much easier at night. Most of the time I would take him back to bed w/ me. I think formula fed babies are just as healthy, but if you tried b___stfeeding you might find it easier at bedtime. Mine were always satisfied and content w/ b___stmilk, but I know all kids are different. Whatever you decide don't feel bad. All that matters is that baby is fed and you still have hair left!


l - July 13

i don't think you're a horrible mother. i'm not going to b___stfeed b/c i will be back on meds right after my baby's birth. when people ask me if i will b___stfeed i tell them no and i don't go into any detail as to why i won't b___stfeed. of course they look at me funny and give me their opinion. it doesn't bother me anymore b/c it's my decision and i leave it at that. so don't worry about it. you've made the best decision for you.


Leigh - July 13

I only b___stfed our son for the first couple of weeks. I really really wanted to keep b___stfeeding, but it was very hard being that he was in NICU. They say that the most important part of your b___stmilk is the colustrum that is present during the baby's first few days of life. Maybe you could try for the first few days while your still in the hospital, and then switch him to formula once you get home?


miranda - July 13

Using formula does not make you a horrible mother. Thank the Lord we have the choices we do! Our very good friends from church just adopted a baby boy because they couldn't have children of their own, and would they have been able to easily do that if they didn't have formula? I would like to say that I am a big b___stfeeding advocate as well. If it just works out best in the long run to use formula, then use formula, but what I try to tell other new moms is not to base their decision on the first 2 or 3 weeks. Breastfeeding becomes easy and convenient and wonderful AFTER the first few days. And also cheap, which is one of my biggest reasons for doing it. Hope all goes well for you!


P - July 13

I'm b___stfeeding right now. I don't love it. Have you thought about pumping? That may be an alternative. It's not always possible but my friend pumped for twins for six months with a rented hospital grade pump. Mind you she pumped every three hours... Though I do think b___stmilk is better I don't think you're a horrible mother at all. If formula is what's best for your family go for it


E - July 13

Ignore those people. BF is not easy and for some, it is impossible. You feeding your baby is what is important. I might have judged you (slightly) prior to having a baby but now that I am a mom and cannot exclusively bf, I can insert my foot directly into my mouth. La Leche League would crucify me, and definitely you, LMAO!!


KrisD - July 13

I am still unsure of what I am going to do.... We'll see. Most days I believe that I am going to at least try it. I, too, am very private and am a little concerned about that. Also, regardless of my decision, I hear that the hospital staff can be extremely pushy with the subject and that has me a little concerned as well.


Katharine - July 13

I think that, first off, b___stfeeding takes a huge commitment. I think one has to commit to doing it and plan to deal with related consequences (like-it sometimes sucks!). That said, there really are reasons that women can't physically or realistically continue b___stfeeding and need or want/have to stop, but going into it with a strong commitment is necessary. If you're not commited to it going in, I think it is less likely to work. As for being a bad mother, only you know what will work best for you and that is all that matters. When most of us were born, the trend was just changing from all formula to all b___st. I think it is important that women are educated about b___stfeeding, then make the best choice for their family. It is great that we have a choice these days!


Jodie - July 13

I had a lot of trouble b___stfeeding my first, so i b___st and bottle fed for a few months before changing to bottle, with my second i decided to give b___stfeeding a go but if it didnt work out again i wasnt gonna beat myself up about it, it worked perfectly the second time



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