Need Serious Help Please Help Me

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anon14x - October 2

Whoever reads this post, please help as best as you can and give me any information -- this story will be semi long, and what i need to know is when was my probable dates for ovulation, when did i most likely conceive, and who most likely is the baby's father. Ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 and a half years, in the beginning of this year we decided we would start trying to have a baby. We have unprotected s_x probably 2 times at the least to 3 or 4 times at most a week. My last date of my period was March 9th, 2007, and from past history my cycle usually lasts between 31-34 days, 35 at MOST but usually that never happens. However, on the night of April 1st 2007 i had unprotected s_x once with a guy who i had recently met, and now im unsure of who my babys father is. Im not sure if this matters, but the guy who i had the one night stand with drinks and smokes constantly, not just cigarettes but sometimes weed and i didnt know if this mattered. My boyfriend never smoked anything or drank anything in his life. I found out i was pregnant on April 10th or 11th, and according to my ultrasound my due date is December 13th. Im scared to death of having a DNA test done, because i dont want the other guy to be the baby's father, nor do i want to ruin anything with my current boyfriend/future husband. so who is most likely the babys father?? and how much of a chance is there that the other man is the babys father? when were my probable dates of conception? and when did i most likely ovulate?


Tory1980 - October 2

I usually had a cycle of 33-35days meaning I ovulated between CD15 and CD18 (roughly half way through my cycle). I have ovulated as early as CD12 though. The fact you found out April 10th/11th means more than likely you were pregnant when you slept with this other guy. Going by LMP and length of cycle your due date should be between the 16th and the 19th December. They usually calculate it by adding 7days onto your first day of the LMP and then add nine months. This is based on the average 28day cycle but with you being longer you add the extra days. With the due date from the scan it would mean you possibly ovulated around CD16/CD17 meaning 25/26thMarch and conception could have taken place anytime between 22nd- 28th March if you were earlier or later. Does this help any? If you are still in doubt then it is important to find out who the baby's father is.


lenae_manning - October 3

Hun, from what I read and know. I wouldnt worry about the other man being the babies father. Like Tory said more than likely you were already pregnant before you slept with the other man. Normally you wont find out your pregnant until your about 4-5weeks along. Relax, i dont think you need to worry. But if still in doubt get a test.


anon14x - October 3

Thank you both so much


Skyeblue - October 4

Anon14x, I am sorry but there is NO WAY to say who fathered your child. No one on here can tell you with certainty , so consider it a 50/50 chance....Sperm can live up to 5 days inside you, you already said your cycle can vary by 5 days. Also depending on when you had your u/s you can only ESTIMATE (hence the name EDD). I have put in all your dates with different scenarios in various EDD calculators that work forwards and backwards and the possible days of conception vary enough to include April 1st as a possible date of conception. You obviously made a mistake and we should not judge that. BUT NOW DO THE RIGHT THING. Everyone involved deserves you to come forward and tell the truth. Ideally if you are planning a child (as you said) you are in a VERY stable and committed relationship, which OBVIOUSLY you are not. You have a chance to make things better, do the right thing.


anon14x - October 5

thank you.



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