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Firstly, i just wanted to say that i really don't mean to upset anyone, and if i do then i appologise now! Ok, I'm 20 years old, and my sister is 18. About 4 months ago she told me she was pregnant. She wasn't going to keep it, and was booked in for a termination. I got really upset by this, as me and my dp have been trying for a while. We both have brilliant jobs, live together etc, a baby would be perfect for us! Anyway, she was at college, living with my parents still, no job etc. I put all my feelings aside though and promised my sister i'd be there for her no matter what. She's still my best friend at the end of the day! Anyway, she got booked in for her termination, and she seemed fine! Laughing, joking around etc. Me and dp went away for one weekend, and when we got home, i found out my sister was having a miscarrige. I was with her all day on Sunday, and sat with her through every contraction holding her hand. I'll never forget that day. The ambulance arrived and whisked her and my mum away. The next time i saw her was on the Tuesday, and she was back to normal! She was still bleeding, but she told me she felt fine! She acted it too. I know my sister, and i know she was lying, so i just made sure i phoned her a lot and went round to see her. After a couple of weeks she was fine and looing forward to her 18th in April, arranging her party etc, and everything seemed to be back to normal! But then, i missed my period. After everything that had been going on i'd totally forgotten everything about baby making! I mean you would wouldn't you! Anyway, i found out i was pregnant! I made sure though that my sister was the first to know, i thought the last thing i want is for her to find out from someone else and get all upset! She was over the moon when i told her! She was so happy! For the first couple of months she was fine with everything, taking me baby shopping etc. I felt i had to keep saying to her 'if this ever gets too much for you, all you have to do is say, and I'll shut up!' But, nope, she wouldn't hear anything of it! Anyway, i recently heard my babies heart beat for the first time! It was amazing! I phoned and told my Mum about it, and she said 'oh well, don't tell anyone just yet....let me break the news to your sister first, that was why she misscarried, the babies heart stopped' I dont mean to sound funny, but all the way through, i've been incredibly supportive of my sister, and she's been fine with everything! When something bad happens you 'break' the news to them, not when you hear your babies heart beat! I'm just so angry! Do you think i'm over reacting? When i showed them the scan picture too, they both looked at it and went 'oh thats nice' and walked off! The thing is though, is that when her bf isn't there shes lovely about everything, but when he is, she acts all upset! I mean 2 days after the m/c and she was running around, drinking, going out etc. And now me and my baby are having to tip toe round her. I don't want to come across as being harsh, i would do anything to avoid upsetting anyone, but i'm 4 months now, known for 3, if she has a problem why not just say it? Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this at all??? I really need help! Sorry for the long post! And again sorry if i've offended anyone! xxxx
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