Sometimes I Hate Him

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big belly - February 12

God my husband is a moron. Sometimes i just hate him, and i know that is not very nice, but i just dont think he cares about my feelings at all. My 8 year old dog died 2 weeks ago, it was very unexpected, and im absolutly heartbroken. He was really my life. Im 25 weeks pregnant with our first baby. I love the baby very much, but Bear was everything to me and i really loved him like he was my child. I had him cremated and after i got his remains back i had a funeral with a few family members. Nick(the moron) made me feel so stupid about having a funeral for him when he was "just a dog". I tried to explain how destroyed i feel about the whole thing and how important it was to me to have the gathering. He asked me what kind of dog i wanted to get now. I know i will eventually have another dog, but i cant even think about that now. I need time to deal with my feelings, and id like a little comfort and support from him. No matter how much i tell him this he just dosent get it. Im falling apart, and he just dosent care. I hate him for not trying to help me in my horribal feelings of loss. Bear was never "just a dog". I dont know what to do about him, and i dont know how to pick up my pieces and start to move forward. Please help me with some kind words.

 

lovemy3 - February 12

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your dog. When I was 33 weeks pregnant with my second child, my 12 yr old shepherd pa__sed away and I was devastated. It is very sad at the best of times and with pregnancy it is even harder, with all the emotions that go along with that. Men don't see things the way women do often and also handle their emotions differently. Try and ignore your husbands lack of emotion and go through the grieving of Bear. Its hard to beieve now, but time will heal the wounds of sorrow and you will always have memories of your beloved dog. It is very sad, and I feel for you right now. Try and not let dh make this even more stressful, men often just don't get things like we do. Hope you are feeling better soon.

 

AmySmoak - February 12

I have 2 dogs that are my babies! I treat them as if they are my children! We don't have kids yet, but we are TTC. I love those 2 so much and if anything ever happend to them I would be devistated. Sometime men handle things VERY differently than women do, and tend to insensitive. I am so sorry for your loss. Keep your memories close to your heart! My thoughts are with you! Take care.

 

babymakes5 - February 12

I'm soooo sorry! My girlfriend just lost her cat of 18 years a week ago and she was devastated too. Of course I had to console her because her bf didn't think much about it. And being pregnant on top of it. Sometimes I cry over road kill!! Get a note from your dr-lol-telling him that you have every right to grieve over your loss! I hope you feel better and like lovemy3 said, only time can heal the wounds, just go through every feeling and call a friend if you need to-good luck!

 

big belly - February 13

Thanx everyone. Amy- Please dont take your dogs for granted. Make every minute of your lives togather happy, because one day they wont be with you. Sometimes the only thing that keeps me going is knowing that Bear had a happy life. He did. He was so loved, and i know he was very happy. Thank you for your words of support.

 

Pipa - February 14

Maybe you could write a little story about Bear (with or without illustrations) to give to your new child. It can pa__s on your love for Bear and help you express some of your own emotions at the same time giving your child a beautiful and unique gift.

 

jendean00 - February 15

I must count myself lucky. I am a huge dog lover and and so is my husband. We lost our 13 year old Pit bull last year and we were devasted. We still miss her especially since I am pregnant she was so good with our nieces when they were young we pictured how she would be with our baby. We still have 2 other dogs that are whole world right now. I really don't know what I would do without them. I am so sorry for your loss and your inconsiderate husband. I think Pipa had a wonderful idea about the story for your baby. It might make you reflect on all those wonderful memories you had with him and lessen the sadness a little bit.

 

DUESEPTEMBER28TH - February 15

I HAVE A FIVE YR OLD DAUGHTER(FELINE), I LOVE HER SO MUCH I TAKE CARE OF HER LIKE I TAKE CARE OF MY SON WHO IS 3YRS OLD AND A HUMAN, FOR EXAMPLE I EVEN TAKE HER TO THE DENTIST!!! IF SHE DIED I WOULD HAVE A FUNERAL FOR HER AND I WOULD FEEL DEVASTATED!

 

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