Torn Up

5 Replies
pinkbo0tlace - June 18

Oh you guys, lol. Man, I have NO idea where to start. Well, I got pregnant in March, and my now ex bf dumped me at the end of April, because I did not get an abortion. Two weeks after we broke up, he started having s_x with a "friend" (whom we BOTH hung out with while we were together!) and now they "really enjoy eachothers company", etc...etc...She has totally replaced me in his life, just like I vanished and she just magically came about. She hangs out with his family, friends, etc...everything me & him used to be. People see them getting there freak on in public, and they call eachother constantly. I am so broken hearted. I love this man with all of my heart, but it's very easy to too see he does not love and respect me. I have been so depressed I cry every day (im now 4 months) and I had to get on anti-depressants. He is more then willing to have s_x with me, but it's hush-hush to his "friend", and tells me that she is just a "time filler" and he wants to "do what he is gunna do before the baby is born and has to settle down" - meaning, he is using this girl. She talks horrible about me too, and she doesn't know me on a personal level! how rude! also - my ex love is getting more and more into drugs, which breaks my heart because I knew him BEFORE he was EVER like this!! I just feel shattered!! How can I get over him? I don't want to cry anymore!


mandee25 - June 18

Oh man I feel bad for you hun. I don't know what to say other than LEAVE his a__s. If he's going to be acting like this now, who knows what kind of a father he could be to your child. Cheating, drugs, etc......This cannot be love. There's someone better out there for you. DUMP HIM!


KLT - June 19

I'm sorry you are feeling so bad about this...but the answer is simple (even if it doesn't feel that way).... FORGET HIS ASS! He is no good for you or your baby. You are much better off without him. You are only fooling yourself if you think he will change...he won't! It'll take time to get past this...and especially with your pregnancy hormones kicking...but you can do it. What would you tell your friend...or anyone on this site, if they posted the same thing you just did? Hang in there...if anything, we are all here for you. : )


livdea - June 19

wait...he's acting like this before baby comes just to get it out of his system? I know its so much easier said then done but leave his a__s girl! It's going to be tough but you have got to be have a BABY to worry about! Stop sleeping with him and get your act together...your NUMBER 1 focus is YOU and your CHILD. Forget him, do whatever it takes, drugs, s_x...whatever is not healthy for you or your want your baby brought up with that kind of life style? of course not. Let him go and hopefully he'll get his act together and wake up...until then, move on and get happy! Good luck!


NURSEJ - June 20

well 1st of all that girl was never ur friend she was always trying to fill ur spot just waiting for the right chance.. some women are like that they can't find their own man so they hunt and pray on other women men. 2nd if it is his baby u eventually have 2 deal with this man, just let him have some visitation and collect ur child support. and 3rd u should never let any human make u sick to the point of anti depressant pills, and it sounds like this man is not even worth it anyway. keep ur head up, carry ur child have a strong heathy baby.. and **** them both..


CHYNA - June 20

How old are you........There's no easy way to tell a person how to get over an ex. SORRY :-( you just have to be seriously through with the pain and heart ach and ready, truly ready to move on. Once that is done there's nothing that a man can do to hurt you. Sweetheart you deserve better. Until you realize that you’re going to keep crying. A man can only do what you allow. You have a health and beautiful baby growing inside you knowing that should bring you so much joy. With that said there's no reason to cry or be heart broken. Move on let your baby help you get over him.



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