When To Have 2nd Baby

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JenNYC - November 22

I have a 5 month old little boy and he is such a easy and calm baby. I want to have my children close in age, but I do not want to jeapordize my babies health/happiness by having a second too soon after. When is a good time to get pregnant so that the kids are close in age but not too close? Any thoughts or ideas?


jennifer_33106 - November 23

You should wait atleast a year in my opinion. That way the baby you have now has lots of time alone with mama and daddy, if you are BFing then you dont have to stop so early , and also you need to give your body a chance to recover. What we are doing is trying to plan some break inbetween our kids. We are pregnant with the first and want to wait 2-3 after this one to have another for the reasons listed above and also so our check book gets a break. Trying to put 2-3 kids all through collage at the same time is a scary thing. haha GL!!


soccerbabi68 - November 23

me and my brother are about 2 and half years apart and me and my sister are 13 months apart....i abos___tely love having my siblings soo close because when i was little i always had a playmate and didnt have to depend on making friends outside of the home. as we got older we grew apart but closer at the same time. we developed our own friendships outside of the home (even though me and my sister are int he same age group and she sort of used to attach herself to my friends we are closer then ever) im 19 and i think having the children close together is a benefit for the child. yeah my parents went through some money issues but who doesnt nowa days and its nice to have the kids close in age for playmates so when you need a break you can sit them in a room to play together and they can share the same toys and clothing if they end up being the same s_x


filly06 - November 27

JenNYC, funny you ask...I have a 5 month old little girl and was wondering the same thing! ha! I would love to try for another one right now, but on the other hand I think I will wait until she turns 1. My sister and I were 13 months apart and it was great I am sure for my parents to entertain the smae age group...so waiting until my daughter is one wont create a huge age gap. I was nto one who LOVED being pregnant...I had a very easy pregnany- thank goodness...it's just that I LOVED the end result, but just so ready to 'get the next pregnancy over with'. Have you made a decision on if you are going to wait or not? Oh and jennifer_33106, I hear ya on the college financing! ;) My husband and I recently opened a 529 for our daughter in hopes to cushion the b__w...we are asking grandparents not to be SO extravagant with gifts and contribute to her 529.


kendall - November 30

I have 2 babies, a 22 month old daughter and a 7 month old son, they are 14.5 months apart and we are TTC #3. We want our babies close together and we are glad that we had them this close together. Our dd loves her little brother, and he gets so excited when she plays with him. We want 5 kids and hope to be done by the time we are 35, we are both 23 now. I think that if you feel like you could share your love between 2 kids, go ahead, my babies are my world and I would not want it any other way.



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