2 Month Old Won T Sleep

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Kylan - January 18

Hello! My 2 1/2 month old dd has a very tough time falling asleep, especially at night. She will fall asleep in my arms or her swing but as soon as I put her in her crib she wakes up! I try to soothe her while she is still in the crib but she is so worked up that she won't fall asleep again unless I pick her up and hold her. This goes on for at least 2 hours a night until she finally stays asleep or I just let her sleep in our bed. I have tried everything including swaddling which makes her even more agitated. She won't nap in her crib during the day, she will only nap in her swing or on me. Any ideas on how I can get her to stay asleep in her crib? Oh and if she sleeps in our bed she'll sleep for 5 hours straight but only 2-3 hours in the crib.


kimberly - January 18

All I can say is consistancy is the key. The only advice I can give would be to always practice the same routine for naps and bedtime. If you want her in her crib only lay her in her crib for sleep and never give in to the swing or your bed. It will take a while but eventually if you don't give in she will fall asleep and stay asleep in her crib. This is hard I know but if you keep at it it will work. You may have a few sleepless nights but it will pay off.


ginger6363 - January 18

I have a 4.5 month old and we've fought this battle since day one...*sigh*


mamatom - January 18

also, try putting her in the crib while she's awake. I used to do this with my boy and he has no problems sleeping anywhere... I used to put him to sleep in crib at night, but in the morning would bring him to bed. Now he sleeps wherever.


January - January 18

no answer for you, my dd is the same way and sleeps with me lol


Kylan - January 18

ha ha...thanks for the replies...looks like I'm going to have to tough it out.


britt_m - January 18

I agree with Kimberly, consistancy, don't give in! It is rough but things will be easier for the both of you or three of you including DH, haha. Good luck.


Tink - January 18

just wanted to offer my sympathies....i am right there with you. my 11 week old is doing the same thing.....we never resort to putting him in the swing or car seat though, i just don't want to start that bad habit as the easy way out. but man, sticking it out is hard. our problem is he won't go to sleep until late- like 11pm or later. these last few nights, he has slept or napped from 8pm-11pm or so, then is up until 3am or so. last night he was up at 11;30, 12:30, 1:30, 2:30 and 3;30. he wasn't hungry all those times, but just wouldn't sleep, he would sleep for a bit, then wake up fussing again. he will fall asleep for 15-20 minutes, then is up crying. and i have to go upstairs all over again. we just moved him upstairs to his crib 2 weeks ago. he was in a ba__sinet in our room prior. we just can't get it figured out. but are still just working on it. it is so tempting to just put him in his swing to sleep, but i am doing my best to stick it out. we've never had him in the bed with us, we just didn't want to set that expectation either. so it isn't easy, but i am just hoping it will get better soon.


Kylan - January 18

Tink, that sounds exactly like the problem we are having! My dd won't fall asleep until at least midnight but usually not until one or so. I keep reading that you can't spoil an infant and while I do believe that I also believe that bad habits start early so what is the solution? How long do you let him fuss in his crib before you pick him up? Everynight has become like a pattern for us. I lay dd down in crib and she sleeps for 15-20 min, just long enough for us to begin to hope she is down for the night. ugh. Then she starts to whine which quickly turns into a panicked scream. As soon as I get to her crib to check on her she gets this big smile on her face and my heart melts. Its amazing how she can go from out cold to wide awake in a matter of seconds. Thank goodness I decided not to return to work for a few more months. I can't imagine having to go to work when she's not sleeping much at night!


Nerdy_Girl_10242006 - January 18

have you tried her baths before bed on the days she does take her baths?...that helps some babies. Does she have a crip toy that plays music to help soothe her? My daughter hated taking naps in her crib...but we put her in there to play on her own, we did a few things with her while she was there and she finally feels comfortable. Does she have a night light? Maybe she is scared of the dark if she knows mom isn't there. Do you b___stfeed or bottle feed? If she bottle feeds give her a bottle and lay her down there while she is eating so she can get comfortable...if you are b___stfeeding and can pump, just do it that way. My daughter sleeps with me and has since day 1 so I know it will be hard. I have put her in the crib 2 nights and I eventually ended up getting her because her room is before ours and if someone was to break in, her room would be the first they would go in so I'm scared of doing that. Once I have this baby (6 weeks pregnant) I will beg my husband to switch rooms, now he won't cause ours hers is to small...but I think it would be better to get her away from the door.


Nerdy_Girl_10242006 - January 18

crib toy*, ours is to small* excuse any other typos lol


maryg - January 18

I had the same problem with my daughter and it was right about 2 months that I posted on this site! It was suggested to me to start a bedtime routine, which we did and it REALLY helped! I think the nightly bath at the same time does the trick. She does sleep in our bed though--I find it so much easier to nurse her that way. I have read that if you're trying to get the baby to sleep away from you when they're used to sleeping with you, you can put something that smells like you in the crib with them---like a b___st pad if you're nursing. Not sure if it works though! Good luck to you! I remember how hard it was to lose all that sleep and I hope some of these suggestions work for you soon!


Kylan - January 19

Thanks for everyones tips. Right now she we have to share a room w/ our dd because our house is only 2 bedroom and we also have a 10yo son. This is my second marriage and we weren't planning on having any more children for a few more years. (I was a young mom w/ my first) Anyhow we recently bought another home but don't plan to actually move until summer because it is in a different school district and we don't want our son to have to change schools in the middle of the year. I'm not sure if having her in our room is contributing to the problem or not. Maybe she senses us in there and feels like she needs to be with us? We do have the aquarium toy that attaches to the side of her crib which she loves but she gets excited when it is on which just makes her even more wound up. How long should I let her cry before picking her up? I think she is still too little to try letting her cry it out. Do your babies actually sleep in bed w/ you and if so how do you position them? I have let her sleep in bed w/ us a couple of times in the crook of my arm but am so afraid of her being smothered by blankets or even me! BTW congrats nerdygirl (cute name). Its funny how easy it is for us moms to be so paranoid about everything involving our kids and the dads think we are nuts for "overreacting". we have tried a routine but haven't been very stict w/ it so I should make more of an effort to try and follow it. Sorry for the long post but thanks for the advice!


jenna32 - January 20

Does anybody find changing their position when they sleep helps their lo sleep longer? i know i'm really not supposed to do it because of sids but when i put dd on her tummy she seems to sleep longer, is it the same for anybody else? she also doesn't get to sleep until around 1am. i will put her down on her back and she will be up within minutes,no matter what time!


Tink - January 21

Our LO has never slept in bed with us. it just wasn't something we agreed on doing. I did BF at first, but i got up and did it in another room so i didn't disturb my DH, so he could get some sleep. We moved our LO to his upstairs nursery alone 2 weeks ago. prior to that he was in the ba__sinet in our room, but not in our bed. I think he is fine with the move, he just won't go to sleep. i think he just has his days/nights mixed up again somewhat. we are slowly trying to move his bedtime back instead of expecting him to just switch from going to sleep at midnight to 7pm. that's asking a lot. so instead, we are just waiting and putting him down at 9 or 10pm and we will keep moving his bedtime back a little more as we can. I do a nighttime bath and I am trying to keep it the same time each night. i think unfortunately it stimulates him more than calms him. we usually do a bath, then a bottle that i feed him in his room in the rocker. then i burp him, hold him upright for 10-15 minutes or rock him (he has some reflux, so i can't put him down immediately or he spits up like everywhere). then i finally put him down......he never goes right to sleep. even if he was asleep in my arms, he wakes up and smiles and plays. i just go downstairs, get in bed and turn on the monitor. i usually let him cry about 5-10 minutes before i go up there and it usually takes that long to get his bottle ready anyways. he usually stops crying once i pick him up, but sometimes he doesn't. so who knows. we are just going to continue working on it, as i want him to be confident and independent in sleeping in his own crib in his own room. it will take time and it is frustrating, but i am hoping it will just improve if we keep a routine up.


blazin912 - December 20

i recommend a warm bath and mix a lil cereal in his bottle for the night,and that will really help him/her sleep.



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