Age To Potty Train

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Mommy - October 30

I have a 17 month old son who has shown a little interest in going to the potty. He will sit on his potty chair clothed and sometimes naked. He does this willingly but that's the extent. He usually ends up peeing on the floor because after a few he stands up. Does anyone have advice on whether to try to start serious now or to just wait a bit longer?


Jamie - October 31

I'd seriously start trying now...make it a game, see if he can get the pee into the bowl; after all, boys will eventually pee standing up, so why not start it now? I don't know how to get him to poo in the chair, though.


Lisa*9 - October 31

I have two boys and one was trained after his third birthday three months. My second knows how to use the potty but has no interest in it right now,I will wait till he is ready. As for training eariy a friend of mine had her trained son at one year old he wets the web still from time to time and he just turned six. So she is waiting till her now just turned one year old to want to train himself ,so he doesn't have to change the bed all the time. Do you ever wonder why they make goodnight for the reason training to early is my guess I suppose something to think about?


P - November 1

I was dry day and night at the age of 18 months. I was trained at the same time as my sister who is 18 months older than me. She wet the bed until she was 8 years old. Some wet some don't not sure if it has anything to do with when they're trained. I know a woman whose son was FULLY trained at the age of 9 MONTHS!!!! Wouldn't have believed it if I hadn't seen it with my own eyes. He's not extraordinary in any other way but d__n that's cool!! lol My neighbour says her son was trained at 12 months. You can only try and if he doesn't want to do it he won't. Good luck.


wondering - November 1

I just wanted to know.. the parents saying they have their child potty trained before a year.. or even 18 months.. how do you define potty trained? When I think of potty trained I think of a child who is going to the potty almost independently (maybe some help wiping or washing their hands) and am having a hard time picturing a one year old who is able to say they need to go to the bathroom, or able to take their pants off. Do you mean that your child can hold it until they are on the potty?? I am sorry, I do not want to be rude here.. I just feel there is a big difference between potty trained and able to use the potty.


to wondering - November 1

I agree with you exactly! I dont imagine a 9 month or even a one year old child, can go to the bathroom by themselves. I'm sure they are just trained to hold it until they are put on a potty.


Jamie - November 2

To wondering, according to your definition, my 6 year old niece isn't potty trained yet, because she has to be reminded to go to the bathroom.


wondering - November 2

Jamie, I'm sorry if what I said came out wrong. I am sure there is a huge difference in what you and I are talking about. At six years old I am bet your niece has no trouble going to the bathroom and it is just a matter of whether or not she is willing to stop playing order to take the time and actually go. I am just wondering if there are actually children out there who are mastering the vocabulary, and gross motor skills involved with using the bathroom, or if their parents definition of 'potty trained' is merely that their child will pee when placed on the potty, which is probably the most important step to potty train, but not the only aspect. I am sorry, but I do not believe potty training can happen over night, or over a weekend, because it's not just one thing you teach, it's more like a set of things (like removing pants and putting them back on, flushing, getting on and off the toilet, wiping themselves, washing their hands, the ability to say they need to go, to recognize when they need to go, ect) and most children under the age of two do not master all these things at once.


d - November 3

Here is a pamphlet for parents which may be of interest,---------------- TOILET TRAINING Toilet training is part of growing up and learning to have bladder and bowel control. It is a gradual process of learning and a time when parents need to be understanding, patient, giving support and encouragement. Children will learn and be ready at their own pace of development.-------------------------------------------------------------------- STEPS TO TOILET TEACHING SUCCESS A) EASE INTO IT: 1. Get your child used to the potty or toilet idea. 2. Read a book 3. Do not force your child to sit when he/she is not interested or gets frustrated 4. Allow your child to leave the potty/ toilet at any time 5. Sometimes the child may want to sit there even when the toilet is not needed 6. Stay with your child, read or talk while he/she is using the potty 7. Make the transition into underwear 8. Do disturb the child’s sleep after an hour to use the potty/toilet 9. At childcare, arrive the child in underwear and let the teacher know how long they last used the washroom. 10. Bring extra underwear and pants to daycare teacher. ------------------------------------------------ B) HAVE A ROUTINE: Begin training when your child shows signs of readiness approximately between 18 months – 3 years of age, for example: 1. He/she may have the urge to use the toilet and asks to go pee/poo 2. He/she may show facial expressions and change in posture, such as jumping; holding genitals; pulling the pants down 3. The child may wake up with a dry diaper. So immediately take them to go pee. 4. The child lets you know his/her diaper is wet or has poo and prefers being clean and dry. Start using underwear. 5. Parents / caregivers should encourage the child to use the potty at regular intervals, such as before and after sleeping or eating. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ C) PRAISE SUCCESSES: 1. Be positive even when making slow progress. 2. Do not criticize, belittle or put shame and blame for an accident (i.e. do not say “you’re a baby”) 3. Praise any effort such as pulling pants down or just sitting and trying. Do not reward with food or candy. 4. Try to avoid using pull-ups. If it is available children will use it. Do allow them to have accidents in an underwear. Eventually they will learn that it’s better to use the washroom than to get wet. It may be a lot of laundry for you but its worth the child’s learning process. Be calm and rea__suring that he/she can try next time and that it’s o.k. to have accidents because this sometimes happens to adults too! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- D) BE A MODEL: Allow the child to observe you sitting on the toilet, flushing and washing your hands to become comfortable with the routine or bring a doll and pretend the doll is “going potty”. See your pediatrician if your child is toilet trained and then starts to wet the bed regularly, because this may indicate a bladder infection; diabetes or emotional stress. Sometimes divorce or a new baby sibling may trigger accidents but usually this will not last for long. REFERENCES City of Toronto, Department of Public Health , Canada Spencer, P. (2000). Parenting: Guide to Your Toddler. Ballantine Books. New York. Well Beings. (1992) Canadian Paediatric Society. pg.944-945 ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Children may begin to show signs of potty training at about 20 months. At daycare where I work they are encouraged to be potty trained by 2 1/2 which is preschool. But even by then there are a few children that still use the diaper and the prechool teachers remove them all day except for nap time. If they pee its o.k. Its a lot of hard work for teachers to be changing the children and for parents to wash their clothes at home but from what I see is that children eventually click, maybe after a month. We try to avoid pee accidents by taking them to the washroom often, like every half hour. We take them to the wahroom ourselves because on their own they will not go and would rather play. Older preschool children of 5-6 years will go on their own as they need to. Anyways, with the younger preschoolers, the more successess they have, they look forward to going and holding on for next time. Sometimes we give sticker but we make a big deal when they make it to the toilet by praising a lot. Then we remove the diaper during nap and wake the child up earlier than others so that they can go pee.



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