Did I Do The Right Thing

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SonyaM - February 5

Sorry ahead of time if this is long but I want some opinions on this. My neighbor across the street has five kids under age six and her dh is deployed. She just hired a nanny (first day today) to come to the house in the afternoons and help. Today the nanny was to take the oldest three kids (age almost 6, 3 and 2) to the neighborhood park. Two other neighbors and myself were standing at the edge of her driveway talking when the nanny came out with the kids to leave. The older two were riding their bikes and youngest was to ride in the stroller to the park. I could see she was having trouble with the 2 y/o not wanting to get in the stroller. The older two were already on their bikes in the street riding (we live in a cul-de-sac). The next thing I know the nanny took the 2y/o inside and left the two older girls outside riding their bikes. She didn't say anything to us and she doesn't know us. This really concerned me so I called the mom tonight after the nanny left and I knew her kids would all be in bed and told her what happened. She seemed kind of annoyed with me for telling her. I think I did the right thing but my dh thinks I shouldn't have said anything. What do you guys think?


sahmof3 - February 5

Yes... I think you did the right thing. I can't understand her annoyance... I think it would be nice having some extra eyes and ears the first few days of having someone new watching my kids... then again, I am friends with most of my neighbors... I would hope they'd tell me if I was in that situation anad they thought the nanny's behavior was iffy!


ash2 - February 5

I agree, i would have done the same thing ! I would actually appreciate someone letting me know too....much rather a neighbor caught it before something happened , then the cop calling me an telling me something terrible had happened. Years ago you probably could have done that, but not now...


SonyaM - February 5

Oh good. Thanks ladies. Yeah and it's not like we don't know eachother. When her dh first left I was at her several times a week helping her out. I call and check on her all the time, run errands etc. We all know eachother on our street for the most part and I would want someone to do that for me too. I can't understand her annoyance either. Maybe she was just tired. Maybe I read her wrong but she sure didn't sound grateful.


ash2 - February 5

Maybe she was just disappointed that she thought she found a good nanny, and now she was going to have to find a way to " let her go " without hurting her feelings.....along with finding anoher nanny


piratesmermaid - February 5

You did the right thing. I mean if something happened and you hadn't said anything, you'd feel so guilty for keeping your mouth shut. Your neighbor has a right to know whats going on with her kids when she isn't there. I'd want someone to tell me if it was my kids, that's for sure!


Lisastar9 - February 5

Sonya is this the same neighbour who had her kid crying outside for 10 minutes,if it is the Mom is going to do more stupid things and is not to worried about her kids wealthfare. I am wrong,did the get the story right. Same person. If not the same person then you still did the right thing to call the Mother on the matter.


EMBERBABY - February 5

Definitely did the right thing, I would want to know this information so I would definitely appreciate any neighbor of mine taking the time to let me know.


Rabbits07 - February 6

You did right. She's probably just offended and feels like you're insinuating she made a poor choice in nanny. You know how people can take things out of text. You still did the right thing by letting her know, so if anything happens it's not your fault.



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