Ear Piercing

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Jbear - November 10

I'm not trying to start a debate on ear piercing, first of all. I got my older daughter's ears pierced when she was 3 months old (kind of a cultural thing with my husband's side of the family). We have never had any problems with them. My younger daughter is almost 3 months old and my husband was talking about taking her to have her ears done...I don't know why, but I don't feel like it. She's perfect as she is. I don't know why I feel like that, maybe it's because she's the last baby and I want her to keep looking like a baby as long as possible. I'm just wondering, if I don't have it done, do you think she'll be jealous of her big sister having earrings? I have two sisters, and I know if one of us had something, we all had to have it, but I wonder if everyone is like that with their sisters. I figure either I can have her ears done now, when I can clean and care for the piercings, or I can let her get them done when she's 6 or 7 and hope she'll take care of them. I had mine done when I was 7 and I was lazy about putting solution on them and they got majorly infected. Anyhow, I'm rambling here...do you think she'll end up jealous of her sister if I don't get her ears pierced? They're 3 and a half years apart.


TC - November 10

Well my sister is 15 yrs younger than me and I think she would have had a problem with it. I do not think that she would have been jealous though, I think that she would have wanted to be like me.


Jamie - November 10

I wasn't allowed to get my ears pieced til I was 12 - then my mom and I went and had them done together; it was a special Christmas treat. As for the jealousy - well, I only have brothers, who were never allowed to have their ears pierced. Only one brother seemed upset by this, and he pierced his own ear. Sorry, not much help.


Lynn - November 10

I think that as long as you allow her to get them peirced whne she decides that she wants to then she'll be o.k. with it. If she came to you & wanted them peirced & you told her she had to wait until she was 7 or 12 or whatever, then she'd be jealous. If she asks, just tell her you decided to leave it up to her if she wanted them pierced and when she wanted them done.


Lesley - November 10

I would never get my daughters ears done untill she came up to me and asked herself.


Julie - November 10

What is the big deal??? Not trying to debate either but I don't see the big deal with ear piercing? I have boys so I guess I won't have to worry about this one but I do have 3 nieces and would love to take them to get their ears pierced they range in ages from 4-7 but their moms will not allow it. I used to work for a store that did ear piercings while in college and let me tell you it was much easier to do the babies than the older girls. Alot of the girls would get one done and then have to come back to get the other done. Also if you do it when they are small you can make sure they are taken care of and they don't get infected. I remember getting mine done when I was around 5 and I think that was a fine age. My MIL also thinkgs you should wait until they are around 12 but I don't see the big deal I think it makes them look more feminine.


Lynn - November 10

I really don't see what the big deal is either, but some people get themselves really worked up about it. I wasn't "allowed" to get mine pierced until I was at first 16 then the age was lowered to 13. It was all a control issue with my mother, she wanted me to be & act just like her. She thought if she didn;t want her ears pierced, then I shouldn't want mine pierced either. I woudl never put a limit on my children like that. I am having a girl & we are planning on getting hers done when she is a few months old. If she gets older & doesn't want them (which I seriously doubt will happen) then she can let them close up-no big deal.


Jbear - November 10

The reason I mentioned I wasn't trying to start a debate is that some people get really upset about it, comparing it to circ_mcision and things like that. I don't know why I'm even hesitating. My mom made me feel a little bad about it when I had my older girl's ears done...maybe that's why.


momm - November 10

im not going to get my daughters ears peirced until she asks about it and at that it will most likely be a birthday or xmas present along with a few other pairs of earings


lisa - November 10

my personal opinion is that a baby is beautifull without fasion accessories, i dont want to put holes in my daughters perfect lettle body and will let her choose when she is older if she brings it up, in my husbands culture (asian) they pierce all newborns,? your choice


Bonnie - November 10

Personally, I am more for letting them decide themselves. My DH is a little more pa__sionate about not doing it. In the end, I think it's really up to the parent. Piercing a baby's ears is definately easier than doing it to an older child. They fuss less, cry less, and since you are the one taking care of them, get infected less. I tend to think it makes it look like you're dressing up a doll as opposed to a baby so I'm just not that into it. But honestly, I don't think it's a really big deal either way (circ_mcision, that someone brought up, is a whole different thing with me that I DO get very pa__sionate about). In the end, JBear, she probably will want to get them done one day as I think most little girls do. If you do it now and she changes her mind, you can always let them close back up. It's really your call and not too big of a deal, I think. :)


Liz - November 10

I don't think it is a big deal either. I had my daughter's ears pierced when she was 6 months old, she is now 9 years old and her ears never got infected or gave her any trouble. She likes being able to wear earings when she wants to.



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