How Do You Feel Emotionally With A New Baby

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curious - September 12

just wanting to know for those new mothers how has your life changed since you had your baby? I mean emotionally, are you in shock? do you got used to the baby fasat? do you get frustrated b/c it wasn't planned? (if it wasn't) Do you have soo much love that you feel you can have another one right away ;) I am just so curious, I am still pregnant 37 weeks and have no idea as what to expect...its soo weird.. hopefully someone can answer my questions :)


kh - September 12

it's an adjustment, esp. if it's your first, but around 5 weeks it got easier for me and I also have another one (toddler). I am less emotional with this one (which is weird b/c I have a thyroid/hormonal prob. to begin with). I think it all depends on how good your baby is. Obviously you're going to be more emotional if your baby is colicky, ya know what I mean?


Amaya's mommy aka Stephanie - September 12

It is crazy how much love you have for them. You think about how much you love your parents, or significant other, or whoever, but take all of that love and multiply it by an indefinate number and you couldnt even come close to how much love you have for your children. When we first brought her home, I didnt really have ppd, but just sleep deprivation. I would dread around 5 oclock, because I knew the night time was coming and I would have to get up so many times a night. That only lasted like 2 or 3 weeks and then it was normal for my body. I was very jealous, not of the attention my baby got, but more that people would come to my house and want to hold her, I WANT TO HOLD HER!!! I have been around babies before, but never for more than like an hour or two, I really didnt think I would know how to take care of one, but as soon as she was born, it was like my natural instinct kicked in. All of my fears went away. I know have new fears, SIDS, kidnapping (because she is so beautiful!!!), her getting hurt, etc. I wouldnt change a thing. I love being a mom, and I love the thought of her growing up knowing that she has a strong family. Anyway, really the only way my life has change is how much love I have for her, and I know understand, that when you are in a public place and a baby is crying, there might not be a way to SHUT THEM UP lol! You life is about to change for the better, and when you look back, you wont even be able to remember what it was like without your little one, and you will love that!


Jamie - September 12

I feel...overwhelmed. It's so much to handle, and I'm doing it pretty much alone; I have no support system. My little girl is a month old, and I feel like I haven't had a moment to myself since she was born. I love her, and I'd never give her up, but I'm beginning to feel like I'm in way over my head, and I wish there was someone, anyone, who could take her from me for just 30 minutes, and let me breath.


Michelle - September 12

Its very hard to have a first child. I love my daughter who is know 14 months, but it was the hardest adjustment I have ever known. I had the post pardum depression and it was awful. There was times I wanted to leave her on the side of the road and drive away. I would cry myself to sleep with her, because I didnt know how to make her stop crying. Its very hard, but its such a blessing to have a child. Hang in will be better in a few weeks. I am pregnant with my second and hope I dont go through the same thing again. I am also scared to see if I can love this child as much as my first....I already get guilty feeling seeing my daughter expression when I am looking for clothes for her new sister.....~sigh~


curious to jamie and michelle - September 12

jamie, are you a single mother? If so do you have family around you that may help, like you say for at least 30 minutes.. Michelle I am so scared of Postpartum Depression...I have had some depressing moments with this pregnancy it just feels awful..its so scary..I am also scared b/c I have no patience..and when I hear a baby cry and when I don't know how quiet them down..I get really nervous..maybe hopefully with my baby it will be different b/c it will be my baby! :)


Jbear - September 13

I had postpartum depression after my first baby. I kept packing a backpack and leaving my daughter and my husband asleep, and just walking for miles, wanting to never come home. I also burst into tears when they called me "mom" at the pediatrician's office. I didn't realize it was depression until I was over it. I just had my second baby four weeks ago, and I'm not depressed this time. It's amazing what a difference it makes...I'm really enjoying my new little baby person, her noises, facial expressions, the way she holds my finger when I'm feeding her. It's almost like falling in love. It's sad that I missed out on that with my first, although she and I are really close now (as close as you can be to a three-year-old, anyhow). I was worried that I would be depressed after this baby was born, because we didn't plan the pregnancy (we were celebrating Christmas with a bottle of Bailey's) and because my husband was really distant during my pregnancy. But I worried for nothing, because I'm fine. Oh, it is different when it's your own baby crying. It's better and worse at the same time. Better because you learn pretty fast what they want when they cry, and worse because you have to fix it. You'll learn what to do with your baby before you leave the hospital, and when they cry it's like you have a little mental checklist-pick them up, check the diaper, is it feeding time?, need a burp?, you figure it out pretty fast. By the time you know it, you're an expert.


Jamie - September 13

Curious - no, I'm not a single mother; I'm a military wife. My husband works 12 hours/day, minimum, and we're stationed in Germany, so no family around.


Michelle - September 13

curious to jamie and michelle~ As you can see,.....everyone's reaction is different. Some people deal with it better than others. Just hang in there, I know its hard now...but it will get better. Beleive me...the love you have for your own child is undescrible. Keep family around you at will make it easier. Its the only thing that really helped me. Hopefully it will be better with this one. Like JBear is going through.


To curious - September 13

Imagine spending all your time with someone, and sometimes all you want to do is have a few minutes to yourself. Only, when you have a few minutes to yourself, all you do is think about and miss that person. It's enough to make a person insane!!! But, I wouldn't have it any other way!



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