I Tried The CIO HELP

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Mrs.Ireland - December 5

I tried it last night with my 4 months old dd and it was going great for the first half hour and then after that she started screaming and crying and I mean real tears, I mean a ton of tears, I felt so bad and then she kept wimpering for about 20 mins after. I tried the CIO for about an hour and 15 min. Is she to young for the CIO. I just don't agree with the CIO.

 

JerseyGirl - December 5

Aww, it's the worst thing, I know. I hate it too and vowed never to even try it. But one day, I got curious just to see if my 6-month-old DS would go for it. The most he cried was 15 minutes. I told myself that if it went any longer, I wouldn't do it. I can't believe you lasted that long!! Four months may be too young, so if I were you, I'd hold off trying it again. Plus, I only ever do it for naps (not when he's sick, like he has been the past 2 days). I would never do it at night - it's just too mean!

 

Mrs.Ireland - December 5

I think it is just mean too, but a friend of mine was saying that I HAVE to do or she'll be up like she is in the middle of the night until she's 1, I thought oh dear god :-( I can't believe I lasted that long either, I felt horrible. Does Seperation anxiety keep them up at night or I should say keep them waking up.?

 

meg - December 5

I am not sure if this will help or not....my ds is almost 15 months & I could never do CIO. However, he has always been a horrible sleeper. And by horrible, I mean since birth he's been up at least 4 times a night. I think that DH & I went about things sort of wrong. I always thought that I should rock him to sleep & that he should be asleep when I put him in his crib...I just figured that he would never go to sleep on his own. Finally, around 13 months, once we were so exhausted that we could hardly stand it, we decided to put him in his craib awake & see what happened. He screamed for about 90 seconds & then was sound asleep! Now he will not fall asleep while I rock him, he wants to be in his bed...it's great! However, he's still up once a night, he just needs some milk! But he is sleeping about 12 hours at night. Anyway, I'm not sure what the point of my story is :-) other than hang in there...it'll get better!!!!

 

JerseyGirl - December 5

Holy moly, MEG! That's amazing. Wish my LO would sleep 12 hours... or even 10, consistently. I'm lucky if I get 9 out of him... maybe some day! Thanks for the glimmer of hope!

 

kristine - December 5

We did our own version of CIO when my son was a little over 4 months old. He was just not going to sleep anymore, for naps or at night time. So we tried it to see and the most he ever cried for was 40 minutes the first night and then it got increasingly better. I think some babies are more likely to take to it than others at such a young age. I continued to go in at night because I b___stfeed and I can never seem to convince myself that he doesn't need to eat at night. So, we only did it for bedtime and naptimes. He caught onto the bedtime the easiest...after about a week he would go to sleep without a peep. The naptimes were a little more difficult for him. Now he is 7 months old (can't believe it)! He has worked himself into his own routine of going to sleep between 6:30 and 7:00 and sleeping until 7:00ish, with usually waking up once at night still to nurse. Then he naps at 9:00ish for about 2 hours and again at 1:00ish for 1-2 hours. It's great!! At 4 months he was still napping for like 40 minute stretches and it drove me crazy!! I think he grew out of it, and started sleeping longer stretches at night too. Sorry for rambling, but I was so nervous at that age that he would never be a good sleeper, but it did happen, so there is hope. Oh, and one other thing: if you don't agree with CIO, then I wouldn't even attempt it. If you go into it not agreeing with it, you will most likely give in and that tells their little brains that if they just keep crying somebody will get them out of the crib. Good luck to you, and I'm sure you are sick of hearing it (as I used to be), but your daughter will most likely grow out of this.

 

DDT - December 5

Try the PU/PD (pick up/put down) method. I tried CIO a handful of times when my ds was 8-9 months old (BTW 4 months IS too young, it shouldn't be tried until your lo is 6 months and older IMO) and it didn't really work. It would just hype him up more. I use PU/PD when his naps are too short and he wakes up grumpy or when he had nightly wakings he can't put himself back to sleep after.

 

mommybabyboy21 - December 5

I am against cio, my son is 5.5 months old and he sleeps 6 - 8 hours at night. I had a little bit of a problem when he was about 3 months old I notices he was waking up 2 times a night really close to each other 12 am and 2. This was because he wasn't eating enough at the first feeding he was eating just enough to satisfy his hunger but NOT fill so it was getting empty faster. My mother suggested at the first wake up to feed him one side and then change his diaper and talk to him until he was fully awake again and then feed him the other side. The first two nights after that he still woke up at the second time because of habit but at that time I would just rub his head and back and tell him its ok and after two nights he would only do the one feeding and that feeding started moving further and further into the morning and has stay pretty much at 6 to 7 am. GL

 

pregnantjackie - December 5

they have all these new studies showing that CIO can cause extreme distress in infaNTS, especially if they are too young to let you know what they want. They are just so defensless and dependant you know? I must admit Ive considered it tho...if they are crying there is a reason. If its for nurturing and attention then thats what they need. Our three month old sleeps through the night with the help of swaddle me, being warm, lots of milk and 'a childs gift of lullabies' before bedtime.

 

kristine - December 5

I feel that I need to add that we never let my son get hysterical. If he sounds distressed we always go in and pick him up. The CIO that we did involved not much more that whining. I guess I should call our method "Whine It Out". I truly believe that what we decided to do was best for him because once he learned how to fall asleep on his own he turned into a much happier, well rested baby.

 

pregnantjackie - December 5

HaHa- Kristine...my son is 4 months and we do 'whine it out'...now THAT works great!

 

kristine - December 5

Haha, I know it does, doesn't it? It's funny that my son still whines it out occasionally for naps, but goes right to sleep at bedtime. I guess he just knows the difference.

 

CWeber - December 6

My lo sleeps 12-13hrs at night. He goes to bed at 7pm and sleeps to about 8am. Sometimes he will sleep straight through and sometimes he will awake twice (usually around 11pm and again 5:30 am) and I just pop his soother in. He goes right back to sleep. He is awesome about going to sleep so I have never really had to cio with him. Even for naps, I just lay him down and leave the room. Never a fuss. He did fuss slightly when he was younger but I would just go in to comfort him (didn't pick him up) and leave again. Seemed to work for us, hopefully it will get better for you soon!

 

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