If You Had Success With CIO

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Perl - September 26

I posted this under Toddler care but am re-posting here for more responses. If you had success with crying it out I'd like to hear from you. I'm one of those moms who has repeatedly said "I can't let my baby cry it out" but unfortunately my 10 month old ds has never been consistent with his sleep patterns. I started 6 nights ago and so far his crying has gone from 2 hours down to 1 or 2 minutes but last night he went back up to 10 minutes of crying. So far I'm happy with the results but I'm not sure if this is temporary or will it work long-term? He wakes up in the middle of the night and cries for just a few seconds or up to about 2 minutes, moves to another position in his crib and falls asleep on his own. I stay in the room with him when I first put him in the crib until he falls asleep and from time to time do what the Baby Whisperer recommends (pick up/put down). I will not leave the room until he's asleep. My question to those who have succeeded with CIO: did your little one eventually not cry at all when you put them into the crib? And how long did that take before they started putting themselves to sleep (days, weeks or months)? At any time days or months after CIO worked for you, did your lo fall back into his/her old ways? I really need to hear that this is going to work and allow my ds and myself to finally get the quality sleep that we both need.


DB - September 26

Hi Perl. I have been doing CIO since my dd was 5 months old. She slept GREAT from 6-16 weeks and then she was up every 2hours!!! She was constantly tired and so were we! I've heard not to let them CIO before 6 months, but we were desperate and it worked great!! WIthin 4 nights she would go to sleep on her own, no crying. Unlike you though, I do not stay in the room. My dd is very distractable...if she sees us she either gets mad we aren't picking her up or just stares at us and tries to entice us to play with her...so after our bedtime routine we lay her in bed...I giver her a kiss and say night-night and leave her in her room....very rarely anymore does she ever cry when we put her down for bed...and we 99.9%of the time lay her down awake...Now, regarding the reverting to the old ways...YES-when my dd has been sick with colds or ear infections she wakes up constantly! It is exhausting all over again!!! I do go to her when she's sick because I know she needs me. So, I can tell you that last week my dd was up multiple times because of her ear and this week she's back to normal...although she's trying to be fed again at 4 or 5 am (she's just about 8 months), and I'm trying to fight this habit...So, I would keep doing what you're doing, except maybe leave your ds alone to fall asleep?? Maybe he sees you and thatis why he still cries? I hope this helps...


J.J. - September 27

Perl, we had great success w/CIO, though started it earlier, and would leave the room at bedtime, leaving him alone to fall asleep. When crying, I would come in every 8-10 min to check on him and rub his back but that's it. I'll be honest, I don't give us that much credit....I think we were just plain lucky. He gave in pretty easily. But I will say this, that once you establish good, consistent sleeping habits, it does pay off. As for any regression, our son went through a brief period of night terrors (waking up crying at night) but it was short lived. Overall, it's hard to leave a baby crying in their crib, but for us at least, it was worth it. He's now nearly 2 and for much of his life, has been able to fall asleep on his own.


Perl - September 28

Well it's good to see there are some success stories. JJ night terrors sound bad. It's not always night terrors if they cry mid night I hope (?) I like to hear that a 2 year old is sleeping through the night. I don't mind getting up in the middle of the night I just don't want this to be something I do long term like until my ds is 4. So far so good for us. He's waking at 6 am every night the last 6 nights except last night he woke up at 3 and 6 but I think he had a tummy ache because he tried penne pasta with a little sauce for the first time yesterday.****


Perl - September 28

So there are only 2 success stories on this whole forum???? I wonder if CIO did not work for people or maybe they didn't have the strength/energy/patience to handle CIO. It's tough to do that's for sure but at least we're not waking up every 2-4 hours every single night anymore----so far, my fingers are crossed.


lovingmotherhood - September 28

Perl, I think that you hit the nail on the head...cio takes strength, energy and patience! I know, because I am working on it right now! It has only been 12 hours and I am at my wits end...I'm hoping that it gets easier soon. I know that both of my sils had great success with it. It is heartbreaking to hear by baby girl cry so much but I'm hoping that in the long run it is better for the whole family. Thanks for posting this.


bl - September 28

I had success with cio with my so who's now 3.5. He was a horrible sleeper and napper. Finally at 8mo I was at my wits end with no sleep. It took about a week for it to work and yes, it was heart wrenching to hear him cry. After the week or so, I was able to get him on a schedule and he actually slept from 7-7. Ever since he's been a great sleeper. I'm sure he has no recollection of cio!! My ds 3 mo, is a great sleeper, but if we get to the point of no sleeping, I would do it again. (I'm hoping he'll do it on his own!) I would also wait unitl he was atleast 6 months or so.


Jennbj - September 29

WIth ny first son we had great success with CIO. But I am having a harder time with my 5 1/2 month old. I keep giving in. I let him cry for over an hour last night and he would start to doze off on his own then wake. I have the flu on top of it so after an hour I couldn't take it anymore. Ido plan on continuing to do it because I know it will work. And I am so tired that I am in a bad mood all the time which is bad for everyone. Good luck and though it's tough it will be worth it. Now I need to take my own advice.



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