Interracial Children

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vanja10 - February 11

h__lo... this is my first post on this infant care section.. I'm due in 2 weeks with my first and hubby and i got into a very interesting conversation.. i'm not sure if ther are any ladies on here that have mixed kids.. my hubby is from africa (black) and i'm from eastern europe (white)... but if u have mixed kids, or if u know people that have mixed kids, have u ever had any problems in terms of raising your kids and what to teach them. also, we each speak a different languages and i would like my son to be fluent in both... when would be the best time to start teaching, or should we each teach our own language from day one??? I understand a little bit of swahilli but i would love for my son to speak both. any suggestions will be appreciated... i'm sure i'll be on this forum regularly in couple of week! :)


mischelly30 - February 12

Hi--well, I don't really have any answers for you, my baby is only 4 months old. However, he is also biracial (black/white). I have a few books that were recommended to me that deal specifically with raising biracial children: one is "Raising biracial children" by Rockquemore and Laszloffy and the other is "Does anyone else look like me?" By Jackson Nakazawa. The Rockquemore et al. book deals specifically with black/white children. Hope the recommendations help.


Monica_WeinerBaby#1 - February 12

hello well im mixed so i can personally tell you a little about it im from a small town and eveyone knows everyone so i had no problems with my race but in the big city near me i had problems because i was eather not black for some or to black for others there is really no right way to raise them to do with there race but to just let them know who they are and to explore each part of there backgrounds with there language i dont no about that one both of my parents are from here hope that helped a little


ash2 - February 12

My children are bi-racial. My husband is vietnamese and i am caucasian. My 4 year old speaks both languages. He speaks vietnamese and english. Start them young is my advice. Because once they get too old, they will not want to learn. We never get any remarks about it. These days biracial children are so popular that its just another kid to some people.


Lalla - February 12

Hi, I am white north European and my dh is African-American so our dd is a wonderful little blended baby. When it comes to language, I am speaking my language to her all the time and I even take her to a playgroup where only my language is spoken. It is important for the child to get all languages right away - the chanses are great though that they will start speaking alittle later than other children - but in my opinion it is well worth it. In terms of raising - I think it is important to celebrate both cultures and not make a big deal out of it - show love. I am just curious - do you live in a small city or a larger one?


Kara H. - February 12

We have a slightly different challage when it comes to languages. I'm white and my hubby was adopted from honduras as an infact by white american parents who were missionaries. When he was 5, his parents went back into the missions field and put Chris in a boarding school in honduras. Chris only spoke engish when he first went to boarding school, but was fluent in spanish by the time his parents returned to the states three years later. But since his parents didn't continue to expose him to the language, he had lost the ability to speak it (though he could understand it when he heard it) by highschool. Chris, of course, from coming from a country so close to the equator, has fairly dark coloring and is unmistakably latino. He really struggled at public highschool because he didn't feel he fit in. He fit in better with the white kids since the latino/hispanic kids didn't accept him for not speaking spanish. It is important to Chris that Max can speak spanish. So Chris and I have enrolled in spanish cla__ses and we are trying absorb as much as the language as we can. There is a hispanic family we have become good friends with who have volenteered to help us with our entonation and timing of the language. We have just started teaching Max sign launguage hopong it will make it easier to transition to spanish.


vanja10 - February 12

thanks for your responses... I live in British Columbia and it's a small city.. well, average would be a better word... City itself is about 70k people and surrounding area would be about 200-300k. But there are hardly any black people here. The problem is, my immediate family (parents) are used to the idea that I've married outside of my culture (colour), but i'm worried for the rest of my family because I know they are not happy and I don't want my kid to feel the hate.. (i'm talking racism).. Nobody will come out and say it to me directly, but most of them have stopped talking to me. Where as hubby's family (here and in africa) are so excited for this baby, that i'm feeling guilty... They cannot wait for this baby to come, especially since this is the first, first born boy in entire family.. There are about 9 brothers and each one had a baby girl first.. SO it's a big deal. But I agree, all babies are cute, but mixed babies sometimes get best of both worlds.. If I had one choice, I would ask that my baby has loooong eyelashes.. hehe.. My hubby has them, so I want hubby's looks and my smarts.. *lol* But knowing couple of languages would definetely be a bonus.. :)


Amandanbaby - February 12

My dh is from Mexico and I am from the U.S. and we speak two languages. Our ds is 10 months old and we will teach him both languages as early as we can. When we teach him Hi in english we will teach him hola in spanish. I am also taking Spanish cla__ses so I will be able to speak to my ds in his fathers language. My dh is very light complected and so is my son so we've never really had someone say anything to us so far. I would recommend doind as much research on his culture that you can so you know what to teach your baby and how to deal with rude people. I would start young because I think it would be easier on the child to learn, as children absorb more info. Good luck!


Lalla - February 12

Hi vanja10 - I am so sorry that parts of your family are racists - you are much better off not socilizing with them and that way you protect your ds from that sort of hate early on. I am glad that you have your immediate family and your dh's family. My dh and I never had any issues when it came to our families - we were accepted by both. We live in a huge city that is very diverse, which makes it much easier and we don't have to feel different in any way. Btw, I think it would be great if your ds speaks swahili, english and your language! You have to be persistant though! Good luck


EMBERBABY - February 12

HI vanja, my dd is biracial, dh is black and I am hispanic. My lo will be 5 months and she really did get the best of both worlds. She is absolutely GORGEOUS! I want our dd to speak both languages, she was born in Miami and it was great culture wise because people there are from all over the world. However, now we live in Texas (because of dh work) and I love Texas as well, because people are so friendly and its safer than Miami. Biracial children are pretty common and IMO they are super cute since they have features from two races.


KLT - February 13

Ash2 - hey i'm half Vietnamese half Caucasian. : ) My mom started speaking Vietnamese to me from day one... Question, do you by chance know someone named Kara in Virginia??


Selena - February 13

My DH is Korean and I am caucasian. We try and make sure dd has as much exposure to the Korean language/culture as we can. They are never to young to start!


bradylove - February 14

Hi Vanja10! My kids are interracial too. I'm european (Spain and France) and my husband is First Nations (I think they call them Native American in the US). I speak 3 languages, French English and Spanish and my husband speaks English and Mik'maq. Our children are learning all 4 languages although their main will be English. They tend to get their languages a little mixed up but that eventually all gets sorted out.


luviduvi - February 14

Sorry I can't help you. The only thing I can say is that I think "blended" as it has been referred results in some of the worlds most beautiful people!!!



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