Just Wondering If You Ve Had Miscarriage

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hrsmith - June 30

I really enjoy chatting with you gals. You all seem to be quite fun and high spirited. I am sure you have seen my posts as I am now chatting quite a bit here and there, I guess I am becoming a bit addicted. I just wanted to know how many of you have had to deal with a miscarriage. I just had one last week. My hubby and i weren't necessarily expecting to get pregnant the first month I stopped bc. We just wanted to get my body ready for when we were going to start bumpin' like bunnies to get prego. Mr. G had other plans I guess because we got pregnant right away. I am pretty sure all of us that chat here frequently have at least one child. I just wanted to know if any of you suffered a misacarriage after your first. I posted it on another thread, but other than that, I don't talk about it very much.


kristie h - July 1

Hi hrsmith, I am sorry about your loss and that u have gone through this. I have a 18 month old son ans since i have had him i have had two miscarriages in a row. If you ever want to vent ect send me a post ill be here for ya. HUGZ


jas - July 1

I have had 4 m/c... Three before my first son and one before my second son. The last one was ectopic which wasn't caught in time. They say there is a time and place and reason for everything that happens. I trusted in that and just had my beautiful son. If you need to talk - we are here. Take care.


cab - July 1

I also had an ectopic and a miscarriage after my first born. I now have my second child. And there is definitely no more children for me. 2 is enough. And 4 years apart to boot. Sorry to hear about your loss.


Narcissus - July 1

I have had several m/c, including one after my son was born. I did not feel sad bc I had several m/c prior to having my son and have come to realize that everything happens for a reason. I have decided to let fate to be my only plan at this point in my life. I am sorry to hear about your m/c. How are you feeling? M/Cs are physically more painful after having a baby, or at least it was for me.


Nerdy Girl - July 1

I had two chemical pregnancies, which are basically extremely early miscarriages. I had one before each of my two successful pregnancies. Within a few days of the positive home pregnancy test, I got my period. It lets you have just enough time to get excited about the pregnancy before it's gone. Although I am sure what I experienced is nowhere near the pain of a later-term miscarriage, those were still sad experiences for me.


kristie h - July 1

Nerdy girl, I know what u mean. I have had a miscarriage found out at 12 weeks and my 2nd was at 5 weeks 3 days. Lat month af was late and i had 5 faint bfp then 4 days after af due i got af. I had doc appointments and everything then she showed. Now matter how early your miscarriage was is still deverstating but i am so happy for you to have a healthy happy pregnancy afterwards. I am ttc now and i am terrified but hope 3rd time lucky. Good luck


Rabbits07 - July 1

hrsmith, I am so sorry about the miscarriage. I had a miscarriage in Nov. of 2004. It was my sixth pregnancy and I never had a miscarriage before so it literally floored me when I lost that baby. I cried for at least two weeks straight and would not speak to anyone other than my family I lived with. I do know that things happen for a reason, but I hated for people to tell me that. Or they would tell me that I should be thankful for the children I had....as if I wasn't. That baby was just as much mine and just as loved as all the children I had already given birth to and I hated the way people diminished that loss as an --oh well, things happen-- random occurrence. It has been over a year and a half now and not one single day goes by that I don't think about that baby and I look forwarde to finally meeting him/her in Heaven. The emotional pain is lessened, but I still cry from time to time (the date of loss and due date are hard anniversaries for me). I purchased a statue of an Angel carrying a baby as a memorial to that baby since I was not far enough along to warrant a funeral. I was terrified when I got pregnant the 7th time...I was so afraid of having another miscarriage. With all of my other pregnancies I kept a very detailed journal throughout the pregnancies, but with the pregnancy after the micarriage I was afraid to. I don't know if I thought by not keeping a journal if I miscarried again it wouldn't seem as bad or if I just thought I would jinx it....I don't really know. I do thank God that I gave birth to a healthy baby boy. Miscarriage is one of the worst emotional pains I have ever had to go through and I am so sorry that you are having to experience that. You will be in my prayers.


Lindsey - July 1

I had a miscarriage last year, on the same day my dear grandad died aswell. It was hard to get through, but i conceived straightaway and 2 weeks ago my ds was born. If you need to chat about anything, I'm here xxx. This was my first pregnancy though and i had no previous children.


SonyaM - July 1

I am so very sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage in 2001 and it was the hardest thing I have ever been through. It was my first pregnancy and I had been trying for over a year to get pregnant. I now have two beautiful boys and although the pain is still there I don't think about it everyday like I used to. Good luck to you.


hrsmith - July 2

Thanks for all of your responses. I can honestly say it helps tremendously to read all of your posts. I am sure when I am old and grey I will look back and remember when I had a miscarriage, but I will also remember this forum for that reason. I think we are goiing to start trying again in august, but I am definitely going to let fate be my guide. I feel completely blessed with my son and we will see what the future holds.


mama3 - July 2

I can say I hear you Rabbit07.I m/c my only son August of 2003. He was my 2nd baby.I had was having a ruff mariage at the time. Stress is what the drs said caused it. My family tells me all the time move on think of the girls you have now. They tell me God had plans for him somewhere else. But I know if I would have calmed down and relaxed more I wouldnt have lost him. I live with that guilt everyday. I think about who he would of looked like. I imagine what his voice would have sounded like. I concieved my 2nd dd only 2 months after. Not knowing your suppose to what atleast 4-6 months before trying again. I had alot of health problem and ended up having to have her 7 weeks early. She and I had a rough 1 yr. But it was so worth it. When I got PG with her I was so affraid to go anywhere, to do anything. If I couldn't go by car I stayed home. When I got PG with my 4th I walked and did things but I did find myself calling my dr everytime I had a little pain. My mom had 4 m/c after having me and she lost my twin. I couldn't imagine going through that that many times. Once is all that I can handle. I am very thankful for my girls. Losing Jacob was a eye opener for me. I live my life for him now. That may sound funny to most people but I do. I don't let anything come before my babys, while I'm PG and after they're here. Ok I rambled enough. God Bless all of you ladys and your babies. May we all rejoice with them one day.((((((HUGS)))))))



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