OT Been Busy Worried And Pulling My Hair Out

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Mommy - January 15

This is the first time I have been back on since a bit before X-mas. My FIL has been in and out of the hospital for so many things lately it's hard to do anything but worry. He had to get part of his ear removed due to cancer om Dec. 23, then around the 27 or so he had to go to the hospital because we thought he had a stroke, then he had to go to the hospital in Springfield to have another surgery to help fix his spine. I live in Illinois about 2.5 hours away from Springfield and I made the trip with DH once and it was exhausting. Now my FIL is coming home and I am happy but worried sick. He just had the spine surgery on Thursday and if he falls or anything when he gets home it will undoubtably kill him. My Dh is worried sick (added pressure on me) and I feel so horrible about feeling a little upset at him for it. Most of you know I'm 17, have a toddler, an infant, housework to keep up on, meals to cook and now a hubby to console and help keep his mind off of things. It just gets really hard at times, especially because my FIL is more like a dad to me than my own dad. I hope he gets better soon. :-(


Christy - January 15

Sorry about your FIL. Can/would he do some rehab (PT/OT) before coming home, a__suming that he needs/qualifies for it? You're pretty restricted as to how you can move after back surgery, so the therapy would help him learn tricks for moving around more safely and easily. They could also order him home health to help him out for a few weeks at home if he needs it and until he can back into his routine. I hope he has a good recovery so you can put your minds to ease. BTW- welcome back. :)


Mommy - January 15

Thanks Christy. He had 3 day of physical therapy and will have more once he gets home. Rather than sending him to the hospital here they are sending him straight home. The only thing that makes me feel a little better is my BIL lives there with him and can help. I just worry because he lives with his sister who is also now disabled and if he falls down while she is there and my BIL is at work there is nothing she can do. Again thanks for your post.


Shannon - January 15

wow, i'm so sorry. i'm not sure what else to say. i hope everything gets better for you and your FIL soon.


Chelsey - January 15

Hope you had a great holiday, Mommy! Very sorry to hear about your FIL. I truly hope he is feeling better soon!


FF - January 15

Wow, that's a lot for you to deal with at once! You are such a strong lady! I wish you and your family the best.


Barb - January 15

my prayers are with you and your family....


Lisastar9 - January 15

Do they have a cordless phone with a headset if not maybe you can look into it if something does go wrong he will always have a phone with him to call you. ,or your bil,maybe it won't be as hard as you think. Hope he gets better soon,and try not to worry. Maybe your husband can go over somtimes to help out with what ever little time he has. Life is hard and keep on fighting.


Maria - January 15

Sorry to hear you are going through such a hard time. It's difficult to see beloved family members going through these rough times. You feel like being everything to everybody, but it's impossible. I'll be keeping you in my prayers. How old are your kids?


Dawn C - January 15

It must be really hard. Ill be thinking of you


The real Lissi - January 15

Sorry you're having a rough time Mommy. Hope your FIL recovers. Hug.


jg - January 15

Wow you are doing an amazing job just keeping it all together!! It is really hard to keep up a good face when you are under so much pressure, but remember that your DH will need you and will probably vent his frustrations on you as you are the one closest to him. If he does start up, why not tell him that you realise that he is under a lot of pressure and commend him for bearing up under it all. Sometimes a bit of reverse psychology can work wonders in keeping an argument at bay!! Don't get walked over, but remember that if DH is being a bit unbearable that it's not about you, but about the situation. Also remember that housework can wait, being happy as a person and spending time with your kids is far more important than a spotless house. And take some time out for yourself if possible. Have a bath and take a book in with you, or if you are going outside to collect the mail, take a coffee with you and sit on the porch for a few minutes. I really feel for you, and I hope that your FIL recovers really soon.


Mommy - January 15

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the support. I'm doing my best to keep it all together and it's sooooooooo hard. I'm managing though so that's good. Maria my kids are 19 months and 8 months old so they keep me busy. I'm lucky to find time to sleep because hubby works nights and that's when I do the cleaning and the boys keep me up most the day. I hope things slow down. Again thanks for the support, the venting has made me feel better so at least I am not pulling my hair out at the moment.


Rachael mommy2lucas - January 16

Hi Mommy! I was wondering where you had gone! I'm so sorry to hear about all the things you have going on. Having 2 little ones is hard enough without all the other stuff. I really hope fil does well and that things get better for you!



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