OT I Am So Terrified Now

10 Replies
Emma - January 10

Ok, I just got an e-mail from a coworker of mine warning against the recent increase in daylight hour abductions and ways to protect yourself. However, most of the tips don't really apply or wouldn't work with carrying a baby. My husband is in prison, so it is just me and my baby in our house. We have upstairs people but they aren't around much.... I am so terrified to even go out to my car in the morning! My hands are always full too so I don't even know what I'd do if someone tried to hurt me or my baby. OMG! I'm totally freaking right now!!


Jamie - January 10

Get a sling...it's much harder to abduct an infant who is snug against momma's chest than one who's in a stroller, kwim?


Jbear - January 10

Could you leave your baby locked in the house while you take your stuff to the car, and then go get her last? It is scary thinking of someone trying to take your child...I've actually had two big scares with that. Once I was in a thrift store and a woman came up and took Valerie from the shopping cart and started walking away with her. I went after her, grabbed Valerie back and knocked the woman to the ground. It turned out that she was mentally handicapped...but the whole thing scared the hell out of me. The other time I came out of walmart and a woman came up from the side of the building, walking fast and very close behind me, carrying a diaper bag but with no child in sight. I had gone to walmart straight from work so I had my boxcutter in my pocket...not the usual kind but more of a knife with a razor blade...and I kept one hand on the cart, got the knife out with the other hand and opened it. When I got to the car she was not even two feet away from me. I turned around with the knife and she turned and walked back toward the store. I know it makes me sound like a nut, going to walmart with a knife in my pocket...but I've done worse. I used to have a job where I had to take a lot of money to the bank on a daily basis (upwards of ten thousand dollars) and I kept a handgun on the seat of my truck. (gotta love Texas) Anyhow. I'm rambling...It is important to be aware of your surroundings, but don't get so scared that you can't leave the house.


AutumnsMommy - January 10

Thanks Jbear and Jamie! And Jbear--you don't sound crazy at all for taking a knife to WalMart. I used to live in the innercity of Milwaukee (before I got pregnany), and I always carried a knife and pepper spray. So, did the woman actually see the knife? That is so freaky! I think I would have called the police and told them to get over to Wal-Mart! Thank you for the tips--it's a good idea to carry all my stuff to the car first--then go get my daughter....you just never know today. Stay safe!


Jbear - January 10

Yeah, I showed her the knife...those things are actually more dangerous than a regular knife.


FF - January 10

I'm always so paranoid about stuff like that! I live in a fairly safe city but it's growing so fast that I worry about what it'll be like 2, 5, 10 years down the line... Jbear, you don't sound crazy at all- you sound like a prepared mother and that's a good thing!


FYI - January 10

I think that being scared causes you more of a chance of something happening. You need to educate yourself. There are plenty of single moms around who live daily in areas of high crime and low crime who have made sure that they have taken the proper precautions to ensure the saftey of themselfs and their children. The most important thing that you you need to be aware of is your surroundings. Always pay close attention when walking in parking lots at night and in the day and parking garages. Those are places where single individuals, with or without children, are attacked. Google some saftey tips and it should help you.


Amayas Mommy AKA Stephanie - January 10

I have had a scare also. Me and Amaya went to a bookstore and when we walked out I was bent over in the car buckling her in and a man walked up and tapped me on the shoulder. I nearly peed my pants! He was just asking for money but it freaked me out. Also one time I was at a redlight and a woman came up and started beating on my window and point to the carseat in the backseat (amaya wasnt with me) My car automatically locks the doors when you put it in drive so the doors were locked but it still freaked me out. In cosmetology school we had a guy come that was selling personal safety items (tasers, pepperspray, etc.) I didnt buy any b/c I am so afraid that if I got into an incident like that I would hurt my baby instead of the person. I have never been scared at WalMart b/c I would just start yelling really loud and draw alot of attention to myself. I am not sure about my house though. I know enough of my neighbors that if something happened like that I could make enough noise that they would come out. I agree that maybe leave the baby in the house and make another trip for the baby. Good luck!


Jbear - January 10

Something else...I don't know how true this is...Have you ever been at work and had people come in selling designer knockoff perfumes? Someone told me, back when I was still working, that people had been going around doing that, but instead of perfume that they sprayed for you to smell, the bottle was filled with chlorofoam...the store employee or whoever smelled the chlorofoam, was knocked out by it, and the place was robbed. I don't know if it really happened, the lady who told me was paranoid, but I've seen people selling perfume approach people in parking lots...just something to avoid.


Lucy - January 11

So true JBear, the perfume thing was happening in my area in the UK not too long ago, i heard in the paper of at least 3 people who were approached in car parks by people allegedly selling perfume, only to be quickly sprayed in the eyes with some chemical in the bottles, temporarily blinded and then robbed. Scary stuff huh, i guess the moral of the story is to just be vigilant and try to avoid situations where you're potentially vulnerable, like being in places where there aren't many people nearby. Almost impossible sometimes though.


AutumnsMommy - January 11

Emma, I plan on getting some personal alarm type things. They are teeny and can either fit on your belt or keychain and if you feel threatened you pull a little plug or something on it and it lets off a loud 130 decibel alarm....also pepperspray is an absolute must! It sounds paranoid, but wherever I go, I have it....oftentimes, open and ready to go! You never know..



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