Please Help DD Doesn T Want To Sleep Anymore

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JessC531 - November 11

Ok... I feel like I'm losing it and I really need some advice. My dd is 3 months old. She has always slept well at night, but very poorly during the day. I just got her to stop napping in her swing maybe a month ago. (She now naps in her crib.) She was doing pretty well with it, but all of a sudden it's just not good. She cries and cries before each nap, and I don't know if I should let her cry or try to soothe her. I can't really find anything that totally calms her down anyway. She is obviously tired, and I think she just cries because she doesn't want to sleep. Or else she's overtired, but it happens SO quickly! Sometimes she isn't even up for an hour before she gets tired and upset. Now she's not sleeping well at night anymore either. She's waking up A LOT and the only way I can get her back to sleep is to nurse her. I don't really think she's hungry though. Last night she woke up every 2 hours!!! I finally put her in bed with me at 7, and she slept for a couple more hours. I just don't know what to do. I mean, she used to sleep 8-9 hours at a time at night!!! Is she not getting enough sleep during the day? How do I fix it??? I really just don't know what to do and I feel like I'm going to lose it here. Nighttimes are a mess and so are naps. Please help me!!


rohan - November 11

my ds has never sletp more than 3 hrs at a stretch at night. he is 3.5 months. I would love to see what others ahve to say. jess, when he turned 2.5 months his naps time became tough. He fights before every nap time. HE use to go down quite easilty before every nap but not anymore - he cries and then goes out. Can it be that they observe so much around them now and find sleep boring. I have no idea. I put him in a snugli and walk around during his nap time. I am waiting for teh night when he sleeps more than a 3 hr stretch.


JessC531 - November 12

Ladies, please help!!! I put her down at 7:30 last night instead of her usual 8:30 - 9, hoping that would help. Nope. She was up at 10, 12, 2, 4, 6, and 8. At 2 I didn't feed her... but it took almost an hour to get her back to sleep. The other times I just nursed her and she pa__sed out. When she got up this morning, she looked exhausted again after 30 minutes! I tried to put her down, but she freaked and wouldn't go to sleep. So I nursed her again and she fell asleep. I just don't know what to do!!!! I think she wants to be up and play, like you said rohan, but she NEEDS to sleep. I also think she might just be chronically overtired (is that possible???) because I've been keeping her up too much the past couple weeks. PLEASE HELP ME! I know you ladies have wonderful ideas, and I REALLY need to hear them right now.


DDT - November 12

Watch for sleepy signs during the day and put her down for a nap even though it has only been a hr since her last one. She may have become so over-tired over the last while that she needs to catch up on some sleep. Try put her down before she starts getting crabby. Watch for yawning, rubbing eyes, pulling ears ect. Take her to a quiet place...preferrably her room with the lights out and just soothe her, talk to her quietly, play soft music ect. for 10-15 mins. Then put her down for a nap swaddled and soother. Then for bedtime put her down earlier again like you did last night. As for her waking up constantly all night....cluster feed her before bedtime...which means that if she goes to bed at 7:30pm feed her at 5:30pm and again at 7:30pm. The idea is to tank her up for the night. How often does she drink during the day? Do you swaddle at night? She may be waking up due to the startle (sp?) reflex. I would suggest swaddling if you don't already. Also, instead of nursing her every time she wakes up try giving her the soother instead. This may did with my ds when I got rid of his 5am wake-up when he was the same age. He was waking out of habit instead of hunger. Also, I would suggest doing a dream feed anywhere between 10-11pm. This is where you pick her up while she is still sleeping...feed her (would be easier if you pumped milk and bottle fed as latching on while still sleepy is hard for a baby) and the put her down again. If she stirs or starts crying use the shush-pat method. You can also use this method for her nightly wake-ups and nap time. Good luck!!


JessC531 - November 12

DDT, what if she gets cranky while I'm trying to soothe her? After her last nap, she seemed to be getting tired again after 20 min(!) so I took her to her room, closed the blinds, and just sat and rocked her. Well, after about 2 minutes she started getting fussy. I put her in her crib, and she wouldn't go to sleep. I nursed her, and she wouldn't go to sleep. I put her in her crib again, and she finally fell asleep. It's like she doesn't really give me any signs... Her eyes just look tired. She doesn't yawn, rub her eyes, etc until she's already cranky. And since it's happening so quickly, I feel like I can't just put her in her crib 20 minutes after I took her out! I do swaddle her - she can't sleep without it because she constantly wakes herself up. I try to give her the pacifier - sometimes she'll take it and sometimes she wants nothing to do with it. She eats every 3 hours (or sometimes more often) during the day, so I really don't think she's hungry at night. We cluster feed before bed too. I don't do a dream feed because it seems like as soon as she wakes up once, she'll continue to wake up after that. I'm pretty sure it's not a hunger thing anyway... She just can't seem to stay asleep! I'll keep trying this, but I just feel like it's not working. The shush pat really doesn't work... If it gets her to calm down (50/50) she just stares at me and sometimes starts smiling! Then if I walk away, she starts crying again. Am I just doing this all wrong??? I feel like such a moron. :(


Val - November 13

Jess, sorry you are having problems with dd's sleep... how did it go last night? Can you go back to letting dd nap in the swing? Our ds napped in there until about 4.5 months. Or will she nap on you? It's kind of a pain if you need to get stuff done, but maybe try it for a bit so that she stops being overtired? Or ds naps in a variety of places - playmats, quilt (he often lays on a quilt to have quiet time with a toy), but doesn't nap much in his crib except first thing in the morning. (He doesn't actually sleep in his crib at night - he sleeps next to us in a co-sleeper.) He will often play with a toy for a while and then finally fall asleep. But at 3 months, I think he was mainly napping in the swing, and only occasionally in the crib. At night, does your dd cry (really cry, with tears and all) every time she wakes up, or does she just fuss cry (kind of whimper)? Could she have some sort of reflux issue causing her to wake so often? You may want to check with your pediatrician. I feel for you... lack of sleep can really get you down...


squished - November 16

Our ds is just 5 months and he is also refusing to nap during the day. He's never been a long napper with his first nap being 30 mins, second nap 1.5-2 hours and then a third and fourth nap at 30-45 mins. This was working for him as he was never tired. WELL......he has decided that he won't take naps anymore. He will maybe sleep 2 hours during the day for almost 2 weeks now!! He does sleep pretty well at night with only getting up 2 times and back asleep very quickly. He should know when it's naptime b/c I will swaddle him, rock him with his soothie. But lately......NOTHING works!!! He's so tired by the end of the day. I don't know what else to do but maybe ride it out and keep trying, but it's about to kill me! And it's not good for him either.



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