Question About Significant Other

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amberC - February 6

first of all i do not pawn my daughter off on anyone. i do not go out and party all the time. it is only every once in a while. and far between. i am young but i am a great mom to my little girl. The main problem is if i want to settle or if i should. i am terrified of the marriage prospect. my daughter is my entire world and when i do go out i dont hang out with bad people. most of them have children to. i think it is mostly the fact that i am wiht other people. he tends to get jealous sometimes.


Mellissa - February 7

amberc, I don't think you're selfish at all for still wanting to hang out with your friends every now and then. And if your dd is well taken care of, that's all you need to worry about. If your bf is jealous of you hanging out with other people, then I definitely think you should put off getting married until you are both REALLY comfortable in your relationship. Marriage is a lifelong commitment (with exceptions, of course), and it's not something anyone should rush into. I believe that when you are ready to get married you will know 100% that it's right. My sister was with her bf for 8 years before they finally got married (after having 5 kids together). Sometimes it just takes people a little while to know that it's what they really want. Ya'll can be a family without getting married, and that's what your dd needs, a family.


Mellissa - February 7

p.s. it's different if the "friends" you are hanging out with are ex-boyfriends or something...then i think it's normal for him to be jealous. does he ever go out with you and your friends? just wondering. maybe if ya'll turn it into something you do together, it won't bother him so much. :)


LollyM - February 7

Hi amberC. I am 19 and my husband is 23. We didn't get married until I was 7 months pregnant and we did it because we love each other so much and wanted to get married because of that fact and not because it was "right" or anything like that. At first I was a little worried that we wouldn't make it because of our age, but then I realized that age doesn't matter when it comes to what you truly feel is right for you. If we go around expecting our marriage to fail for whatever reason, than it most certainly will. Personally, I expect my marriage to last forever and I take the commitment to my husband very seriously. If you truly love your byfriend AND feel ready to make the commitment to get married than go for it, but I would not advise getting married for your daughter. She doesn't care weather or not you have signed a doc_ment saying that you are married! She only cares that you and her father love her very much. I quit my partying when I got pregnant at 18 and it was the best thing I ever did. My priority is my family, even if I am still young, but that's me =) Good luck, and I hope to see more of you on this forum. It's tough to be a young mom and allot of ladies on here have been or are young moms.



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