SIL Babysitting Frustration

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Ginny - June 12

I know this isn't infant care, but I'm going crazy. My SIL's keep my 4 mo old for me while I work 4 days a week. One of them has had to cancel SEVERAL times(sometimes legitimate, sometimes not), causing me much hardship and loss of $, not to mention shakiness at work. In the 2 1/2 mo's I've been back, I have maybe worked 3 full four day weeks, and that's usually because my mother drove 2 hours to come watch my baby. Please don't take this the worng way, but my SIL has always been a SAHM and I don't think she understands the concept of what I lose in one days work ( I used up all my leave when I had the baby). The other one recently told me that she can't do it anymore because she's too worn out, because she works long hours and has an active 3 year old. She's the one who offered, actually begged me if she could babysit, so it's kind of odd that she's tired of it already. To make up for that, I'm going to have to drop a week day and pick up a Saturday - if my boss will let me, while dh watches baby, and that was one of the only days of the week that we get to do things together as a family. Well, dh just asked his sister if she could watch the baby one extra day this week because it's too late for me to pick up last Saturday. She said, "I'll think about it." I am so irritated!! If you don't want to do it just say so!! And she doesn't do it for free, we pay. Usually when I call, her 14 year old daughter is feeding or changing my baby, or walking her. She actually left my baby alone with her daughter without even telling me once. I've honestly thought about making the checks out to her instead of her mom. I am soooo frustrated!! The childcare facilities around here are really hard to get into and are so expensive it would almost negate my working altogether. I'm irritated that my only childcare option is flaky and untrustworthy!!! I have NO IDEA what to do about it. At least dh and I are on the same page, he's more frustrated than I am. Anybody have any advice AT ALL? AT ALL??


Sarahsmommy - June 12

Have you looked into a non-family home child care option? There are alot that are licensed by the state. You can get a list from your local Social Services office. They are usually pretty cheap, have a limited number of kids they can watch, and are usually pretty dependable. They can problem even let you talk to some of the moms they have or are babysitting for so you can get some ideas of if you think that would work for you.


Ginny - June 12

Thanks, Sarahsmommy. I hadn't thought of that. Now I've just got to figure out how to nicely fire my SIL.


Jamie - June 13

If you go with another in-home caregiver, chances are there will be other children, ie., perhaps another infant, or some toddlers, that the other caregiver also watches. You could just tell your SIL that you are changing careproviders so that your LO can have socialization with other small kids.



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