VENT On MIL Omg Can T Stand This Lady

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Amy_mommy - January 30

alright ladies, i think this would be a good website for me majorly vent about my mil. ii've never hated anyone as much as her! she lives w/ us to take care of our 9.5mths old dd. constantly, she keeps saying that when i pregnant, i didn't drink enough milk & her hair isn't healthy & her skin isn't as smooth as it should be. she blames everything on me. my dd doesn't eat much. maybe 20 oz of milk a day w/ only quarter bowl of cereal a day, & if i'm lucky, i could get her to have 2 jars of baby food a day. dd only drinks milk while sleeping & MIL blames me that I WAS THE ONE THAT MADE HER ONLY DRINK MILK WHILE ASLEEP! so, i'm doing harmful krap to my little one?"????????? she's such a bi*ch that i really wanna smack her & tape her mouth! i swear, she says that i don't clean & the house is a mess & it's harmful for the baby. she constantly tells me that "oh, when she took care of this baby, she did this & did that" oh well, i don't give a sh*t!!! everyone's different!. SHE'S THE ONE WHO HAS NO FU*KING PATIENCE AT ALL. when she's feeding baby solid, she use a pacifer so that each spoon goes to her mouth, she'll put a pacifer in her mouth so that it's faster & quicker for my dd to swollow. LISTEN, IF SHE KEEPS DOING THAT, my dd will NEVER learn how to chew her food well, learn how to swallow! she's still on stage 2 & haven't gotten to stage 3 becauuse MIL is lazy & diont' have the patience to feed her stage 3.!!!!!!!!!!!! selfish mother-fu*ker! I work full-time & get home around 6:30 at night & she says "are u going shopping after 5 everyday?" I'M LIKE WHAT THE HELL? MY WORK-PLACE IS BUSY, & I NEED TO STAY TIL 6:00 SO I CAN GET CAUGHT UP ON EVERYthing & STAY ON TOP OF EVERYTHING!

 

Amy_mommy - January 30

and yeah, last week, she called me around 5:00 at work to tell me that my dd fell & twisted her elbow, so I rushed home to see if everything's okay & each time when i touch her elbow she cries then rrushed her to the hospital & doctor found out her elbow was dislocated. ISN'T MIL SUPPOSED TO WATCH THE BABY? SHE SAID SHE WAS SLEEPING & HAD BABY IN HER HARDWOOD BED!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SHE HIT HER HEAD SO MANY TIMES ON THAT PEICE OF HARD WOOD BED! and get this, she said "when your husband was a baby, he always had a dislocated elbow & sometimes I would put it back together" OH MY LORD! i have headache everyday because of her! that's why, i'm going in to get my head a MRI & CAT SCAN!!!!!!!!

 

Shana B - January 30

Ok, so I don't know your entire situation but would it be easier for you to find a daycare for your daughter? I mean, I'd be stressed too. Are you paying your mil? Can your husband say anything to her? I agree with you about using the pacifier. That sounds a bit weird to me. Maybe when you get home, you could feed her baby food, the way YOU think she should be fed. I feel for ya.

 

Amy_mommy - January 30

i live in manhattan & the area around me only takes kids that are 3 years and older! yeah, i know,r right? we pay my mil $350/mth & on top of that, we buy her food she likes and everything she likes!

 

piratesmermaid - January 30

Kick her out! Talk to your dh, and convince her that she is harmful to your health because she sounds like she is! I know you need daycare so you can go to work, but is there a chance you could find someone else or take a short break while you search and save that 350?

 

Amy_mommy - January 30

okay, in the asian culture, it's tradition tht in laws live w/ son........so, we can't kick her out...... husband is on my side 100 % of time! and i know MIL hates that too

 

piratesmermaid - January 30

Don't pay her. And if she asks why, tell her you'll start paying her again when she learns how to watch your son properly, and see if you can't get someone else in to help for a while.

 

Amy_mommy - January 30

omg, i'm too nice to not pay her....and yeah, in my culture, she fu*king expects us to give her $8,000/year? i'm like, i dont even make taht much, well, i do,but u know what i mean.......... ughhhhhhhhhhh!!!!

 

piratesmermaid - January 30

I'm sorry, I dunno what else to suggest. :-( If I think of something else I'll let you know!

 

Rabbits07 - January 30

Sounds like a tough situation you are in. I've heard of people getting their babies to swallow food by putting the paci in their mouth after the food, but I agree that it's not a very healthy thing to do. As far as the dislocated elbow I have heard it called nursery elbow and it generally happens when baby is forcefully picked up and carried by their forearms instead of under the arms as they should be. I would be more concerned about this than the whole food thing....especially since your mil says that your dh had a dislocated elbow all the time as a baby. Not saying that she abused him or would knowingly abuse your dd, but some people do dumb things sometimes without realizing that it is causing harm. Are there no other sons in the family that your mil can live with? I would definitely have a good, long, FIRM talk with her if she is going to have to stay with you. I would let her know what my expectations were and that if she could not abide by it then she wasn't welcome to stay and take care of your dd. If your dh will not agree to have her move and she HAS to stay then would it be possible to stop giving her the $350 a month and hire someone else to come in and watch your dd while you work?

 

Amy_mommy - January 30

if i told her that, she gets upset & says thngs like "oh, u don't like the way i take care of your dd" we did have a firm talk before & she's just crazy & thinks things differently. my dh is the only son in the family so, she has to stay here........oh godddddddddddddd!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my dh is suspicious about this whole nursery elbow thing.....he's not saying she did it but u know what i mean.......???

 

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