Does Anyone Have Any Advice For Me

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Kim - July 15

I am 19 years old and have always had irregular periods, my doctor put me on the pill to try and regulate my periods when I was 15 and I have always had alot of pain from rupturing cysts, I have been on the pill faithfully (never missed a day) for 4 years now. In May I had no period didn't think too much of it since I am used to irregular periods, I went for my yearly pap-smear which came back abnormal my doctor made me an appointment in womens clinic to have an ultrasound June 6th, I only spotted in June around the time for my period. They didn't give me my ultrasound results. June 18th I started having pregnancy symptoms (Nausea,br___t tenderness,hungry all the time and frequent urination) June 23rd I took a home pregnancy test it was positive went to the doctor the next day had pregnancy test done positive also. July I had no period, July 6th had an ultrasound done the doctor said my sac was around 8 and a half weeks but he didn't find any fetus or heartbeat, he said it was likely I would miscarry, he made me an appoitment to come back for another ultrasound July 18th which is 4 more days. I am not having any signs of micarriage and it has been 1 week since my doctor seen me, I still have all pregnancy symptoms. Does anyone have any advice for me on this.


misty - July 15

well maybe you wont misscarry who knows i am sory but i realy cant give much advice accept stress only complicates things


KK - July 15

Hi Kim - First of all - any time you go to a doctor or clinic, make sure you ask questions and get the answers you need. Especially from an ultrasound. When there is a pregnancy - most doctors don't want to see you for an ultrasound until you are over 8 weeks because it may be too early to see anything. I went in for an ultrasound at 7 weeks and had the same prognosis from my doc "couldn't see anything", although there was fluid in my uterus indicating a pregnancy and I had all the symptoms. So he said to wait a couple of weeks and come back. Then he also gave me the option of having some blood tests to confirm that the fetus was growing and healthy. As I had had a prior successful pregancy - I was not worried, so I told the doc I would wait on the blood test and come back for another ultrasound later. As it turns out - I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, 4 days (it happened yesterday) - so I want to tell you EXACTLY what happened to me with this miscarriage and I hope it helps you. The MAJOR sign of miscarriage starts with heavy bleeding and the pa__sing of clots (looks like red jelly). As soon as you start to notice spotting - and I don't want to scare you - you should call your doctor immediately. While sometimes this may mean nothing - you will need professional rea__surance of what is actually happening. On monday - I had some clear mucus with brownish-red streaks, but no bleeding. On tuesday - it had turned pinkish brown, but still no bleeding. By tuesday night - I had started slightly spotting bright red blood. Wednesday am, I had stains on a pad when I woke up. I called my doc. I was told I could be having a period, then that the Doctor wanted to see me right away. As soon as I hung up the phone, I went into the bathroom, and a gush of blood and fluid started streaming out of my v____a. While I sat on the toilet, I could feel chunks of matter coming out. When I would wipe myself, I was wiping out large clots of red, jelly like matter. I soaked several pads in a course of 3 hours. When I got to the doctor, he confirmed my worse suspicion that I was having a miscarriage. The ultrasound showed only clots & fluid in my uterus. My pregnancy sympoms slowed prior to this happening - which I thought was normal because I was just coming to the end of my first trimester. If you are concerned at all about the normalcy of a growing fetus, ask your doctor to get blood tests done to see if the blood cells are multiplying. In retrospect, I wish I would have done this to a__sure me of a normal pregnancy, or to let me know earlier on that there was a problem. Finally - listen to your body and your symptoms. Do what your doctor advises. That he/she is having you come back soon for an ultrasound means that they want to confirm for you and the baby that your pregnancy is moving forward. A miscarriage is no fun. I hope it doesn't happen to you, but if it does, I hope you will be okay. Although it's still really early for you, it is easier now than it will be to miscarry later, although that doesn't make the situation more tolerable and there is still grief and sadness involved if there is a loss. One other tip I have for you is about your irregularity. I had always been irregular (due to my career as a professional ballerina). Through the help of an accupuncturist and prescribed herbs, my periods became regular and even practically pain free. Your might want to look into that. I wish the best for you. I will keep you in my prayers.


Kim - July 15

Thanks Misty for your reply


Kim - July 15

Thank you KK for the advice given and all the information also. Sorry about your miscarriage. I wish the best for you also


KK - July 15

Please let me know how your next ultrasound goes and what your doctor says. I'll be thinking of you and praying for you.


Kim - July 18

KK I went to my ultrasound today and it showed the gestational sac measuring 9 weeks with a yolk sac but still no fetus or heartbeat. My doctor scheduled me for a dnc Thursday the 21st. Part of me still thinks that maybe they are wrong on this, that if I just wait another week or so they will find a baby, It is really hard to accept this, and another part of me believes it is true and this must be God's plan for me. I had my blood drawn to check my hcg levels today but will find out tomorrow the results, they were 159,000 last week. Thank you for your concern for me and your prayers.


Shana - July 19

I had the same issue when I was 18 yrs old. I am now 31. Apparently my embrio fertilized and then quit. I kept growing as if I was 6 months pregnant. I ended up needing a D&C which is where they sc___p out and clean your utereus. Sometimes you can't miscarry on your own. That is when the doctors step in and perform the outpatient surgery.


KK - July 19

Dear Kim: Part of the reason I started getting on this site was to alleviate my grief from my miscarriage by trying to help others and giving encouragement, no matter how small the encouragement may be. I am really sad to hear about your ultrasound results. I totally and completely understand what you must be feeling and going through. I know how difficult this is, how hard it is to accept (especially if you are excited about having a baby). However your HCG levels sound really high compared to mine at 12 weeks (mine was only 19,000) and I had another blood test done last friday, but the dr. hasn't called me with the result. Maybe you should get a second opinion? That might help put your mind at ease if your gut is telling you that the dr. may be wrong. The other thing you might want to do is put off the D & C (if there is no baby) and wait to see if you will miscarry on your own (which will basically validate the end of whatever was growing). I did not have a D & C, nor did my dr. advise I get one (only if I wanted to, he said.). You could also continue to get blood tests every couple of days to see if the cells are multiplying - my dr. suggested this to me when at 7 weeks he couldn't see anything. But he also wasn't particularly worried, and neither was I. Kim - I would like to give you my email address so we could maybe communicate further about what you're going through. it's [email protected] Please continue to keep me posted - and by all means, go get a second opinion IF YOU HAVE ANY DOUBTS at all. What Shana was talking about is unfortunately really common. The egg fertilizes, but at some point, it stops growing because of a chromosomal abnormality or something, which would make life outside the womb difficult, if not impossible for the baby. Although the reality of this doesn't make a pregnancy loss any easier, it does offer a little bit of consolation. I will keep praying for you. If the results are not what you hoped, I just want us to have faith that we will BOTH get through this! What's really hard is to try and convince myself that "God's plan for us" would be to have us endure the heartache of a pregnancy loss. I also have a question for you Shana - maybe it will help both Kim and I to know how you were able to "let go" of the loss of the baby you never had? If you wouldn't mind sharing.



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