Just Had A Miscarriage At 15wks Need Answer

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melissaanna - March 5

My doctor appointment is not until 2wks, but I cannot stop wondering what went wrong....I am so sad, depressed, scared, and feel as though I am all alone right now. I didn't show any sign of complication until 6am when I notice that there was a little bit of blood when I wiped...so I went to the ER. They told me that it was a UTI and gave me some meds and sent me home. Around 12am the next morning I got out of bed and went to the washroom, but nothing happened...I sat there for a little while suddenly I felt some warm discharged...looked down and was relieve that I was not blood but 2 secs later the blood stared coming out...went to the ER again...this time I had lost My baby. Anyone in the 2nd trimester had had this problem? my girlfriend was telling me it could be from a weak cervix. could this mean that I am unable to have a baby in the future????...


tsmith6105 - March 5

First, I am REALLY sorry about your loss, I too just M/C last week and know what you are going through and how you feel. I know women from other forums with a weak cervix, but they do go on to have healthy pregnancies. If you need someone to talk to...email me. tsmith040182 at yahoo


melissaanna - March 5

Hi, It's nice to have someone to talk to about this. I lost my baby on Feb 27, 2007. I feel like I am at the lowest point in my life right now. I am trying to stay strong for my love ones, but it's when I am by myself that the pain is so unbearable. I think about my little baby all the time..."Angel". I don't know if it was a good thing or a bad thing to see the baby before making final arrangements, because the image of my little baby haunts me every single night since I came home from the hospital. The pain that I feel makes me not think straight...like two days ago I was organizing everything that was suppose to go into the sc___pe book...suddently I saw a fly on the window...and decided to let it go...but started crying because if I did the fly will die because of the cold...so I went into the kitchen to bring bread and started feeding it. thinkingin my head it's my baby saying goodbye to me...My boyfriend snap me out of it.... I think about ending my life a lot of times.....but haven't done anything yet... I have so many "Why"...and "what if" ....questions... I can't concentrate on school...am scared to go back to work...haven't been eating....and feel guilty of the thought of one day I will stop grieving for my little baby. I am terrified that I am unable to have kids in the future....I really don't know what went wrong....everything happened so so fast that its hard for me to comprehend. I never had any problem up until the 26 of feb.


JuJu - March 6

Hi Melissaanna- I am so sorry to hear of your miscarriage - it is a devestating experience and it'll take time to grieve. I lost two pregnancies last year in the later first trimester, and it was just.....well, devestating. I had my 2 m/c's very close together (without an af in between) so after the 2nd m/c I took several months off ttc, to allow myself time to heal emotionally, and physically. During this time, I found the 'pregnancy loss, miscarriage' forum on this site, and it was the absolute saviour for me at the time.....so amny women who had suffered similar experiences to myself. It was just so healing to be able to connect with other people who were also grieving their loss. I would definitely recommend that you pop into that forum too - you'll find great support there. I am now 36 weeks pregnant again, but I still visit the 'pregnancy loss' forum because there are quite a few women like myself, who are pregnant after miscarriage.....and after a m/c, pregnancy is never/rarely worry-free! Re: why you lost your pregnancy at 15 weeks - well, I would definitely speak to a speacialist, as it could be a number of things. If you do have a weak cervix, the good news is that it is a fixable situation for next time you are pregnant - it's called an 'incompetant cervix', and the docs give your cervix a 'cerclage' or st_tch to ensure that the baby is safe and sound. My mum had a cerclage for her last three pregnancies, and it worked well for her :) Anyway, I hope everything works out for you, good luck! JuJu


melissaanna - March 7

thanks JUju...hearing that your mother had three successful surgery..makes me feel more at ease. I am going to the doctor on the 22nd of march..I am so nervous. I am afraid that the doc will tell me that I am unable to have children in the future.... The doc that did the D&C on me was such a wonderful doctor....unlike my OB...who I had left a msg for right after the first visit to the ER..but didn't hear from her until 3 days after my m/c. I am doing a little bit better today...I am still grieving over the lost of my baby "ANGEL" I was at walmart yesterday buying baby's clothing, bottle, bibs, socks etc for my little baby....something that I would have done if the baby was still alive...but instead of having a baby to put all these things on..it all goes into a Box with the baby pictures that I had just picked up from the hospital. The pain that I have when picking out the outfits no words can describe it.....All through life I always have walls that are put up infront of me...I would go around it....(legally blind in one eye)...it's still there but learn to live with it...Climb over it (in an abusive four yr relationship)......this wall that is now placed infront of me...I have no strength to over come it.


Kiersten - March 7

Mel, I've never gone through what you've experienced, but I just wanted to try to encourage you. Everything happens for a reason. I know that no stranger's words can offer real comfort, but I hope that you'll know we're here for you. Let God fill that void right now. He will give you the strength you need. Keep talking about how you feel and don't ever feel like you have to keep everything bottled up, ok? Have you ever talked to a therapist about how you're feeling (with your past relationship and recent m/c)? I hope that the Lord blesses you with another pregnancy and that everything goes well. You can overcome this! Take JuJu's advice and check out some other women who've gone through this too. They'll be able to help more than clueless me! :) Best of luck to you and keep us posted on how you're doing!!!



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