Please Someone My Husband Is Leaving

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Beth - October 3

I cant seem to get things together. I just had a baby on September 24th. My husband came home for the delivery and leaves back to Iraq on friday. I cant stop crying all the time. I dont know if I am getting postpardom depression or if it's all normal. I need help so bad. I am wondering if I should call my doctor and ask if my feelings are normal. I am just sooo sad over everything. Not being pregnant anymore, my husband, having to take care of my baby by myself, and I also feel so ignored now that I had the baby. I know it seems so selfish but I miss all the attention of being pregnant. Everything is just making me extremely sad. What should I do? Please tell me if I should talk to my doctor or wait it all out?


Fabienne - October 3

Hi Beth - If I were you I would talk to my doctor - that might help. I'm so sorry that your husband has to leave for Iraq...that must be though. Do you have friends who could give you support ? Which state are you in?


Tara - October 3

Beth, sorry that you are so sad. Part of what you are going through is definitely related to just having a baby and all the other stresses going on. I think you should talk to a dr. with all that's going on. I myself take Zoloft because of depression, I even took it pregnant, and it made a HUGE impact on me after the baby was born. He was my second, and it wasn't as traumatic as after my daughter was born. There is just so much going on I think it probably is normal, but just to be on the safe side, see your dr. right away! Best wishes and please tell your husband "Thanks for his service" it is greatly appreciated.


beth - October 3

Fabienne I do have a couple friends that will support me. I did end up calling the doctor and they set me up to see a mental health person on wednesday. I live in California by the way. Thanks for your input on stuff.


Fabienne - October 4

Good - glad to hear things are moving - hey - I'm in California too :) Keep us posted Beth - I'd like to hear how you're doing.


lil - October 4

beth i'm sorry to hear what you are going through i hope things get better for you i know how you feel when i had my first baby i had a horrible depression and it all started when my grandma had to go back to her country and also my relationship was not good at all my husband was cheating on me and i found out and i wanted to die, but god never gives you more than you can handle so hand in there talk to everyone about how you feel it helps. ill have you in my prayers. what you are feeling is exactly the way i was feeling so you are not the only one.


beth - October 5

lil, thanks alot. it makes me feel better knowing that there are other people out there that have felt this way and have gotten through it. It just seems like there is no happy ending and thats the hard part. I know things will be okay one day but the time it takes to be okay is the hard part. Thank You again!


Kayla - October 31

I am 5 months pregnant and my husband will be leaving for Iraq at the end of November. I'm so scared of going through my pregnancy alone and that I will fall into a depression. Keep me posted on how you deal with everything, so that I know the steps that I should take if and when I go through it. May God keep our husbands safe.


JJ - November 13

Saying a little prayer for all of the men and women in Iraq, especially the moomies and daddies!


shelby - November 28

Sorry to hear you are going to be doing it on your own. It's really hard I found for the first month, adjusting to the baby, lack of sleep, being sore and dealing with raging horomones. . I would talk to you doctor, it sounds like you are depressed. I had ppd diagnosed in my 4th month postpartum. I just felt drained, so sad and absolutley furious all the time (my partner got the tail end of it). I had to go on antidepressants, and boy did they help. Things are a million time better. If anyone offers to help, take it.


deza1 - January 13

Hi, Beth. I kind of know what you are going through. My husband didn't leave to Iraq, but my brother did and I have been there for his wife during this time. I know you are feeling sad and lonely but trust me,he is probably feeling just as bad if not worst. I know it's hard but you have to pull yourself together...first for your baby and then for your husband. If your husband knows you are feeling this way it's just going to make him feel so bad for leaving you and the baby...but unfortunately it's part of his job. Stay positive, you don't want your husband sad and depressed over there..he should maintain a positive outlook on things and so should you. Good Luck to you and your family!!


Bobbi - February 8

Hey Beth, I dont have an answer to try to help you. I do want you to know that you are not alone. My husband was deployed to Iraq at the end of November 2005 when I was 5 months pregnant. It is really hard, and my heart goes out to you. Be strong.


Kosita426 - March 9

Hi I am a pregnant military wife too. I am due in 7 weeks and my husband won't be here for any of it, so I understand your pain. It's been so hard dealing with this and I feel like no one understands. I was wondering how you are making it through all this?


babs - March 10

thanks president bush for ruining your lives. sad,


numba1cutie6t9 - March 25

beth. im 8 months pregnant now and my husbands also in iraq. hes supposed to be home for the birth but then gone for 6 months after. I know what your going through to an extent. Im really worried about post pardom depression to ur doctor. Im hoping I can get put on some anti depressents if it gets bad enough. I have to be able to be happy for my little boy


numba1cutie6t9 - March 25

wow i just realized how old this post was. How is everyone handling things now? DId they get better as time went on?



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