Anyone Else Waiting For First Af After Miscarriage

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Jess - January 26

Hi all, it will be 4 weeks tomorrow since I lost my baby at 17 weeks. I am waiting for my first af to tell me if I can start trying again or if by chance I am pregnant again. Anyone else out there playing the waiting game as well?


Patreasa - January 26

Hi Jess. I lost my daughter at 22 weeks pregnant 4 weeks ago as well. I am waiting for AF to come, but hopefully, it won't. I think maybe I ovulated, but i'm not sure. I know I had the fertile CM and a positive ovulation test, but after a pregnancy loss, that really doesn't mean much since the body is so messed up hormonal wise. i hate playing the waiting game...


Jess - January 26

Thanks for responding Patreasa. I'm so sorry for the loss of your little baby, and that you have to be going through this as well. Yes, the waiting is very hard. I had fertile mucous from about the 14th through the 17th, since then there has been no trace of mucous. I did not use ovulation tests this time around, so I just don't know. But like you said, the body and hormones are crazy right now, so it could be another few weeks even before af comes, I guess, based on some of the things I have read. Anywhere from 4 - 8 weeks my doctor said. I did take a hpt 12 days after my d&e and it was negative, so I'm a__suming my hcg was declining. I have no period like symptoms right now though. The waiting is difficult - it is nice to talk to someone who is going through this too. Please keep in touch. Best of luck to you...


Meena - January 26

Hello Jess.Sorry to read about your loss.I had a miscarriage 2 weeks back.I have 2 more weeks togo and start worrying about af.But I am already counting as each day pa__ses by.Just praying and hoping that I have a normal cycle this time.Also currently working on weightloss /diet and exercise to get in somewhat bettershape.Cant wait to try again.Good luck to u.


AshleyB - January 26

Hi Jess, tomorrow will be 4wks since my d&c as well. I had ewcm from the 16-18 and now I'm having aches in my pelvis and peeing alot. I don't have a clue. Maybe AF's coming, or maybe I'm pg again. I'm in the waiting game too. I finally had a - hpt yesterday. I took one every week since and they were all + until yesterday. So my body could just be doing weird things because of the levels dropping too. So frustrating isn't it? Did you start ttc again right away too? We pretty much did. My head wanted to wait until after one AF but my heart wanted to try again asap, (my heart usually wins battles like these.) Good Luck.


Jess - January 26

Hi Meena and AshleyB, sorry to hear you both are also playing this awful waiting game. Sometimes the 4 weeks seems like it flew by, then other times it seems like years have pa__sed since my miscarriage. But every day is a new day, right? Ashley, we weren't technically "trying" but we did have unprotected s_x (withdrawl, sorry if TMI) starting about 2 weeks ago, so I doubt I will be pregnant this time around, but I guess you never know. After af arrives, we will be ready to start trying again. My husband was too nervous to see me go through this again, should we get pregnant so soon and lose another one. But I guess that's a chance you take, there is nothing you can do to prevent this from happening again, so you are right, it is best to listen to your heart. And Meena - I too am trying to be as healthy as I can be to do whatever I can to improve the next ones chances. Good luck to both of you, I'll keep you posted on any updates with me...


Sara - January 26

I'm also in the same boat. Had my d & c 16 days ago and just waiting for something to happen with my seems like time is going so slow. Hopefully we'll all be blessed with a healthy baby soon. Good luck!


gemini_star1983 - January 27

hello jess, i had a mc 4 weeks ago and am waiting for my af to show up or not *fingers crossed*. did you ttc straight away like me? keep in touch and take care Marie.


gemini_star1983 - January 27

ASHLEY B: hello, i mc 4 weeks ago and it seems i have the same symptoms as you! i have an achy pelvis-right side and i cant stop peeing also tmi?! i ttc 2 weeks after waiting it out too-dont know whether to take a test in 2 or 4 weeks depending on whether af shows face. i wanted to wait also but i just cant-its so hard.good luck and keep me posted.take care .Marie


Gini - January 27

Ladies, it is so strange. I had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago and I sit here reading all your symptoms and it's like I've written all of what you have put. Meena like you I am exercising and trying to get in shape as it gives me something to focus on. I am also getting a dull ache/pain in my right side this morning seems to be common with us all. I have taken a test yesterday morning and still got a faint line. I've tested weekly since I had my D&C and lines each time are getting fainter. I am now playing the waiting game and anticipating my AF next week although I don't want it to arrive if I'm not pregnant again I'd rather it come now rather than later. I think we should all keep each updated with our progress as it gives us hope and something to look forward to. Take care


gemini_star1983 - January 27

hello ladies, i am going to start a new post for us all so as we can keep in contact with eachother! i'll t_tle it 'the waiting game'. please keep in touch ladies right now you are all i have. take care baby dust. Marie



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