Childless And Lonely Help

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Lanie - May 7

About 6 months ago I had a miscarriage. It was a very difficult and confusing time. I was only about four weeks along and I was already attatched. I am 18. I had yet to tell my family and my room mates were not supportive at all. I felt alone but loved my boyfriend and had decided to keep my child, regardless. When I miscarried, it was very difficult, and soon after, my boyfriend and I separated. Now, 6 months later, I wish I was big and round and buying baby clothes and all that stuff. I want a baby so bad and I'm so alone. I don't get why I feel so sad or why I want a baby so bad still, do I need to seek professional help?? I mean, I'm only 18! HELP!

 

karen goode - May 8

I am very sorry for your loss. I think you should consider to see a therapist. I am a social worker but i don't want to provide you with any medical advice b/c i don't know you or your whole story. If you are contiplating therapy then listen to your inner voice and seek someone out. Good luck to you.

 

SaraH - May 12

Lanie, while some feelings of lonlyness and longing for your child are normal, if your still feeling as badly as it sounds, than I agree with Karen -it's probably time to consider seeing someone who can help you through this.

 

BrendaW - May 12

Lanie- I am very sorry that you lost your baby. I have had at least 6 early pregnancy miscarriages and how you are feeling is normal for a women that has lost her baby. I still feel that way. I was 19 with my first one. The last one was a year and a half ago. (I am 28 now) Me and my sis were about a week or so apart in our pregnancies. I lost it at about 5 weeks and through her whole pregnancy and now watching my nephew grow I a__sociate it all with where my baby would have been at. Like seeing a "ghost baby" playing next to him. It doesn't make me love my nephew less but more. My baby would be turning a year this month. Lossing a baby is a hard thing to deal with and it is still recent for you. It is going to be hard. I think the split with bf probably increased your feeling of lonliness and sadness too. I think this is a good sight for you to be on to be able to talk with other women that have experienced the same thing as you. You will have your good days and your not so good days. Try to stay focused on getting your life going and hopefully everything will fall into place and you can be a mommy.

 

BrendaW - May 12

I have to say to that losing a baby changes you in a way. That baby is always with you, in the back of your head. Taking it's first step in your imagination, holding your hand in your dreams. And that's okay, but you need to enjoy your life too and go forward. And if you need to talk, there a lot of wonderful ladies that are here on this forum for support, including me :)

 

mommydaddy - May 15

I am also a Person that I dont think life can get any worsen with 5 Miscarriage, Still born, Ivfs, and failed adoption.I just want to be a mom if any one ever hear of any one that is going to choose to adopt please email us at [email protected]

 

BrendaW - May 15

mommydaddy- do you know why you had these m/c's?

 

mommydaddy - May 15

Brenda, They they say between High Blood Pressure *toxic that was a factor but I just start to bleed every time and its called something and I can not think of what they said.

 

BrendaW - May 15

I am very sorry to hear that, there is nothing to be done about it?

 

frankschick2001 - May 17

Losing a pregnancy is hard at any age, but take some consolation in the fact that you have time on your side. You are very young. Also, could you be still upset over all of it because soon after the m/c your relationship with your bf ended? It's a lot to lose in a short time.

 

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