IN YOUR 30 S AND TTC PART 7

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NVgirl - May 17

Just thought "IN YOUR 30'S AND TTC -- PART 6" was taking too long to upload so I decided to create "PART 5" of course... with a little nudge! Hope you can join in on chats we have going on in this thread!

 

NVgirl - May 17

I went to the Throat doc today. He is hob knobbing with my OBGYN... they were on the phone together while I was there. "They" decided that I will start taking Prevacid first to see if it is acid reflux causing my throat problem. But cannot start taking it until I go see my OBGYN until June 6th. AGH... that is 3 weeks! But they basically want to wait until I am at least in my 2nd trimester (i.e. 13 weeks).. so that is 3 weeks from now. Then I go back to the throat doc on June 26th to see if the Prevacid is working. If it isn't then they will have to do the scope... but if it is then I don't have to do the scope. MINDY: Not sure if that is symptoms from your meds or your body adjusting. So if you are 4dpo... did you BD? Or you just tracking? SUE: You in the 2ww? And come Friday you'll be on Holiday for a week? AALICE: So when will you be programming your new monitor and start using it? Looks like Saturday thru Sunday DH & I will be having some friends over. I kinda made a boo boo. They asked if we are doing anything this weekend and I said no... not looking at the calendar. My friend in Tahoe is having a wedding reception bbq on Saturday that I completly spaced out on. She got married back in March -- but is having the reception this Saturday. DH hates going to wedding functions -- most of the time I go stag -- but actually I am not really up for doing the wedding thing either... so what kind of excuse can I give??? I also have to say that I am getting anxious --- I was due the week of May 29th and I didn't think it would bother me since I got pregnant, but it is bugging me. I have been getting free stuff in the mail... like today a couple of cans of powdered formula saying any day now you'll be bring home baby... and receiving e-mails with coupons and stuff. I cannot help to think that those 9 months flew by so fast. But I have to think positively and say I am due December 7th with a healthy baby… but it is so hard. Hope everyone is doing good. The weather is turning. Looks quite stormy out the window. I should stop typing before this becomes too long and boring. Until next time…

 

aalice - May 18

Hey, so I set the monitor thingy on the first day of af and it's counting days now, the first day it asks to test is cd6, so I'll see if it works,that's Friday... Then in order to conserve on wasting tests, I'll probably wait another week until I start testing for o' last time on was on cd23, so I'll wait for cm signs... And MO: I totally get more cramps now. The beginning of af this time I woke up the first day with cramps in the midle of the night, and it was lot like the mc cramps I had, and i didn't really have that before. I also notice more cramping around o too. The prog cream seems to ease the cramps for me, so I'd guess the cramps are more normal adjustment rather than a symptom, you were saying you had them before to. MI: Stay positive, it's always crazy to ride through the emotions that come with getting what you want... you will be happy, really.. :) Hopefully the throat thing is just reflux, even though that's no fun.. SUE: We'll be waiting to hear your results :) So where are you off to again? I can't seem to remember, sigh...

 

Suebee - May 18

Mi...acid reflux.. yuck... I had that about a year ago. They put me on nexium, but that didn't work and then prevacet (sp) and that seemed to help alot. I still take that occasionally. Anyway, I hope it's nothing serious and that they can give you something that'll help. Yep, I'm in the 2ww.. a day behind MO..and yep, I'll be away for a week... AA... I have a cottage that I own with my sister. It's in Sauble Beach, Ontario.. Canada of course. The beach is incredible! 7 miles.. white sand, good swimming, albeit cold! It's on Lake Huron!. Dh and I (and benjamin) leave tomorrow night and my sis and dad leave Sat morn... Dh has to come back on Monday though :( So the thingie asks you to test on cd6? Wow, that seems kinda early? Humm, interesting. So, I guess you're in a waiting portion to eh? All the waiting!!! arghh... MO... how are U? DE.. miss ya! Cheers gals!

 

aalice - May 18

SUE: Have fun on your trip, sounds like a blast. I'm planning for DH and I to go to Carmel which is right on the ocean in June for our anniversary :) I've always wanted to buy a cottage or something, but we can never decide where, we start debating between ocean and forest and we just never figure it out.... Yeah day 6 is early, but I guess it's supposed to learn your cycles, so I think it only does that the first round, guess they want to play it safe, since there are people out there that do o' on cd 6, then there's me with cd 23 so go figure... Well we'll be waiting for you and MO to test , how exciting! :) The waiting was driving me nuts before, but now it's been around so much it's like a dull nagging I'm getting better at ignoring, or at least that's what I'm telling myself these days... Until I totally lose it from waiting... Anyway, it's good that you will have much to distract you from waiting, inhale lots of the great ocean air for me :) It's going to be quiet on here this weekend with you and DE gone...

 

aalice - May 18

Oh and on a gardening note, I harvested a strawberry last weekend and it was very good :) The tomatoes are flowering here and so is my pomegranite tree, oh and the citrus too... Very exciting... :)

 

Morrison1 - May 19

Hey gals! I can not seem to get to the computer these days. A friend of mine was laid off today, so I spent the evening with her, work has been crazy and I haven't been sleeping too well, so everything feels "off", if you know what I mean. So, the cramps have gotten better - I am a__suming it was ovulation related. Weird how our bodies change. So, AL...you have noticed a difference, too, eh? Carmel sounds great. Spent lots of time there as a kid, and always loved it. One of my parent's favorite spots for sure. Hope you and DH can make it. And, send me some fresh berries, would ya??? I miss that fresh FRESH stuff you can get out there. It's one reason I LOVE to go see my parents. I agree about that test. Many of the ones I looked up said you start on day 8...which is also pretty early, but I would guess it has everything to do with people learning their cycle. SUE...have a great weekend. I guess when you are back, we'll be testing. I don't know about you, but I definitely don't feel as anxious this time as I have in the past...I can't say why for sure. I kind of feel it will happen when it's right and I have to trust it will be OK. Haven't much thought about testing, but last time, I was on the PRECIPICE of sanity for sure. I hope you are doing well, too. Like AL said, it's getting duller these days cause we've been at it so long. I This break should be awesome for you. A little beach, some relaxation. NV - sorry about the reflux. DH gets that. I have tummy issues, but never much reflux. Hear it's awful. I do hope, after all this, that it does happen to be something that is easily fixed and nothing that needs surgery, you know? Does maalox ease it up at all? I know that's safe. I understand what you are feeling. I will have to get through October 14th and then December 25th. It's sort of a bummer to me that I will always remember I m/c a baby that was due on x-mas...but I can't let it get me down. I swear, sometimes just opening the Pregnancy Loss forum depresses me. If it weren't for you girls, I might not visit much, but that is mostly because I feel so strongly that I have to think positive and get strong and have faith and there seem to be so many people here that can't get over their sorrow. I mean, I get it...but you just can't let sadness rule you that way. There has to be some perspective to this...right? Am I being cold? I don't mean to sound that way...I probably do...lack of sleep. Anyway, you girls are great and I am happy you are all doing so well and staying so positive. We all have fears, but you are keeping them in check. Michele, everything is going to be fine...you are pa__sing milestones everyday, so remember everyday to celebrate that, in spite of your fears. Ok..off to bed. Sue, if you get this, have a great week. We'll miss you. It's already too d__n quiet. I hope DE is enjoying herself...leaving us alone like this...the brat. Lol.

 

Morrison1 - May 19

Oy vey. This progesterone is throwing off my temps a bit. Al, you finding that too? And I wish I wouldn't feel so crampy. It comes and goes, but I am 6dpo and feel slight crampy kinda sensations in the lower middle of my abdomen. I never have had that kinda thing before that I can remember. Now...there IS a possibility I am 9dpo as my temps were so screwy this last month and so was my sleep. FF says I o'd on cd19, but I thought I o'd on cd17...so if I did, then I could be getting ready for af. Anyway...weird. I still feel a bit like storm troopers took over my body in Feb., are holding it hostage, and won't give it back. I won't ask SUE or DE how they are doing but what are YOU two girls up to? Did you have fresh berries for breakfast AL? NV, how are you feeling today? Did you get out of your reception?

 

NVgirl - May 19

Welp today is a yucky day... it is thundering outside and is to rain today and 50% rain tomorrow... that will suck since I need to plant my seedlings and was planing on doing that tomorrow. I think I am gonna play the sick card tomorrow to get out of the wedding reception... In truth... Some foods turn me off and especially BBQ right now so I doubt I'd be able to eat the food at the reception anyhow. I have only been taking 1 nausea med a day this week and it seems to be ok. This is a nice stepping stone to possibly getting off the meds eventually. My only down fall is I just seem to be tired all the time, though. I just don't want to get up in the morning. Next week I will probably be in Carson City at a clients all week so not sure if I will be able to write in then... and since I have guests all weekend, not sure I'll even be able to write in then either. Busy, busy, busy I tell ya! MINDY, AALICE: thanks for the kind words and encouragement... it is always appreciated! SUE: have a great week at the cottage! Will check in later and see if there is anything new. Until then...

 

aalice - May 19

Hey there. So my monitor thing worked! I did a test this morning and it said not fertile, big surprise. But it took the test and worked fine. :) Though it is really odd in the instructions that if you pee on the stick you should hold it in stream for 3 seconds, but if you collect and dip, you should hold it in there for 15 seconds, doesn't that seem kinda odd? On all the preg tests they say the same amount of time if you collect or pee directly on the stick... Just a random observation. I've taken to collecting, it is just easier for me rather then trying to aim and such... MO: I've just kinda sporadically started taking temps at the end of last cycle and the begining of this one, just to see if I could actually get myself to consistently do it. But I've read, I noticed in general that the progesterone made me warm and they say that it 's the hormone responsible for the temp climb after o' so I figure that would mean it would affect temps. But even on the cream I got a big temp drop the day before af last time. And I keep trying to sign up for ff, but the first time I never got a confirm e-mail and when I wrote their help, I never heard back, so I've kinda given up on them, is there any other free sites anyone uses? You know, I get all sorts of weird cramp things, especially between o' and af now, like the weird stretchy cramps and some poking ones, and I either never got them before, or just never noticed. Really quite frustrating since I still cant make clear symptoms of normal af that have changed now, with symptoms I noticed with pregnancy. The only one that I had last time that I haven't had at all in subsequent af's was waking up in the middle of the night starving and not being able to go back to sleep until I ate. But who knows it may happen next time and still not be a sign... As they say, each one is different. And no fresh berries for breakfast, we only have one strawberry plant, lol, so it's a berry here and there as a treat, but now that I know they do so well in that spot, I will probably cram some more in there, but our yard is quite small, so space is a high commodity. Though I just cheat and go to the local fruit stand and get some... Also we just restained our deck, so I can't even get to them if I wanted too... But I think I'll put some socks on when I get home and sneak over there.... :) And I totally agree about staying positive. Because ultimately how we chose to handle these events and our lives in general is a choice, emotions happen, and we'll have good days and bad days, but the choice of keeping our minds positive and not succ_mbing to drowning in the unhappy is a choice. Part of that is acknowledgin and understanding the unhappy, but ultimately releasing it and getting stronger from it. I think we all do this every day which is why I love this thread, but I know what you mean by other people not letting go and dwelling in the worst of things, after awhile it's just a "don't need the energy drain" to even hear about it. And I totally get the christmas thing, my m/c was right after christmas, we found out before and were debating on telling our families just because it would have been a great christmas gift, but we decided against it, and I'm glad we did, but man that was a tough time, and I'm sure that that time of year will probably have some quiet reflective moments, but hopefully it can be turned into a way to truly appreciate the family and the love we have, versus dwelling to much on what was lost. NV: Sometimes large events like wedding receptions are hecka draining on me... Excuse wise you got all sorts right, stomach acid reflux issues or just the plain not feeling well, totally exhausted... Anniversary dates always seem the hardest, I normally try to do something nice for myself at that time, something to acknowledge how I feel, so I can understand and release it, though it is very hard... Wow almost at 2nd trimester, that is crazy how time flys. Keep in mind too, emotionally, that your brain is going to be coming down from being afraid and worried for so long, that it's gonna go through all sorts of stuff settling into a more calm place. Ok this is getting hecka long, so I'll sign off for now... <<positive thoughts, sticky baby dust and all such stuff>>

 

aalice - May 19

Damn that got long, hows that for adding some noise around here MO :)

 

deltabwa - May 20

IM HOOOOOOOMEEEEE :-) Hiya girls. Im home but wont be able to write much until wed after they are gone. ohh its so good to be home. im really not very fond of my step-father. after being on the road with him for 4 days, stuck in the car everyday, i dont know how she puts up with him. and the way she acts i think she thinks the same thing. oh well.... just glad to be back. tomorrow is the rest of the branding and the graduation and im taking the family to supper so i wont be around at all i dont think, and monday i dont know, dh works and i dunno what im gonna do to keep them outta my hair, and tues we go back to billings to take them to the airport. ughh what a trip i wont even bore you with. anyway.... NV - im sorry you are getting down about things. i wish i had magic words to make it better. and sure hope the meds work. praying for that! AA - glad that machine is finally working, id be excited just to use it lol course i love to POAS lol MO - i think if ya started the prog at O day, (and i also think cd17) than you should still be able to watch your temps and they should still be affective. your chart doesnt seem higher than usual.... and weird feelings 9dpo could be a good thing. SUE - having fun? i came home and checked charts and there wasnt anything to check for you :-( waaaaa lol

 

Morrison1 - May 22

Heya gals. AL - I am having my morning fruit and yogurt and my strawberries SUCK. I don't know why...they are all red and pretty, but they are kinda hard. Anyway...the raspberries and banana and blueberries are good....so I can deal. What I wouldn't do for a big bad of fruit and veggies from CA. Ahhhhhhhh. Indeed. My parents are coming in late June, so they'll bring something. Can't wait. Sooooo glad to hear that d__n test is working. After all you have been through with it, it must be quite the relief. I actually don't mind poas either...kinda fun. However, the one thing I hate is when I am ready to poas, but then realize that I don't have to go bad enough that I can keep it in a stream that long. And there is always a risk that the aim will be off a hair. Anywho...something to be said for doing it in a cup. Weird that you ran into such trouble with FF. There was one other one that I tried called mymonthlycycles.com that I liked OK. I didn't stick with it because I was already doing FF and it was double work, but check that one out. And yeah...you and I are on the same page with the succombing to grief thing. I would never suggest that I have any kind of right to tell someone how long to greive something, but the reality here - at least for me - is that I can't let it destroy me. These little fetuses were OURS...but I guess there has to be some perspective to it. At least in my mind. DE - Sue is outta town, so you won't see much action on her FF. I forgot to temp yesterday...we were in a rush to get up and get a few things done before DH had to be somewhere. Anyway, today my temp is still up. So, FF has me at 9dpo but I could be at 11 dpo depending. If I did o on CD17, like you say, then there really isn't any way I could be pg. If I o'd on cd19, then there is. Either way, my luteal phase is a little longer this time, which is good - but must be an effect of the progesterone...who knows? My temps have been pretty normal, so I wouldn't say they LOOK higher, but I tend to feel hotter anyway. Anyway, DE, sorry to hear about the whole brewhaha with the in-laws. Must be tiring. How did yesterday go at least? Was it fun? NV...hope you had a good weekend and got some r&r in.

 

aalice - May 22

DE: Welcome back! MO: I'll check out the other page. I've kinda been putting off regularly temping because I knew it'd cause an issue with DH. I started it on and off after o' last time to see if it would help with predicting if af was coming etc... and finally this weekend, and I totally knew this was coming, I got the "your obsessing" lecture, though it was added on with I know this is how your coping, but, part. Then I got the, I just want it to be a no stress thing where we are just "surprised". I said, I'd like that to, except something in my head has changed and I can tell you know, just acting like nothing is going on and "hoping" it's gonna happen is just not humanly possible for me anymore. So we've pretty much agreed that I won't given him any more details than we must try now and yes or no. Sigh. Boys just deal with things so differently then us. I suppose that's what I get for talking to him more about the details of things, it's just hard, I think I would have gone crazy without you guys, my friends are just at such different points in their lives, and it's such a private thing that I'm not going to talk to casual friends about it, I'm just not like that. Oh and as a random thing, af was only 4 days this time, I've like never been only 4 days, I'm normally 5-7 days. So I thought that was weird... NV: Did you get out of the wedding reception thingy? Hope your weekend went well... It rained here, so I got to bail on yard work and watch Tivo to procrastinate from cleaning...

 

deltabwa - May 22

MO - yeah i know she's outta town but figured she'd read when she got back. and I was doing that mymonthlycycles site as well but unless you have the paid subscription, it doesnt calculate O days or anything like that so i stopped using it. from all the ones ive checked out, and ive check alot, FF was the best, IMO. and it wasnt In laws, but my mohter and step father. they are still here and dh said today, i ahte to say they've worn out their welcome but.... i cant get into details now of what the step father did to DS's girlfriend yesterday at the grad dinner but will tell tomorrow and lets just say.. i was freaked when i heard what he did and she was also freaked i want him out. maybe im over reacting... but i am not leaving DD alone with him at all and watching him like a hawk when he is near her.

 

Morrison1 - May 22

Yeah, I don't think they have a computer up at their cottage - I vaguely remember Sue mentioning that at one time. Anyway...do tell your story when you have a chance. We're very curious. AL - I like FF the best, too. Sorry. What do you think the issue was with trying to load it?

 

Morrison1 - May 22

awww, cripes. I was screwing around with my chart and changed the temp on the wrong day and now it's all jacked up. Luckily gave Jeff a copy of my chart last Tuesday, so should be able to find the right temps and re-chart them. But...DE...if you are stalking, my chart's not right. Rats.

 

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